The Dating Digital Podcast
By Joel Duggan
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Dating Digital Podcast 028: “Sharp Shards Drop The Ball” | 2012 is here. If you're no stranger to online dating you've probably already noticed a whole bunch of new people signing up for online dating. We'll give you the skinny on what to expect. If you happen to be one of those people, this episode is for you... | 1/7/12 | Free | View In iTunes |
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Dating Digital Podcast 027: “Holiday Dating, Oh Joy” | The holidays are back! It's that time of year were the dating world is divided in to those of us who are in relationships and those of us who are not. Unless of course you're in holiday dating limbo. If you're heading into the holidays arm in arm or standing hopeful under the mistletoe this episode is for you! We think the holidays are the most romantic time of year. Our email section explodes this week with not one, not two , but three stories of people finding love online. Thanks to everyone who sent us their story. Our next episode will hit the Internet in early January, a time of year where many people are making promises to themselves to get out there and try new things. We thought it would be a good time to get back to basics and fill you in on how to get started in online dating. If you're new to the whole online dating scene and have questions or want us to give you some tips on your profile, drop us a line! | 12/3/11 | Free | View In iTunes |
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Dating Digital Podcast 026: “Liar Liar Pants On Fire.” | The DDP dating-port. You will never find a more wretched hive of scum and villainy. OK, that may be a bit overboard, but this week on DDP we're talking about those people who are less than truthful on their online dating profiles. The guys that want you to think they are far nicer than they really are. The girls that just fishing for compliments and have no intention of actually meeting you in person. And of course, fake profiles, liars and cheaters. Sometimes the deception is less drastic, and sometimes even unintentional. We cover it all. Looking ahead to episode 27, the holidays are once again on our doorstep. We've covered dating over the holidays on DDP before. This year we're hoping to have a lot of listener-driven content. So, send in those emails! The Dating Digital Podcast Show Notes Episode No.: 026 Episode Title: Liar Liar Pants On Fire Recorded: Tuesday, November 8, 2011 Show Sponsor: StarcrossedOnline.com Podcast Summary If you happen to be new to our show, the Dating Digital Podcast or DDP for short is a show where we talk about dating, online dating, and the role social media plays in relationships these days. Even if you didn’t meet on the Internet, the digital world plays a huge role in the way we communicate and the way we date. Episode Topic Fakes, Liars, Scum and Villainy. Links, Online Interest & Articles Tineye.com Check the meta data attached to a photo to see if it’s fake. Some online dating is all well and good until your number comes up by Josey Vogels EMAIL ---------- Danny from Texas writes: Hey Laura and Joel, I recently broke off a 3 year relationship (bad terms, cheater). I right away went to Plenty of Fish. I am turned off by just about every girl on there. Do you think its too early? Does the fact that 3 years of my love life went into this and all my tastes and expectations are almost impossible to meet? I am very optimistic so I have no doubt that I will get over her eventually and I will continue living my life to the fullest. I used to play the date doctor back in high school. I was "Hitch" before the movie. I know all the dating secrets and rules. However as "Hitch" did in the movie, when it comes to me, I am lost. All the relationships I have had in the past have been accidents. Some advice I give is "You always find love when you stop looking for it." And so far it has been true. So help a fellow pro dater out. Did i just get a bad taste of digital dating? Should i stick with it? Should I stop looking even I'm in desperate need to fill this void? Not being in the dating scene for 3 years can throw someone off their senses pretty bad. Thanks for the advice. Danny from Texas ---------- NEXT EPISODE Holiday dating is back... Yay? We’ve covered holiday dating on DDP before. As a matter of fact, it was one of Laura’s guest spots before she came on board full time. This time we want to have more listener driven content. We want to know what you think about being single, dating and relationship situations around the holidays. So, send us those emails! Episode No. 27 might be a live show. So, we can take live Tweets, and have a chat room going. iTunes Reviews Subscribe to The Dating Digital Podcast on iTunes! One of the best ways for our podcast to reach new listeners is via the reviews in the iTunes Store. If you like the show, give us a rating and leave us a review and we might share your thoughts on the next episode. Just like... braska698 Awesome podcast keep up the good work! Contact DDP Email datingdigital@gmail.com Twitter @ddpodcast Facebook facebook.com/datingdigital Google+ “The Dating Digital Podcast” ______________________________ Until next time, thanks for listening! ~ Joel & Laura | 11/11/11 | Free | View In iTunes |
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Dating Digital Podcast 025: “Wedding Three Way” | The end of summer is wedding season. Sometimes they bleed over into Fall, but the pinnacle always seems to be Labor Day Weekend. The anual wedding bonanza is sort of hard to ignore. So, we decided to dedicate a whole show to weddings and dating. Laura Lundquist has joined DDP as the new c0-host and Joel's sister Andrea stopped by to share her wedding experiences too. DDP episode 25 marks the first episode in our new show schedule of once a month. We had to record a bit early for the October show due to some work related travel in Laura's schedule, but we will be sitting down to record episode 26 for November when she's back. This month, we received some great email from listeners Andrew and Kevin, including a suggestion on a new segment! Profile Reviews. We will continue to announce topic ideas here on the blog for upcoming episodes but please feel free to email us your ideas and feedback. | 10/7/11 | Free | View In iTunes |
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Dating Digital Podcast 024: “Back To School Tools” | On this timely episode of DDP, we talk about some back to school online dating and social media tips, Joel has some updates for Facebook and POF iPhone app users and Lara digs into some Facebook discretions. Jules Faulkner from Promises Promises writes in to ask, "What's in a name?" and Daniel from South Africa has an update on his online dating experience. Make sure you listen to the end of the episode, where Joel and Lara have some announcements to make about some changes happening with the show. | 9/10/11 | Free | View In iTunes |
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Dating Digital Podcast 023: “1100 Texts, Lookout Below” | Just a quick post to get the show out there for you folks. Sorry for the delay! | 8/20/11 | Free | View In iTunes |
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Dating Digital Podcast 022: “Rainy Day And Tight Pants” | Happy birthday to DDP! We've been at this podcasting schtick for a whole year now. Wow, time flies! This week on DDP, Lara has some exciting news about a new podcasting gig: commandN is a video podcast that runs twice a month (like us!) and showcases current trends in social media and tech. On DDP this ep we dig into our lists of potential date movies - mostly home video choices but feel free to draw parallels with might be in theatres - you can't forget the classics!* Let us know if we missed a favorite date movie on your list. Email is a convenient way to communicate, but we don't always want to share our address with everyone we meet. Keep your email identity a secret as you get to know someone new. We'll tell you how. *DDP is not responsible for any arguments that ensue over David Bowie's pants. | 7/30/11 | Free | View In iTunes |
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Dating Digital Podcast 021: “SceneTap Snowsuit” | Lara is on vacation this week so we have a new guest host for DDP epsiosde 21. Angela and Joel dig into summer dating. It gets a little Canadian specific, but you'll get the gist. We also talk about SceneTap, a new service mentioned in a recent article by Amber McArthur, geared for venues like bars and clubs that collects data on patrons and sends stats out to would be visitors. Listener email, contributor contest... and pink snow suits. Our Facebook Question from Episode 19 is still open! Let us know what you think: "Do you use/prefer a mobile app for online dating over a website?" Show Notes for episode 21 below… DDP Ep. 021 Show Notes On DDP episode numero veintiuno Joel and guest host Angela talk about… Our Facebook poll, where we ask if people are using mobile dating apps in addition to traditional websites - at the moment about 60% of respondents said both, and the remainder said just websites. Then Joel and Angela talk about their thoughts on dating in the summer (if you said you love hiking on your online profile, now's the time to show that you mean it!), discuss the SceneTap app, which uses facial recognition technology to let you know the gender and age balance at the local bar (starting off in Chicago only), and talk about listener emails from South Africa on the subject of visual impairment and dating, and a new listener who is surprised to find out that many guys online are more religious than she would have expected, so she's curious about how we feel about dealbreakers. You can enter our ongoing contest to win a Starcrossed (link below) print just by emailing us or leaving us a review in the iTunes store - one entry per time we hear from you - and you choose the comic! You can write us, find us on Twitter (@ddpodcast, @joelduggan,@larakillian), send us an mp3 voicemail, all the traditional stuff. Send your email to: datingdigital-at-gmail-dot-com. Please leave us a review in the iTunes store, and check out Joel’s comic at StarcrossedOnline. You can also find us on Facebook. Thanks for listening! | 7/15/11 | Free | View In iTunes |
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Dating Digital Podcast 020: “All Your Dates Are Belong To Us” | This week we talk a bit more about mobile apps for online dating, including a first look at Jazzed.com, a new dating site with a new mobil app. BeautifulPeople.com kicks 30,000 "ugly" members to the curb, but we have some ideas on how to pick up your socks and go on some cheap dates. And, could the person you're chatting with online not be a person at all? Brockett Vola from The Biggest Fan Podcast writes us with a very interesting story of true digital dating. Don't miss the details on our new email and review contest! Once again Joel is giving away a free print of his comic Starcrossed to a lucky DDP listener who contributes to the show via email, MP3 voicemail, or by leaving a review in the iTunes store. Last but not least, our Facebook Question from Episode 19 is still open! Let us know what you think: "Do you use/prefer a mobil app for online dating over a website?" Show Notes for episode 20 below… DDP Ep. 020 Show Notes On DDP episode numero veinte Joel and Lara talk about… Summer has finally arrived in Atlantic Canada, believe it or not! We can stop complaining about the rain now. We mention our current Facebook poll, which asks if you've ever used a mobile app for a dating site (poll now closed). We talk about our own experience with mobile apps for dating. We talk about Beautifulpeople.com, which recently let 30,000 members go because they weren't attractive enough (apparently a hack allowed people to get on the site without going through the usual vetting process); the entire thing sounds crazy! Lara also saw a link to an interesting blog with 365 ideas for cheap dates, and though it's local to Los Angeles, there are lots of great ideas for saving money and still having fun while you get to know someone new. You can enter our ongoing contest to win a Starcrossed (link below) print just by messaging us or leaving us a review in the iTunes store - one entry every time we hear from you - and you can choose any comic you want! You can write us, find us on Twitter (@ddpodcast, @joelduggan,@larakillian), send us an mp3 voicemail, all the traditional stuff. Send your email to: datingdigital-at-gmail-dot-com. Please leave us a review in the iTunes store, and check out Joel’s comic at StarcrossedOnline. You can also find us on Facebook. Thanks for listening! | 6/28/11 | Free | View In iTunes |
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Dating Digital Podcast 019: “Wachaa!” | Joel gives eHarmony the axe, Lara talks TEDxNovaScotia and we want to know, "Do you date on your phone?" | 6/14/11 | Free | View In iTunes |
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Dating Digital Podcast 018: “Feed Me!” | In DDP episode 18 we reveal the results of our Facebook relationship status poll, pick a winner of our email contest draw, and talk more social media. Thanks to everyone who wrote in over the past few episodes! We will definitely be doing more contests and give aways in the future, so stay tuned. Also, we talk Twitter romance, Angela S wants you to keep your shirt on, Shauna J bloodies things up and Andrea C introduces us to "The Starer." Last, but not least, we have a new question poll up on our Facebook page. Let us know what you think about social media and dating. | 5/19/11 | Free | View In iTunes |
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Dating Digital Podcast 017: “Shock And Awe Harmony” | Special guest host Laura (@lauralundquist) is back to talk eHarmony! We break down the hefty pay site brick by brick, give our two cents on "must haves" and "can't stands" and expose some flaws of the patented Compatibility Matching System. If you're t... | 4/23/11 | Free | View In iTunes |
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Dating Digital Podcast 016: “Facebook Talk Back” | We dive into quite a bit of feedback from our listeners about our first real Facebook discussion on the podcast. There are definitely some dos and don'ts to be taken away from these shared experiences. Lara also breaks down the initial results form our Facebook status survey. If you would like to take part, you can answer the very simple survey question right here. Details on our now extended email contest, upcoming topic for episode 17 and news on the return of a special guest host are all found within. Don't miss out! Show Notes for episode 16 below… DDP Ep. 016 Show Notes On DDP episode numero dieciséis we talk about… Being busy as per usual. Lara’s upcoming trip to Belize (woo hoo!). That said, we’re postponing the draw for our contest (all you have to do is email us to win a Starcrossed comic of your choice!) until episode 18 because that’s when Lara will be back. Our lovely guest host Laura will be filling in for episode 17, when she and Joel will talk about eHarmony. So there’s still time to email us and get entered into the contest! Thanks to everyone who has taken our super fast survey so far! The single question we asked is “How do you feel about changing your relationship status on Facebook?” The results at this point are that 5% of respondents are very comfortable sharing their relationship status on FB, 40% say sometimes, but you should talk to the person first to make sure they’re comfortable, and 55% said that they prefer to keep their relationship status private. Right on. We also talk briefly about the additional comments people left us, and appreciate hearing from you! We’re also wondering if and how people are using FB to date or scout out new potential dates. Let us know! Does it make more sense to check out your friends’ photos and look for potential people of interest that your friend could introduce you do? Always a risk that they’re taken already, but at least you know they’re in your network and you can probably get some insider information about them and your potential compatibility. We also talk about a Match.com FB app Joel stumbled across called Matchmaker - Is relying on a friend to recommend potential matches better than trusting the algorithm on a dating website? LINKS DU JOUR Lara talks about a blog post she stumbled across recently from Twitter user @thoughtcatalog, which has a really humorous take on “Who has it worse, Men or Women?” when it comes to online dating. MESSAGES We heard from Nick P. via The LoveBytes Podcast, who wrote about joining PoF to try to expand his dating pool, only to be frustrated pretty quickly by having trouble actually getting a potential date to respond to his invitation to meet in person. We talk about some of the ways to try to avoid the feeling of being stood up. ------------------- Cynthia N. from Halifax dropped us a line to mention she was catching up with some older eps of DDP and heard us wondering about all that cigarette smoking on MadMen - she used to work in theater and knows that many actors use herbal cigarettes (sometimes cloves ones but they’re stronger smelling) instead of tobacco ones - and she’s fairly confident that’s what they use on MadMen. She also remembered reading an interview with John Hamm, who plays Don Draper, about how he used to smoke, had quit before starting the show, and has picked it back up again (real cigs) because it’s just too easy to do! ------------------- Scott left us a message to tell us a story about how Facebook has fit into his dating life. He relates the way he used it with the last girl he was interested in, and admits to doing a lot of poking around reading her posts and reading between the lines and looking to see if she had mentioned him. Not a good idea, he says, and we agree! There’s too much temptation to snoop on someone you’re dating, and maybe you won’t be happy with what you find out! --------------------- | 4/10/11 | Free | View In iTunes |
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Dating Digital Podcast 015: “Facebook Sword Fight” | Just a quick post to get the show up in the feed. Hint: It's about Facebook. Show Notes for episode 15 below… DDP Ep. 015 Show Notes [and CONTEST announcement!! - see the end of this post for details] On DDP episode numero quince we talk about… Happy St Patty’s day! Whether you’re Irish....or just pretending to be. We salute you, clinking beer bottles included. Facebook. It’s a topic of concern for new relationships as well as well-established ones - do you want your new flame to see your photos of you all happy and lovey-dovey with you ex? An online presence is increasingly important, and Facebook is a great tool for being able to verify that the person you are chatting with online has friends and photos and all that on Facebook - maybe you even have mutual friends! Facebook can also complicate things in terms of how much you share with someone you’ve just started to date... and what happens if you break up. At what point is it appropriate to change your FB relationship status to reflect your non-single status, when you start a new relationship? This needs to be a conversation that you have with the other person, to avoid misunderstanding. We are curious about what other people think about when/if it’s appropriate to change your relationships status on your FB profile, so we put together a super quick little poll to get your opinions - you can click HERE or look at the next oldest blog post for that. ETA: Sorry! The poll is now closed! LINKS DU JOUR We talk about the most flirtatious cities in the US as detailed by The Atlantic magazine, with Miami at the top and more than half the top ten being coastal cities, which we thought was pretty interesting. NYMag reports on a new dating site, Findyourfacemate.com, which matches you with people who look like you - weird! Facial recognition software will match you with other users who have similar major facial features, and then you can filter your matches by values and personality, just like many other dating sites. We’re not convinced we’d like to date someone who looks like us! We also mention a fun informal collection of pick up lines on a blog called BGoodScience which is worth checking out - they got each gender to rank their favorite pick up lines and then vote on each other’s choices. Joel talks about some of the new premium features introduced on Plenty of Fish and OKCupid - some previously free options are gone and you have to pay for them, which is too bad. On Plenty of fish you are no longer able to view when someone recieves, reads or deletes your message. On OKcupid, you are no longer allowed to search for matches with the following search filters are now only available to those with A+ Memberships. These include Body type, Attractiveness, Dating Persona, and Questions Answered. MESSAGES Anna M. wrote in to give us a link to a collection of "10 True Online Dating Horror Stories", so you can check that out - it's pretty funny! ------------------- Angela S. wrote in from Ottawa about a recent date where she was totally unimpressed by the guy: he didn’t dress up, couldn’t string together a conversation, and ogled the girl at the next table. Needless to say, when he tried to kiss her goodnight, Angela was not interested! ------------------- Rose in Halifax sent us a message about her experience with her last boyfriend with regard to Facebook. When they broke up, he posted very publicly to his network about the situation and misrepresented lots of details so that he got sympathy from his friends, basically trying to make Rose feel terrible. Now that she’s with her new partner, she doesn’t share her relationship status on her wall and they keep their communications private. This is definitely a case of one jerk changing his ex’s online information-sharing habits because he reacted so poorly to the whole situation! ------------------- Thanks to everyone who wrote in, we love hearing from you! CONTEST!! | 3/23/11 | Free | View In iTunes |
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Dating Digital Podcast 014: “The Harp” | As we rise from the ashes of our bout with the flu, we're faced with another problem, digital dating burnout. It's been weeks, maybe even months and you're just not getting anywhere with your online dating site. Maybe your dating world hands you an Etc... | 3/8/11 | Free | View In iTunes |
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Dating Digital Podcast 013: “Pre-Valentine Thoughts” | It turns out that Valentine's Day is on a few minds these days. This episode of DDP, with the help of some new Twitter followers, we break the "holiday" down to basics. How much is Cupid worth? We'll let you know. Plus, we have an announcement about a guest spot on the LoveBytes Podcast and an email from LoveBytes co-host Kirk. Strap yourself in (or strap yourself down) V-day is coming and we've got you covered. - Direct MP3 Download - iTunes Subscription - RSS Feed Show Notes for episode 13 below… DDP Ep. 013 Show Notes On DDP episode numero trece we talk about… Lara’s feeling the winter blahs and trying to kick a lingering cold, plus she has been getting out to swing dance lessons for the last month, which is super fun. Joel has been productive and is feeling pretty on top of things, which is great. The Canada Games just launched in Halifax so there will be lots of sporting and music events going on in town for the next two weeks, which is pretty exciting. It’s that time of year - Valentine’s Day. Joel feels like within the circles he moves in people are taking it pretty easy this year, keeping things low key. We talk about clichés and how we’ve celebrated or not celebrated V-Day in the past. Joel remembers one year when he really went out of his way to be super sweet to a girlfriend, and scored points with her mom along the way. Lara wonders if V-Day when you’re in a new relationship is kind of like a first date all over again - you want it to be unique and not corny - give it some thought and show that you’ve been paying attention. LINKS DU JOUR Match.com purchased OkCupid, so we discuss that and what some of the possible repercussions might be. Will either site change their business model now that they’re more intimately involved? We were recently invited to talk about online dating with the crew over at the LoveBytes podcast for a joint episode, so you can listen to that over on their website. We got together on Skype and chatted about our experiences with online dating and many of the things we touch on with the Dating Digital Podcast. Let us know if you have a chance to listen! MESSAGES We heard from Donald over who pointed us to more information on the OkCupid acquisition by Match.com - the price of love is apparently $50 million. Yowza! ------------------- We also hear from Lisa via Twitter who mentioned that her colleagues at Ketchum Public Relations in Toronto put together a list of tips for Valentine’s Day as a fun team building exercise, and she wanted to share that with our listeners. The main focus of the piece is to be yourself and plan ahead. It’s a fun read, the main points being Put a little effort into it Know your audience Make it personal There’s a time and a place (don’t break up with someone on V-Day!) Don’t try too hard Check out the site for more details. ------------------- We also had an email from Kirk in Utah from the LoveBytes podcast, who tells a funny anecdote about a Valentine’s Day fight he witnessed on a college campus a few years ago -- apparently a certain young man had told one lady friend he had to cram for an exam, and then used that time instead to entertain a second lady friend. How did it end? Listen to the podcast to find out! ------------------- NEXT EPISODE - post-Valentine's & dating burnout Our next episode will be in a couple of weeks. Send us your post Valentine’s day stories so we can hear about your successes - or disasters! We’re also thinking of talking about dating burnout - what do you do when you start to lose steam after all this work setting up profiles and sending out messages to people who you may never hear back from, or who you don’t click with when you meet in person? Tips and questions are welcome - what concerns do you have on this topic? Any great techniques that have helped you stay in the game? You can write us, find us on Twitter (@ddpodcast, @joelduggan, | 2/12/11 | Free | View In iTunes |
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Dating Digital Podcast 012: “Speed Dating, Kinda” | Lara and Joel chat with Claudia Habib, a professional event planner and wedding planner about her experience organizing speed dating and similar events here in Halifax. The conversation is a bit more local than our normal fare, but no doubt anyone interested in speed dating will find it interesting. Don't forget our next episode is going to be our first Valentine's Day episode! We want to hear your thoughts and stories about Valentine's Day. So, send those emails and voicemails our way and we'll be sure to include them in the show. Here's how to email the show. Thanks so much for stopping by Claudia! Simply Weddings @ClaudiaHabib - Direct MP3 Download - iTunes Subscription - RSS Feed Show Notes for episode 12 below… DDP Ep. 012 Show Notes On DDP episode numero doce we talk about… How nasty the weather has been! Like much of the east coast here in North America we’ve been in the middle of a series of storms. Lara got soaked on her way to an early morning meeting, while Joel slept through it. Ha! And we have a special guest, Claudia, who is an event planner in Halifax. In the past Claudia was involved in organizing speed dating events locally, so we talk about how those went in the past, some of the obstacles and some of the good points. How can you get a balanced gender ration? What’s the best day of the week or time of day? What’s the right price point for an event, and how can you get people to commit so that you know how many people to plan for? Is there a season that’s better than others for speed dating events? If you have any ideas for how these kind of events can be successful, let us know! Claudia has some great experience behind her as an event planner, and she specialises in weddings so if you have any special events coming up in your life, feel free to follow her business on Twitter as @SimplyWeddNS or check out her website, Simply Weddings. NEXT EPISODE - Valentine’s Day! Our next episode will be in a couple of weeks. We’re planning to talk about Valentine’s day experiences, so send us stories! The good, the bad, the never-again-to-be-mentioned (except on the podcast, we can keep it anonymous!!) How would you describe the perfect Valentine’s date? Do you prefer to celebrate by burning your ex in effigy? Dish!! You can write us, find us on Twitter (@ddpodcast, @joelduggan,@larakillian), send us an mp3 voicemail, all the traditional stuff. Send your email to: datingdigital-at-gmail-dot-com. Leave us a review in the iTunes store, and check out Joel’s comic at StarcrossedOnline. Thanks for listening! | 1/28/11 | Free | View In iTunes |
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Dating Digital Podcast 011: “Match. Set. Podcast.” | In the first episode of DDP after the holiday break we've got lots of great listener email to talk about. We have an important message to share about meeting new people online, an email from Jenn O. about her overseas speed dating experience (A primer ... | 1/15/11 | Free | View In iTunes |
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Dating Digital Podcast 010.3.1: “Mini DDP” | A short, solo update on some of the show topics we're looking at covering in upcoming episodes of DDP. From the holidays to Facebook to speed dating and maybe even a bit about your co-hosts. Stay tuned! - Direct MP3 Download - iTunes Subscription - RSS Feed | 1/5/11 | Free | View In iTunes |
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Dating Digital Podcast 010: “Holiday Dating” | In our tenth episode, Joel and guest host Laura chat about dating in and around the holidays. With all the holiday socializing going on, is it a time of plenty? Or are most people wrapped up in their own busy schedules? And what about New Years? No one... | 12/19/10 | Free | View In iTunes |
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Dating Digital Podcast 009: “Deal Breakers Part 2″ | In Part 2 of our talk about deal breakers, we focus on the online deal breakers that have us clicking to the next profile without another thought. Joel talks a bit about Starcrossed hitting the one year mark as an online comic and has a chance to respo... | 12/4/10 | Free | View In iTunes |
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Dating Digital Podcast 008: “Deal Breakers Part 1″ | We dig into deal breakers, the things that make you drop the hammer in those first few dates. From smoking and bad table manners to bad kissers and clueless PDA. Thanks to everyone who contributed to the show this week. We have enough content to do two shows on deal breakers. In Part 1 this week we discuss the deal breakers that happen when you're actually on a date. In Part 2 we're going to talk about online deal breakers. So if you've got a list of things that make you click on someone's profile without reading another word, we want to hear from you! Click here to read more about contacting the show. Due to a recording flub, the first few minutes of the podcast are a bit hard to hear. Bear with us for a few minutes and things go back to normal around the seven minute mark. - Direct MP3 Download - iTunes Subscription - RSS Feed Tweet Show Notes for episode 8 below… DDP Ep. 008 Show NotesOn DDP episode numero ocho we talk about… It’s busy holiday time - students are stressed with mid term stuff, and we don’t really love the Christmas carols in shops so early in the season. Lara is hoping for snow, and Joel is not! To each his/her own, we suppose.... We had a great response to our call for stories and thoughts about deal breakers, so in this episode we talk about those related to meeting someone in person, and next time we’ll talk about deal breakers related to online profiles and presences. Joel says it really bugs him to feel that he has to prove that he’s a nice guy - women seem to assume that there is more than meets the eye, in a negative way. No games, please! He also is really turned off by people who move too fast - wanting to be exclusive after just a few dates, when that’s a bit too quick to feel that confident about shutting down any other avenues that may be developing with other people. Joe also mentions that it’s not enjoyable when he meets someone who doesn’t seem to have an opinion about what they should do or where they should go -- Lara points out that it’s a learning opportunity when someone expresses an opinion. So if someone is trying to be nice and just agree with whatever the other person wants, no one learns anything. Wishy-washy! We also talk about first kiss chemistry, how it’s impossible to anticipate, but can bring things to a screeching halt if it just doesn’t work! Lara mentions smoking and what a turn off that is, which we have mentioned before. We wonder for a minute how actors on shows like Mad Men deal with the constant smoking - are those fake cigarettes? What do they actually smell like? Is it a long term health hazard to work on a show like that? Ok, back to deal breakers... Lara talks about body language and eye contact. A conversation needs to be a back-and-forth. Posture and eye contact are great indicators of how much someone is listening to you and responding to what you say, so Lara always pays attention to those cues. LINKS DU JOUR Lara mentions Datingdealbreakers.com, a really simple message board where people can post stories about situations they’ve encountered and comment on other people’s anecdotes. There’s also a Facebook group, surprise surprise, simply called Dating Deal Breakers. It’s not super active, but it’s another forum for sharing stories and pet peeves. We also play an intro to another podcast about dating, so check out LoveBytes for a roundtable style discussion of dating. You can also check them out on Twitter at LoveBytesPC. EMAIL / MESSAGES Tess R. says it's annoying when you never hear from someone again after you’ve gone out and things seemed to go well! Never messaging back is mean! She also mentions that if during a date you run into someone they know, it’s impolite to not at least introduce your date. No need to make a big deal out of it, just say, this is Tess, you don’t have to say, “we’re on a date”! Joel and Lara point out that some people seem to think they have to leave a certain am | 11/21/10 | Free | View In iTunes |
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Dating Digital Podcast 007: “First Dates” | We talk about how we handle first dates, how online dating has changed the definition of a first date, and what seems to have become the default first date, meeting at a cafe. Lara discusses "the best" first date location in Halifax according to The Best Of article in The Coast and we have an in depth question in listener email about staying friends after dating. - Direct MP3 Download - iTunes Subscription - RSS Feed Tweet Show Notes for episode 7 below… DDP Ep. 007 Show Notes On DDP episode numero siete we talk about… We’re both so busy, time’s flying as usual. Joel was waiting around for maintenance guys half the day and they showed up as he was getting ready to pack up and record this episode. Of course. It has been raining a bit and the fall weather is not nice right now. Today's topic is first dates. Do they cause anxiety? Are they the most fun time you’ve ever had? Joel says he doesn’t get too nervous when meeting someone from the online world, but maybe is a little more nervous if he has already met the person face to face, like at a party. So what’s the difference between meeting someone for the first time if you’ve only interacted online, or meeting up with someone you share acquaintances with? If you’ve met someone in person and you decide to go out, you already know there’s some mutual attraction. But if you meet someone you’ve only interacted with online, it’s more of a first meeting, and less of a first date. So where do you go on a first date? A cafe is an easy afternoon location, and it can turn into a walk after or a longer chat, if it’s going well. But it’s also easy to cut things short if you’re not enjoying yourself. If you’ve committed to dinner, you’re kind of stuck and it can be harder to make your escape if things aren’t going well! Lara feels like going to dinner is just too much, and a movie is a really bad idea. Leave some space for getting to know each other, but also the opportunity to get going if you’re not enjoying the encounter. Joel prefers a late afternoon coffee meeting for the first time when it’s still light out and things are casual. It’s important to feel safe and comfortable. Lara asks Joel if he would usually make a plan for a second date right away if things are going well during that first meeting. So we talk a bit about how we plan a next encounter... or let this first meeting stretch on into dinner if it’s going well! LINKS DU JOUR Lara was reading about “the Best Of” annual awards this week in The Coast, our local source for info about what’s going on around town, entertainment, music, all that good stuff. One of the categories was best place for a first date! We talk about how the winning locale is a large, generally crowded central casual rabbit warren of a restaurant/bar with poor service and bad lighting, so we’re not convinced about being able to find someone for the first time in there. Second place went to a more upscale martini bar in town, which is definitely nicer for a fancy drink, but not a great spot for dinner because they have a lot of low tables. Leaning over your food with your face down doesn’t exactly enable great conversation! Lara would have put the third place finisher, the waterfront, at that top of the list, because it’s just such a great place to wander for a chat. Not good for an entire first date, but a nice part of it perhaps in good weather. Another piece that caught Lara’s eye this week was a link via @Slate’s Twitter feed about speed dating. It summarizes a recently released 45 page study about how likely it is that you’ll get involved with or sleep with someone you meet in a speed dating setting! Neither of us has been to a speed dating event, but the research, published in the European Journal of Personality (PDF link), is kind of thought-provoking. Have you ever been speed dating? We’d love to hear about your experiences! We also play an intro to another podcast about | 11/6/10 | Free | View In iTunes |
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Dating Digital Podcast 006: “Missed By A Hair” | We decide to save the real digital dating horror stories for another episode but we do have some tales of bad timing and happenstance to tide you over. Sick of seeing your ex on Facebook? They might actually be helping you out with that. Of course we dig into the mail bag -AND- laugh with Jared M. in our first voicemail! - Direct MP3 Download - iTunes Subscription - RSS Feed Tweet Show Notes for episode 6 below… DDP Ep. 006 Show Notes On DDP episode numero seis we talk about… The fall has really arrived, temps have dropped! Lara attended the evening art festival in Halifax, Nocturne, and Joel has a shiny new microphone for us to record on. We didn’t get as many Halloween horror stories as we thought we might, so we’re saving one or two for next time, feel free to send yours in if you didn’t get around to it for this episode! So instead we talk about a couple of awkward or annoying situations we’ve found ourselves in. Joel shares a story from awhile back where he met one person for a casual first date and had a nice time, but didn’t hit it off. We’re calling her Wilma. A few days later he happened to have a coffee date with someone we’ll call Betty, who he hit it off with and wanted to see again. It was frustrating not hear back from Betty after a little while, but Joel found out later that Wilma and Betty were actually friends and had talked about their dates! The feelings were mutual in that Wilma didn’t feel a connection that would merit further dating, but Betty would have liked to see Joel again. Unfortunately Wilma felt it was weird that Joel had gone out on a casual date with each of them in a short time. Lara points out that it’s not unusual to have a couple of dates lined up, especially first dates, with different people, when the whole point is to meet new people you might be compatible with! If you have time, go for it! If you space out dates, you may miss out on meeting as many people as you could. It’s really too bad that Wilma was so uncomfortable with the situation. Lara says she doesn’t have any horror stories either, but talks about connecting awhile back with a guy online whose profile disappeared after they had been chatting for a few weeks. He resurfaced and they kept chatting. Finally a coffee date was arranged but the guy was a total no-show, which was annoying. As she was sitting there waiting for this guy, and waiting, and waiting, another guy comes in with a giant backpack. Lara kept looking up for the no-show guy and making eye contact with the other guy. Finally she ended up having coffee with the traveling man and having a great chat, making the best of that situation. Later and back online the first guy responded to Lara’s message about him missing their arranged coffee date by saying that he hadn’t been sure Lara was going to show. We chat about how easy it is these days to send someone a text or quick message saying you’re going to be late or can’t make it. Waiting for someone, especially someone you’re meeting for the first time, can be stressful enough! Frustrating! LINKS DU JOUR Joel talks about an article he saw on Mashable about Facebook’s possible attempts to show you less pictures of your ex in the “Photo Memories” section of your profile, which sounds like a good thing. The algorithm basically looks at tagged photos and if there is anything tagged with the name of someone you’ve been in a relationship with, but are no longer, it won’t show you that pic. But what if you never changed your relationship status? The algorithm won’t work. Curses! Lara saw this freaky site recently called I’mdatingmyself.com, where there are lots of pictures of couples, and one person’s face/features have been photoshopped onto the other person’s face - so both people in the pic actually have the same face! It’s amazing how feminine a guy’s features can look once they’re surrounded by long hair and some jewelry. We also play an intro t | 10/23/10 | Free | View In iTunes |
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Dating Digital Podcast 005: “Pineapple Peanut Butter” | You've found someone online you want to email... Now what!? In this episode of DDP we dive into the details of writing emails to someone who has caught your online eye. Lara shares a cool SMS trick for rescuing yourself from a bad date and we hear from a listener who cautions cretins that her city just ain't big enough for shenanigans. - Direct MP3 Download - iTunes Subscription - RSS Feed Tweet Show Notes for episode 5 below… DDP Ep. 005 Show Notes On DDP episode numero cinco we talk about… What’s new with us? Joel saw the Social Network movie, Lara has plans to see it, and Joel has the new iPhone 4 (He’s in the process of checking out some of the apps available. We talk about breaking the ice online, and all the different ways sites have to help users make a first connection. You might be able to favourite someone, send a rose, wink at someone - showing someone that you’re interested without actually putting yourself out there. At what point do you want to make that first contact, or how do you react when someone first contacts you? We talk about some of the mechanisms that prevent users from contacting each other as well. Joel prefers to get an email rather than messing around with winking or those sorts of things. Next Joel wonders, when you receive a first message from someone, do you read the message first or go check out their profile first. We agree that we’d read the message first and get a sense about whether the person has made an effort, and then go check out their profile, probably before messaging them back. Lara asks, how long should a first message be? That’s a debatable point, but we both agree that messages can be too short - a phrase or simple ‘hey, what’s up?’ just doesn’t cut it. If you don’t have enough time to send a real message that shows you’ve actually read our profile, don’t both sending a message at all! Joel shares a great example of a female user on one of the dating sites with a great way to screen messages - at the foot of her very well filled out profile she had a code phrase (pineapple peanut butter, for example!) and if that phrase wasn’t in the subject line of messages, she wouldn’t even bother to open them. Smart. No matter how that first contact happens, Lara says the whole point is to get a conversation started. If each person doesn’t make an effort to ask a question or offer something about themselves that the other person can respond to, the conversation will die pretty fast. There needs to be a back and forth element. Send us your thoughts about making that first contact, and any funny stories you have! EMAIL Veronica sent us a story about running into a guy she met on Plenty of Fish and had dated briefly in Halifax last year, but things hadn’t gone far because he lived in another city and was only in town for a short while. When she saw him again he looked extremely uncomfortable, but she stopped to talk with him anyway. Turns out he has lived in Halifax the entire time, and got married only a few weeks after they stopped dating! He also completely lied about his type of studies and job, as party of telling Veronica that he lived in another city. Veronica was pretty unimpressed with the deception there. Ick! Veronica shared another story about her friend Betty, who went out a few times with a guy she also met on Plenty of Fish, Joe. When Betty described Joe to Veronica, Veronica thought he sounded a lot like a guy she knows, named Paul. So Betty pulls up Joe’s profile, and Veronica recognized Paul! Paul was using a fake name as part of his online dating presence. Lara wonders at what point in a relationship do you tell someone you’ve been lying about your name this whole time? Not exactly trust-inspiring! Plus Halifax is way too small to try something like this, maybe it’s possible to pull it off in a bigger city? LINK DU JOUR Lara mentions a site she found that will send you a text automatically and possibly get yo | 10/8/10 | Free | View In iTunes |
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Dating Digital Podcast 004: “Dating Digital on Campus 101″ | How do you connect with someone in the sea of students? We talk about the role social media plays in student dating, how relatively small campus social circles can sometimes lead to unwanted dating overlap and our own experiences with dating in school. We have a few emails on the topic as well as a response to our discussion of match making and eHarmony on our last episode. - Direct MP3 Download - iTunes Subscription - RSS Feed Tweet Show Notes for episode 4 below... DDP Ep. 004 Show Notes: On DDP episode numero cuatro we talk about... Lara hung out in Toronto last weekend, where the Toronto International Film Festival (TIFF) has been going on, and she has been busy the last couple of weeks volunteering with the Atlantic Film Festival (AFF) here in Halifax. Joel has been super busy with his work, and noticing that the whole city is crawling with students now that the new academic year is beginning! So what’s it like to be in a city with a new influx of students? There might be some people you’d like to avoid after a bad date or two in previous years, and others you’d like to run into on a regular basis! The fall is a great time to feel optimistic about doing some dating as new people move into your city, or if you move to a new place as well. Lara talks about her very first experience with online dating on Match.com as an undergrad in Boston, when she enlisted a roommate to trail her for the evening as a safety mechanism. It is really exciting to be a student in a big city with new people everywhere. You can make connections at other universities and use online dating as a way to meet people you wouldn’t normally encounter in your daily routine. If you feel weird about asking a friend to tail you to a date, these days it’s even easier to make sure you feel safe in a situation, by asking a friend to call or text you during the date, of course. Joel didn’t do any online dating as an undergrad, but was at a smaller university where it would have been more awkward because of the small size of the community. In a place like that, chances are pretty high you might run into a bad date at a party the next weekend. Uncomfortable! Facebook has changed everything. Lara and Joel didn’t have FB as undergrads, but did have access to ICQ and then MSN Messenger for chatting online. Things have changed so much! We get slightly sidetracked talking about when FB launched (2004) and reviews of the brand new The Social Network Movie, opening October 1. Will you see it? These days you can probably connect within someone you encounter briefly, especially on campus, because you may find them through mutual networks online. We talk about the ease of finding someone online and following up with them if you don't get a phone number the first time. Joel and Lara have slightly different gender-based perspectives on how much information you might want to have available on FB, for example, that is visible to people outside your network. Listener email: Laura L. wrote about our topic from last week, and her experience in trying eHarmony.com after trying a couple of free sites. She found that the same people were on the paid site, and didn’t have more luck there, which is really interesting. With respect to today’s topic, Laura also comments that September is a good time to start online dating. New things are starting up, everyone’s full of energy, it can be a great time to meet people! So Laura encourages everyone to give it a shot this fall - you might have someone new to cuddle with come colder weather! Venessa M. commented on online dating and writes about the danger of running into someone on campus that you don’t want to - or in being set up with someone you already know! She had a friend who got set up on her first ever online date and then realized that she had previously been set up on a blind date with the same person - and rejected him! So it was really awkward. | 9/26/10 | Free | View In iTunes |
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Dating Digital Podcast 003: “Matching Gym Socks” | How do you match up? Birds of a feather, like minds and... B.O.? On this episode of DDP we dig into online match making and how some of the different sites go about trying to put you in touch with a potential match. We also have some email in response to our last episode and a listener comment on a match making fail! - Direct MP3 Download - iTunes Subscription - RSS Feed Tweet Show Notes for episode 3 below… DDP Ep. 003 Show Notes: On DDP episode numero tres we talk about...Hurricane Earl, which hit Canada’s Atlantic Provinces over the weekend (sorry, we couldn’t help ourselves!) How different sites match users: by vital stats (age, location, values, the basics) what kind of relationship/encounter you’re looking for Dating distance (is a whole other method of spatial measurement) We talk about matching dealbreakers for ourselves, like wanting to start a family or not, smokers v. nonsmokers, that sort of thing.OkCupid draws people in through quizzes - one of us thought that was a fun way to get matched, the other one didn’t really love the endless series of questions! Lara got drawn in through the “Are you a nerd, geek or a dork?” quiz (which is pretty fun!)We also mention echemistry.com, eharmony.com, and perfectmatch.com as examples of sites that have their own algorithms for matching users. Psychologist may be involved. NEWS Joel found a site that matches you by your DNA. Um, yikes. Where’s the romance? ScientificMatch.com Lara likes Alikewise.com, which matches you to users who’ve read the same books. What can she say, she’s a bookworm at heart. (We do get a little sidetracked talking about whether people are in fact still reading in this day and age!) She originally found out about Alikewise through Ruth Franklin at The New Republic, here. EMAIL Jared M. writes about an experience he had through the site Lavalife. As a shy person, he spent some time while living in Miramichi establishing a relationship with a girl on the site. Since she didn’t live nearby, it took a long time to plan a meeting. When finally Jared planned to stop by her house, he got lost and couldn’t find it! He was too nervous to go through with the meeting as planned and regretted it later. Oh, geography, how you get in the way. We talk about how tough this situation is, especially after sending messages back and forth for two months - but also how awkward it can be to meet someone at their home! Be safe out there, guys. Jenn O. writes about a really bad matching system. She had tried PlentyOfFish, and been disappointed by crappy profiles and people who weren’t taking things seriously. So she tried the more complicated system at eHarmony. She still found that there were profiles even on a paid site that were really low quality, even smutty. Basically, buyer beware. What a waste of time and money! Who are these people who take the time to build up a profile, get approved, find matches, and then fill it with trash?? Harrumph. NEXT TIME Back to school! Next episode or possibly the following one we’d like to talk about the experience of moving to a new city (possibly as a student) and dating. Do you have a story about starting university and going on a disastrous date or trying a new dating site in order to meet people? Email us (datingdigital AT gmail DOT com) with your thoughts or stories about being a student, moving to a new city, or your experience in general with trying to make connections in the world of online dating. Check us out on Twitter, and feel free to record a voicemail and send that to our gmail account as well. We’ll be back in 2-3 weeks with another episode and look forward to hearing from you in the meantime! | 9/8/10 | Free | View In iTunes |
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Dating Digital Podcast 002: “Profile Pics” | Dating profile pic dos, don'ts and oh-hell-nos. We talk about one of the most important features of your online dating profile, your picture! Join us for our two cents, as well as some emails from listeners talking about their experiences and recommendations for your profile pictures. - Direct MP3 Download - iTunes Subscription - RSS Feed Tweet Show Notes for episode 2 below… DDP Ep. 002 Show Notes: On DDP episode numero dos Joel and Lara talk about... Our thoughts on profile pictures: have more than one picture! make sure your pic isn’t taken from too far away pictures should be clear, from a good perspective thoughtful accessories - if a someone has a hat on in every shot it’s hard to tell what they really look like multiple pics of the same thing - eg 3 shots in a row taken from your webcam in the same shirt etc. smile! Why post a pic of yourself looking grumpy or too serious? clothing: should be appropriate for the activity (partial nudity means you’re likely to be contacted by a different crowd than if you have normal clothes on) what about pictures that show someone doing something they say they don’t do (eg smoking) cropping - be careful about only uploading the picture you intend to - you may think you’re able to crop out your friends in an image, but when users click on your thumbnail they may be able to see the entire shot, so take care Having more than one pic is a good idea, but if you don’t have many photos of yourself, what do you do? Joel recommends trawling your Facebook friends’ photo albums, snagging pictures you’re in, and cropping individual photos appropriately. Pictures are really important, but what else? NEWS Dr. Marina Adshade, Professor of Economics at Dalhousie Univeristy in Halifax and instructor of the course, The Economics of Sex and Love: “Do Women Really Value Income Over Looks in a Mate?” Gavin Clarke: “iPhone users get more sex than Android Fans" Listener email: Darryl B. writes about his first experience with online dating - he arranged to meet someone he’d made a connection with on an online dating site, only to be unable to recognize her because her profile pic didn’t look like her and was taken from the awkward “downshot” angle. It was really awkward and disappointing to be surprised that way! Thanks for sharing your story, Darryl! Anne M. writes about her pet peeves with profile pics - don’t use a mirror, and bathroom pics look terrible! Use a timer or get a friend to take a picture. Leave something to the imagination - keep your clothes on! Pictures should just be of you, or if there are several people, make sure to point out which one is you. A good picture needs to be clear and natural. Thanks for sharing your pet peeves, Anne! Email us (datingdigital AT gmail DOT com) with your thoughts or questions about profile pictures for your online profile, what you look for in other people’s online profiles, and stories about your experience with trying to make connections in the world of online dating. Check us out on Twitter (@ddpodcast), and feel free to record a voicemail and send that to our gmail account as well. We’ll be back in 2-3 weeks with another episode and look forward to hearing from you in the meantime! | 8/21/10 | Free | View In iTunes |
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Dating Digital Podcast 001: “Cheeky Profiles” | After a bit (OK a LOT) of trolling around trying to learn the ropes of PodPress, Feedburner and submitting a podcast feed to iTunes I think I’ve managed to figure out how to get our first episode out there! I expect many, many hiccups over the next couple weeks as I streamline the process. Please bear with me. I will also try to have some short show notes with some of the links we mentioned posted ASAP. Until the feed is approved and up on iTunes, you can listen to the show right here on the blog. Show Notes for episode 1 below… DDP Ep. 001 Show Notes: On DDP episode numero uno Joel and Lara talk about... The wide world of online dating: How to get started? Free sites v. paying for sites We talk about how we get started with setting up a profile, what you might consider including, our preferences for keeping it casual, trying to be a bit funny perhaps, trying to include something unique, and not taking yourself too seriously We also talk about what impresses us (or not) about other people’s profiles News: Lara mentions a recent NYT article about new dating tools - connecting with people in person and setting things up so they can find your online dating profile: “The New Dating Tools: A Card and a Wink” The article mentions Cheekd.com and FlipMeDating.com These are two places where you can get cute business cards printed that will direct an attractive stranger to your online profile on the sites; they enter a code and access your profile - a cool way to combine a first impression in the real world with more information about yourself in a casual way. Listener email: Tara B. emailed us about her frustrations with online dating, specifically how annoying it is when people misrepresent themselves in their profiles, for example saying they’re a different age, or starting a conversation back and forth only to have someone disappear completely from the site. We discuss. Email us (datingdigital AT gmail DOT com) with your thoughts or questions about setting up or maintaining your online profile, what you look for in other people’s online profiles, and stories about your experience with trying to make connections in the world of online dating. Check us out on Twitter, and feel free to record a voicemail and send that to our gmail account as well. We’ll be back in 2-3 weeks with another episode and look forward to hearing from you in the meantime! | 7/31/10 | Free | View In iTunes |
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