Untangled
Guiding Teenage Girls Through the Seven Transitions into Adulthood
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4.5 • 77 Ratings
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- $14.99
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- $14.99
Publisher Description
NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER • An award-winning guide to the sometimes erratic and confusing behavior of teenage girls that explains what’s going on, prepares parents for what’s to come, and lets them know when it’s time to worry.
Look for Under Pressure, the companion guide to coping with stress and anxiety among girls, available now.
In this sane, highly engaging, and informed guide for parents of daughters, Dr. Damour draws on decades of experience and the latest research to reveal the seven distinct—and absolutely normal—developmental transitions that turn girls into grown-ups, including Parting with Childhood, Contending with Adult Authority, Entering the Romantic World, and Caring for Herself. Providing realistic scenarios and welcome advice on how to engage daughters in smart, constructive ways, Untangled gives parents a broad framework for understanding their daughters while addressing their most common questions, including
• My thirteen-year-old rolls her eyes when I try to talk to her, and only does it more when I get angry with her about it. How should I respond?
• Do I tell my teen daughter that I’m checking her phone?
• My daughter suffers from test anxiety. What can I do to help her?
• Where’s the line between healthy eating and having an eating disorder?
• My teenage daughter wants to know why I’m against pot when it’s legal in some states. What should I say?
• My daughter’s friend is cutting herself. Do I call the girl’s mother to let her know?
Perhaps most important, Untangled helps mothers and fathers understand, connect, and grow with their daughters. When parents know what makes their daughter tick, they can embrace and enjoy the challenge of raising a healthy, happy young woman.
BOOKS FOR A BETTER LIFE AWARD WINNER
“Finally, there’s some good news for puzzled parents of adolescent girls, and psychologist Lisa Damour is the bearer of that happy news. [Untangled] is the most down-to-earth, readable parenting book I’ve come across in a long time.”—The Washington Post
“Anna Freud wrote in 1958, ‘There are few situations in life which are more difficult to cope with than an adolescent son or daughter during the attempt to liberate themselves.’ In the intervening decades, the transition doesn’t appear to have gotten any easier which makes Untangled such a welcome new resource.”—The Boston Globe
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Psychologist Damour begins this clear-sighted parenting guide with an epigraph from psychoanalyst Anna Freud: "There are few situations in life which are more difficult to cope with than an adolescent son or daughter." In response, Damour offers a hopeful, helpful new way for parents to talk about and with teenage girls. Raising a teenage girl doesn't have to be the proverbial roller-coaster ride or feel like a "tangled mess," she asserts. There is a predictable pattern to teenage development, and parents can learn how to understand and support their daughters. Damour identifies seven distinct, sequential "strands," one per chapter, from middle school through high school: parting with childhood; joining a new tribe; harnessing emotions; contending with adult authority; planning for the future; entering the romantic world; and caring for herself. As Damour is careful to note, teens move along these strands at different rates. More descriptive than prescriptive, the volume is anecdote-driven, featuring entertaining, insightful stories drawn from the author's experience. At the end of each chapter is a section entitled "When to Worry," addressing issues that may require professional consultation. Parents will want this book on their shelves, next to established classics of the genre.
Customer Reviews
Must read
Explains so much and is realistic about the world and how we can help our girls navigate it.
Game changer!
This book is amazing! Read it now if you have teenage girls!
Great book!!!!!
This is a must read for parents of adolescent girls, or anyone working with or maintaining relationship with girls of this age; teachers, coaches, mentors. It is very insightful & provides a ton of insight as to what is going on in girls minds & lives today. Everyone that I have recommended this book to has read it & raved about it.