Don Elium Individual, Marriage & Family Therapist ~Walnut Creek, CA USA~ San Francisco Bay Area GetToItRightNow.com
By Don Elium
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Podcast Description
Your relationship blindspot is the source of your repeated relationship problems. Identify that, change that, and you have control over your life and new choices with those your love. So, let’s get to it.~ At the brink, people find the willingness to change.
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I Need To Shut By, But I Can't! | When family members sit you down and give you feedback about what they don't like about you, it can be a surprising and sobering event. Why can't you just stop what they don't like and move on? Dear Don, I need to shut up, but I can't. My sister and brother sat me down and confronted me about how angry I get at people when they disagree with me. They say that I am so opinionated that they have stopped wanting to be around me, because they get the impression that I think they are stupid. This is tough medicine to swallow. I spoke to my husband, who I thought loved my "spiritedness," and I was shocked to find out-after much prodding--that he, too, after ten years of marriage, had given up disagreeing with me about almost anything. I thought we were close. I really want to be loving with them. Sigh. I admit that I have passionate beliefs about many things, and I am proud of that! I don't have a high view of most people's intelligence these days. I can become very animated, but I had no idea my family felt this way. And, to my surprise, I have tried not to over-react and to keep my opinions to myself, and I just can't. Why can't I just shut up and move on? --Feeling Miserable www.GetToItRightNow.com [Copyright 2009, Don Elium] | 7/1/09 | Free | View In iTunes |
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Grief-When Your Mind Argues With Reality~Don Elium | When you lose someone close your life is suddenly changed. Your mind goes through a period of arguing with reality. This podcast focuses on what to expect when significant loss happens, the predictable steps that must be walked and what to do when you get stuck. Dear Don, My elderly mother passed away about a year ago. My sister is taking it quite well, but I am not. I have attended a few grief groups and have cried buckets of tears, but I still wake up every morning thinking about calling her as I have done for years. Sometimes I actually pick up the phone and dial. I even hear the ring before I remember she is gone. . My well-meaning sister is concerned about me. The tears keep coming In truth, I still can't believe she's gone! I am angry about it. I blame myself for not doing more, and I catch myself daydreaming, "How could this have been different?" What is going on with me?~Going Round and Round~ Click Here For Podcast Hompage [Copyright 2009, Don Elium] www.DonElium.com For A Transcript Of This Podcast Click Here | 5/8/09 | Free | View In iTunes |
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He Cheats, Can I Trust Him Now?~Don Elium | What to trust when your partner cheats and you want them back! I feel totally lost and confused in my relationship. My fiancé wants us to get married in six months. We have been together for about six years, and it has been hard. Our feeling of love is so strong, and we depend totally on each other for support. He started cheating on me, and when I finally found out, I confronted him, and then I called it quits. After a few weeks, I begged him to take me back, but he said “No,” so I moved on with my life. Then, he begged me to take him back. It was too difficult to refuse, because I felt he had changed. Now that we are preparing to marry, I am afraid that he has not changed, and that he is still cheating but I just haven’t caught him. I know that he loves me, but I feel uncertain. Because of his cheating my parents insisted that I stop seeing him, but I saw him anyway behind their backs. I am keeping our marriage plans from my parents, and I don’t feel good about lying to them. What should I do? I am so confused. [Copyright 2009, Don Elium] www.DonElium.com For a transcript of this Podcast Click Here Click Here For Podcast Hompage | 3/31/09 | Free | View In iTunes |
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She Teased Me and She Blew Up!~Don Elium | The one thing not to do, when your spouse hits you with a zinger! My wife and I banter back and forth in our relationship, and most of the time it is just good-natured kidding and playful "name calling." But last week on vacation she called me a "name" and I shot back calling her another "name" and she became very, very mad at me. So mad that the last two days of our long-awaited vacation was ruined because she stopped speaking to me! I apologized profusely, said I didn't mean it, but it took until we got home before she warmed up. There is still an uneasy distance between us. I didn't say anything to her that I had not said before. Do I just let this go to fade away over time, or do I talk to her about it? ~ Hurt and Bewildered~ [Copyright 2009, Don Elium] www.DonElium.com For a transcript of this Podcast Click Here Click Here For Podcast Homepage | 3/31/09 | Free | View In iTunes |
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I Don't Feel Safe With My Husband-Don Elium | The one thing to do to be emotionally safe in your relationship. I want to establish some rules in my relationship so I can feel safer. I often feel pressured to do things that I don't want to do, like being social with people I don’t enjoy and having to make love whenever my husband wants to. I usually just go along with this, but I am just tired of it. My husband complains now that I close him out. I think if we had some clear rules about these things I would feel safer to be more open and available. Right now I feel numb when I think of him. Am I being unreasonable to ask for these rules? Thanks for your straightforward answer. ~Unsafe and Numb [Copyright 2009, Don Elium] www.DonElium.com For a transcript of this Podcast Click Here Click Here For Podcast Homepage | 3/31/09 | Free | View In iTunes |
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