The Heart of the Matter
By Unity.fm
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Podcast Description
Unfortunately, over half of marriages end in divorce. Rather than become another unhappy statistic, there is an alternative. We can learn to create healthy relationships not just by happenstance but by learning the skills to keep our relationships healthy, loving and fun. On each episode of The Heart of the Matter, Rev. George will be joined by his co-hosts Tom and Joyce DeVoge, relationship specialists, taking calls and exploring ways to keep relationships alive, fresh and loving.
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The Importance of Asking | Intimate relationships function better when people ask clearly for what they want. | 6/16/10 | Free | View In iTunes |
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2 |
Levels of Emotional Maturity | We're supposed to mature with age. In the arena of relationships, we may not know what emotional maturity looks like. We'll give examples of both mature and immature behaviors. | 6/2/10 | Free | View In iTunes |
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3 |
Relationships in the Workplace | Relationships in the workplace can cross boundaries that place your primary relationship in jeopardy. We'll talk about the most common pitfalls and how to avoid them. | 5/26/10 | Free | View In iTunes |
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The Art of Self-Soothing and De-Stressing | Stress is prevalent just about everywhere in our fast-paced society. We'll discuss ways to chill out so that you can warm up your primary relationship. | 5/19/10 | Free | View In iTunes |
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5 |
10 Rules for Healthy Friendships | Relationships are friendlier and more intimate when both people follow the same rules. This program discusses 10 rules that friends need to be mindful of. | 4/28/10 | Free | View In iTunes |
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Relationship Triangles and Jealousy | Jealousy is a painful and destructive force in an intimate relationship. We discuss the dynamics of a triangle, how to recognize the presence of jealousy, and how to undo it. | 4/21/10 | Free | View In iTunes |
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7 |
Creative Celebration | Meaningful events in a relationship need to be marked by a celebration. This program addresses practical tips for savoring special occasions. | 4/14/10 | Free | View In iTunes |
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8 |
Balancing Work and Play | A well-tendered relationship involves both work and play. For the relationship to thrive and nurture the couple, these activities need to be in balance. | 4/7/10 | Free | View In iTunes |
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9 |
Adult Bonding and Physical Closeness | Bonding is a biological need, necessary for good health, for children and adults. It is the only biological need that requires the cooperation of another person. | 3/24/10 | Free | View In iTunes |
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10 |
Dirty Fight Tactics | Sometimes in an intimate relationship, we want our own way. When this happens, our actions may tend to restrict the behavior of our partner to think, act or feel like we do. These behaviors are power tactics and are felt by our partners as dirty fighting. | 3/10/10 | Free | View In iTunes |
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Listening and the Art of Responsible Complaining | Responsible complaining is an important skill for successful friendship. Complaining should involve criticism, blaming or attacking. Good listening skills are required for processing our partner's complaints. | 3/3/10 | Free | View In iTunes |
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The Art of Negotiating Conflict Resolutions | One major difference between happy and unhappy couples is the ability to resolve conflict effectively with respect. Most of us learned only unfair and dirty tactics for arguing and fighting to settle differences. Negotiation is a step-by-step alternative | 2/24/10 | Free | View In iTunes |
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13 |
Anger Management for Mature Adults | When anger is aroused, many of us feel a pull toward immature expression of this emotion. We offer practical methods for safe and mature management of this potentially destructive emotion. | 2/17/10 | Free | View In iTunes |
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14 |
Expressing Gratitude Using Velcro Appreciations | Appreciation is the atomic structure of affection. When we express our appreciation, we enjoy the benefits of feeling and sending gratitude. | 1/20/10 | Free | View In iTunes |
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15 |
Understanding Friendship | Most of us want rewarding, satisfying relationships, those that are mutually pleasurable. A deeper understanding of the element of friendship can guide us toward this goal. | 1/13/10 | Free | View In iTunes |
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16 |
Talking Back to January | The fun is over; the bills are due. This is a likely time to feel sad--unless you take charge of January. | 1/6/10 | Free | View In iTunes |
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17 |
Do Your Part, No Matter What | So often we think that if our partner does their part in being responsible in our relationship, then we'll do ours. This program stresses the importance of doing our part to support the relationship, no matter wgat our partner is contributing or not contr | 12/16/09 | Free | View In iTunes |
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18 |
Six Do's and Don'ts for Promoting Intimacy | All of us want to feel close and connected to our partner, but how do we do that? This program covers six important behaviors to avoid that undermine intimacy. In addition, we discuss six types of behavior that promoted couples feeling close and connected | 12/9/09 | Free | View In iTunes |
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19 |
Enjoying the Holidays | We tend to think of the holidays as fun and pleasant events. But why are they so stressful? This program covers the challenges of the holiday season and how to effectively deal with them. | 12/2/09 | Free | View In iTunes |
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20 |
Just Don't Fight | Fighting is costly and unproductive. We describe and recommend alternatives. | 11/18/09 | Free | View In iTunes |
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21 |
The Platinum Rule | In conjunction with the Golden Rule, this rule guides us to better meet our partner's needs. | 11/11/09 | Free | View In iTunes |
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22 |
Affection and Health | A wide variety of health issues have been linked to affection. We explore this rich and informative research. | 11/4/09 | Free | View In iTunes |
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Steps to Healing a Betrayal | There are concrete steps one can take to rebuild trust and affect after a betrayal and we'll be exploring those possibilities. | 10/28/09 | Free | View In iTunes |
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24 |
Maintaining Daily Connection | Intimacy is a process, not a destination. We recommend daily rituals and tools to sustain connection. | 10/7/09 | Free | View In iTunes |
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25 |
10 Rules for Healthy Friendships | To maintain a healthy relationship, both people have to play by the same set of rules. We'll offer 10 rules that work. | 9/30/09 | Free | View In iTunes |
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The Fable of the Scorpion and the Frog | A discussion of the qualities to look for in deciding who will likely make a good friend and who will not. | 9/23/09 | Free | View In iTunes |
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Four Fundamentals of Healthy Sexuality | Nonsexual, low-tech suggestions for physically intimate partners. | 9/16/09 | Free | View In iTunes |
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28 |
Varieties of Love | The English language is limited to one term for love. We will discuss different kinds of loving relationships. | 9/9/09 | Free | View In iTunes |
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29 |
The Importance of Asking | Intimate relationships function better when people ask clearly for what they want. | 9/2/09 | Free | View In iTunes |
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30 |
Tips for Effective Parenting | The parenting relationship is a complex and special one that requires the parent to assume a dominant and loving attitude. | 8/26/09 | Free | View In iTunes |
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31 |
Emptying the Emotional Jug | Listen in for a communication task for relieving stresses external to our relationships. | 8/19/09 | Free | View In iTunes |
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32 |
Your Emotional Roots | We are emotional beings. Understanding our emotions and how to recognize and control them is necessary in keeping love alive. | 7/14/09 | Free | View In iTunes |
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33 |
Letting Go of Grudges | Individuals in relationships can develop resentments and grudges that can last long periods of time. Intimacy cannot be restored until the grudges are released. Well talk about ways to release, let go, and get back to the love. | 7/7/09 | Free | View In iTunes |
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Levels of Emotional Maturity | Were supposed to mature with age. In the arena of relationships, we may not know what emotional maturity looks like. Well give examples of both mature and immature emotional behaviors. | 6/23/09 | Free | View In iTunes |
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Gender Differences in Intimacy | Men and women approach intimacy in different ways. What appeals to a man may not appeal to a woman. Well discuss the common differences and how to address them. | 6/16/09 | Free | View In iTunes |
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36 |
The Art of De-Stressing | Stress is prevalent just about everywhere in our fast-paced society. Well discuss ways to chill out so that you can warm up your primary relationship. | 6/2/09 | Free | View In iTunes |
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37 |
How to Improve Your Self-Esteem | How we feel about ourselves affects how successful well be in our primary relationship. We provide tips for improving self-esteem so that your relationship isnt hampered by a history of self-criticism. | 5/26/09 | Free | View In iTunes |
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Healing After a Betrayal | The pain of betrayal is often the most difficult relationship challenges to heal. Well talk about the steps necessary for healing and renewed trust. | 5/19/09 | Free | View In iTunes |
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39 |
Relationship in the Workplace | Relationships in the workplace can cross boundaries that place your primary relationship in jeopardy. Well talk about the most common pitfalls and how to avoid them. | 5/12/09 | Free | View In iTunes |
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Relationship Triangles and Jealousy | Relationship triangles and jealousy-it is easy to get caught in triangulation with members of the opposite sex. This episode explores warning signs and suggests ways to maintain your integrity and your relationship. | 5/5/09 | Free | View In iTunes |
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41 |
Relationship Triangles and Jealousy | Join Rev. George today for a discussion on jealousy in relationships and how to deal with it. | 4/29/09 | Free | View In iTunes |
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42 |
Creative Celebration | Join Rev. George today for thoughts on celebrating relationships, creatively. | 4/22/09 | Free | View In iTunes |
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A Communication Power Tool: The Daily Temperature Reading | We can learn to create healthy relationships not just by happenstance but by learning the skills to keep our relationships healthy, loving and fun. Join Rev. George on The Heart of the Matter this week to explore communication tools and how to read one an | 4/15/09 | Free | View In iTunes |
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Our Triune Brain: One Head, Three Brains | Join in for todays discussion on the three-part brain and what it means in terms of relationships. | 4/8/09 | Free | View In iTunes |
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Adult Bonding and Physical Closeness | Tune in for todays discussion with Rev. George Whitton on healthy relationships and creating bonds and developing closeness. | 3/25/09 | Free | View In iTunes |
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46 |
The Art of Negotiating | Join in todays discussion on creating healthy relationships: achieving resolution through the art of negotiating. | 3/11/09 | Free | View In iTunes |
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Essential Communication Skills: Listening and Responsible Complaining | Tune in for todays discussion on essential communication skills for healthy relationships. | 3/4/09 | Free | View In iTunes |
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48 |
Conflict | Differences attract us in the beginning of a relationship but they can become sources of conflict after commitment and marriage. This show explores how we can successfully handle our differences. | 2/25/09 | Free | View In iTunes |
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49 |
Anger Management | Anger is part of the human experience. However, feelings of love and friendship depend on gentleness. We cannot afford to be very angry very often. | 2/18/09 | Free | View In iTunes |
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The Five G’s | The Five GsGentleness, Generosity, Graciousness, Gratitude, and Goodwillare essential attitudes and forms of conduct that support the caring part of a friendship. | 2/11/09 | Free | View In iTunes |
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Guest Rev. Suzanne and Matt Carter | Join Rev. George Whitton and guests Rev. Suzanne and Matt Carter for a discussion on ways to keep relationships alive, fresh, and loving. | 2/4/09 | Free | View In iTunes |
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52 |
Velcro Appreciations | This program focuses on using appreciation to assist in solidifying the foundation of our love and friendship of another. | 1/21/09 | Free | View In iTunes |
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53 |
Friendship Skills | This often neglected part of the relationship can be used to make a relationship seem more warmer, safer, and inviting. | 1/14/09 | Free | View In iTunes |
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54 |
Rebuilding Trust | Trust is the foundation of committed relationship. What can you do to rebuild it if the foundation cracks? Join host George Whitton to find out ways to repair and heal. | 12/17/08 | Free | View In iTunes |
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55 |
Do’s and Don'ts of Intimacy | Six Do's and Six Don'ts to Deepen Intimacy. | 12/10/08 | Free | View In iTunes |
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56 |
Creating Healthy Relationships | Join in the discussion to find out the important role self-esteem plays in intimacy. | 12/3/08 | Free | View In iTunes |
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57 |
Doing Your Part No Matter What! | We can learn to maintain caring and friendliness no matter how our partner is behaving. | 11/19/08 | Free | View In iTunes |
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58 |
The Platinum Rule | In conjunction with the Golden Rule, this rule guides us to better meet our partners needs. | 11/12/08 | Free | View In iTunes |
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59 |
Just Don’t Fight | Fighting is costly and unproductive. We describe and recommend alternatives. | 10/29/08 | Free | View In iTunes |
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60 |
Loving What Is | Rev. George welcomes Loving What Is expert Rev. Martha Creek. They will discuss how using the Loving What Is technique can be used to strengthen relationships. | 10/15/08 | Free | View In iTunes |
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61 |
Maintaining Daily Connection | Intimacy is a process, not a destination. We recommend daily rituals and tools to sustain connection. | 10/8/08 | Free | View In iTunes |
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62 |
The Fable of the Scorpion and the Frog | A discussion of the qualities to look for in deciding who will likely make a good friend and who will not. | 9/24/08 | Free | View In iTunes |
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63 |
Four Fundamentals of Healthy Sexuality | Nonsexual, low-tech suggestions for physically intimate partners. | 9/17/08 | Free | View In iTunes |
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64 |
Tips for Effective Parenting | The parenting relationship is a complex and special one that requires the parent to assume a dominant and loving attitude. | 9/3/08 | Free | View In iTunes |
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65 |
Emptying the Emotional Jug | Description and demonstration of a communication tool for relieving stresses external to the relationship. | 8/27/08 | Free | View In iTunes |
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66 |
Tracing Your Emotional Roots | Not all of our inheritance is physical or material. Some of our inheritance from family concerns patterns and styles of relating to our intimate partners. We'll discuss how our social inheritance affects us. | 8/20/08 | Free | View In iTunes |
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67 |
Letting Go of Grudges | We can be unaware that we're holding a grudge with our partner. This discussion will focus on becoming aware of a grudge and how to move toward forgiveness. | 8/13/08 | Free | View In iTunes |
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68 |
Coping With Bullies | Life often presents us with challenging personalities. Most of us can appreciate help in identifying and dealing with these individuals. | 7/23/08 | Free | View In iTunes |
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69 |
Emotional Maturity | What does it mean to be emotionally mature? This program will explore ways to demonstrate emotional maturity and how we can manifest this state of effective healthy consciousness. | 7/16/08 | Free | View In iTunes |
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Gender Differences in Intimate Relationships: Understanding Venus and Mars | We often are under the illusion that what we want in our intimate relationship is the same thing our partner wants. Well explore the healthy differences that exist between the sexes and how to use them to our advantage. | 7/9/08 | Free | View In iTunes |
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The Ways We Avoid Intimacy | We are often disappointed when we look to and insist others to give us what we need. Well talk about numerous ways to take care of ourselves under conditions of stress. | 7/2/08 | Free | View In iTunes |
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72 |
The Art of Self-Soothing | Our nature is one of love. Yet we get into states of consciousness that work against our nature. We'll explore how we avoid intimacy and how we can get back to the love. | 6/25/08 | Free | View In iTunes |
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73 |
10 Rules of Friendship | Learn the 10 rules for creating a healthy and supportive friendship. To maintain a healthy relationship, both people have to play by the same rules. We'll offer 10 rules that work. | 6/4/08 | Free | View In iTunes |
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74 |
Improving and Maintaining Your Own Self-Esteem. | Adequate self-esteem is an essential ingredient in having and maintaining a healthy intimate relationship. We'll talk about how to create and maintain a fit self-image. | 5/28/08 | Free | View In iTunes |
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75 |
The Ritual of Celebration | Rituals play important roles in committed relationships. Developing meaningful celebration rituals deepens our experience of friendship and pleasure. | 4/30/08 | Free | View In iTunes |
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76 |
Work and Play Balance: Cleaning the Barn vs. Riding the Pony | Healthy relationships have a balance between work time and play time. We'll elaborate on essential differences between work and play and their unique contributions to our relationships. | 4/23/08 | Free | View In iTunes |
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77 |
Discovering the Three Parts of the Triune Brain | Our brains consist of three independent parts working together. Knowledge of these parts is useful in becoming more competent in our relationships. | 4/16/08 | Free | View In iTunes |
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78 |
Adult Bonding and Physical Closeness | A basic element of intimacy is being close and feeling comfortable with your partner. This means learning how to be a source of physical pleasure for you partner. | 4/9/08 | Free | View In iTunes |
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79 |
Listening and Responsible Complaining | Two positive gifts to the process of ironing out differences in a friendly way are listening and responsible complaining. We will describe safe and effective ways to perform each of these skills. | 3/19/08 | Free | View In iTunes |
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Time Out and Anger Management | As we have noted, friendship depends upon being gentle. We simply cannot afford to be very angry with each other very often. Nonetheless, anger is a natural part of any close relationship and occurs with some frequency. The key is to manage the anger. | 3/5/08 | Free | View In iTunes |
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Why Conflict Is Inevitable in Any Intimate Relationship | While differences attract us in the beginning of a close relationship, they can become sources of conflict after prolonged contact. Other sources of conflict stem from differences in gender, family histories, temperament, personality traits and brain biol | 2/27/08 | Free | View In iTunes |
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The Five G's | We will discuss the five G's--the fundamental attitudes which are important to promote affection and friendship. | 2/20/08 | Free | View In iTunes |
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Love Languages | We'll be discussing love languages and caring behaviors. There are many ways to express the love we feel for one another. We'll be discussing how to keep love vibrant through what we say and what we do. | 2/13/08 | Free | View In iTunes |
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Velcro Appreciations | The atomic structure of love and friendship identifies the words and deeds as being appreciated. Velcro, describing how the appreciator feels inside about the words and deeds. | 2/6/08 | Free | View In iTunes |
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Friendship Skills | Well be sharing techniques to keep your relationships healthy, loving, and fun. Dr. Tom and Joyce DeVoge, relationship experts, will join the discussion and give us ideas that will help you create loving friendships. | 1/30/08 | Free | View In iTunes |
| Total: 85 Episodes |
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