All We Cannot Say
By Camilla Ruth
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A podcast about love, sex, joy and heartbreak. We explore the full spectrum of relationships 2.0 twice a month. Open yours ears to honest and tangential conversations with experts on online dating, non-monogamy, sex and technology, sexuality, lgbt, modern romance - no topics is off limits.
||Explicit37: Good Hard Fun with Fine Bone||With a litany of erotic accoutrements to pique our fascination and adventurous side, we're spoiled for choice now more than ever. But what if the best sex toys of all were simple, accessible, and made ethically? It's a question Ffion set out to answer 5||7 8 2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||Explicit36: Five books to love or hate this season||Aside from filling my brain with audio material to expand my love and sex life, books are my favourite source of knowledge. So in this solo episode of All We Cannot Say, I decided to review a handful of books that have impacted my beliefs in the past ye||24 7 2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||Explicit35: How to foster empathy for more meaningful conversations with Kate Kenfield||We’re often taught that listening is the key to a meaningful, expansive conversation. But I’d like to extend our emotional skillset further – empathy is the key to connection and richer relationships. Yet isn’t empathy something that’s we’re||3 7 2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||Explicit34: Tantra for the rest of us with Sarrah Rose||Tantra is an ancient art that conjures up a whole range of descriptions. And as an ancient art, for some its application and meaning is not so easy to grasp. So what is Tantra? After 2 years of debating whether I was ready to explore Tantra on this podc||20 6 2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||Explicit33: Becoming cliterate with Dr Laurie Mintz||I'm thankful to live in a time and place where progressive thinking and equality are celebrated. Do you feel the same way? If you do, you might be just as eager to embrace Becoming Cliterate (2017, HarperOne) with both hands (or just one, if you catch||16 5 2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||Explicit32: Imagining Equality with GiGi Engle||I believe in using your voice and tiny lived experienced for endless creation. And so does Gigi Engle, All We Cannot Say alumni, writer and professional sex educator. It takes a grand supply of chutzpah to be vocal AND heard on the internet, and with th||8 5 2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||Explicit31: Let Us Survive with Liara Roux||On April 11, Trump signed into law two new bills that sex workers say will literally kill them. The bills - Fight Online Sex Trafficking Act (FOSTA) and Stop Enabling Sex Trafficking Act (SESTA) makes websites liable for the content they publish. This||8 5 2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||Explicit30: Thriving in Sex Work with Lola Davina||This particular episode comes at a time when it’s essential to talk about the experiences of sex workers. In the past week, not only was December 17 international day to end violence against sex workers, but December 19 also marked one year since exo||21 12 2017||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean29: Addressing Stigma and Shame with Luna Matatas||Luna Matatas was married once. After a divorce and a sexual renaissance of sorts, she discovered a new-found energy for exploring her sexuality as a curious and empowered woman. Today, she helps singles, couples and new divorcees to traverse new, ero||5 12 2017||Free||View in iTunes|
||Explicit28: Is ethical porn a fantasy or the future of adult entertainment?||Have you ever stopped to think about where your porn comes from, or if porn actors receive fair pay? These aren’t generally pressing questions for the average porn consumer as they scroll through their search results for a 5-minute clip. But as wit||14 11 2017||Free||View in iTunes|
||Explicit27: Deciphering the elusive female libido with Lauren White||A low libido is one of the most common sexual complaints for women. It’s also Lauren White’s area of expertise and her passion. Lauren is a sexologist based in Brisbane, who assists her many satisfied clients to reinvigorate their sexual power a||31 10 2017||Free||View in iTunes|
||Explicit26: Why You Chose the Wrong Person||It's easy to discount our behaviours as instinctive and unshakeable. The way we think and act is often perplexing, even when we’re at our most self-aware. But what we might not be aware of is that there are different systems for thinking and acting,||15 10 2017||Free||View in iTunes|
||Explicit25: Being Honest with Peter C. Hayward||Can you truly be friends with a previous partner? This is a question we’ve explored previously on the blog and on the podcast. But what readers and listeners might not be aware of is that All We Cannot Say is inspired by an honest conversation between||1 10 2017||Free||View in iTunes|
||Explicit24: The Sex Myth with Rachel Hills||Rachel Hills is the author of The Sex Myth, a highly accessible but nonetheless meaty piece of new non-fictional feminist literature. So what exactly is the sex myth? If you’ve ever been burdened by societal rules on ladylike behaviour, you’ll un||1 8 2017||Free||View in iTunes|
||Explicit23: Sex positive education for teens with Row Murray||Many of us believe that teen sexuality is something to be avoided and shamed – and that if we’re to be responsible parents, sisters and brothers, it’s also something we need to do our best to prevent from happening. There are a lot of reasons for||18 7 2017||Free||View in iTunes|
||Explicit22: Manhood and mental health with James Ferne||Men, on average, die five years younger than women, and researchers believe that a big part of that gap is about social isolation. In other words, men are dying before women, to some extent, due to a lack of support amongst men themselves. It’s also||18 7 2017||Free||View in iTunes|
||Explicit21: Should you break up? with Meg Luscombe||Once a couple's Oxytocin rollercoaster comes to a grinding halt, they face a plethora of romantic and personal dilemmas. Whereas once you might have let conflicting values and certain behaviours slide throughout your honeymoon period, you might begin to||18 7 2017||Free||View in iTunes|
||Explicit20: Overcoming fear and anxiety||New to All We Cannot Say? This episode is a great place to embrace fresh perspectives on love psychology, emotional resilience and sexual EQ. Episode 20 is a recap of the most popular episodes from Season Two, with a focus on overcoming fear and anx||8 5 2017||Free||View in iTunes|
||Explicit19: Modern masculinity with Alex White||In 2017, there’s never been a better time to rally for social change, both on a micro and macro level. It's why All We Cannot Say exists - to challenge our perceptions of love and sexuality, and to help readers and listeners enhance their EQ. Yet with||23 4 2017||Free||View in iTunes|
||Explicit18: Conscious Dating with Kaila Perusco||You know how the story goes. Boy swipes right. Girl swipes right. Boy and girl meet. Boy and girl date, ghost, and repeat. It’s a modern love story, no? If you’re feeling defeated and romantically stifled, there is a better way to date. If you've be||9 4 2017||Free||View in iTunes|
||Explicit17: What it feels like for a girl||Last year I found a group of women online who not only focus on promoting their professional identities, but simultaneously (and perhaps not intentionally), work to remove the shame and stigma of erotic labour. There’s room for selfies, humour, friend||26 3 2017||Free||View in iTunes|
||Explicit16: Life of a sex columnist with Gigi Engle||Being a professional sex columnist is a trope that often brings up allusions to a certain curly-haired dame with an extensive shoe collection. Cigarette dangling from her mouth, she breaths out disdain for the trail of hearts and emotional debris left||12 3 2017||Free||View in iTunes|
||Explicit15: Dating with depression and anxiety||There’s a tendency to overdramatise and often romanticise depression and anxiety. A whole litany of tropes spring to mind - the tortured artist, the mysterious girl with sad eyes, the neurotic genius. But mental health is far from glamorous, and I wou||26 2 2017||Free||View in iTunes|
||Explicit14: Future of Sex with Bryony Cole||Have we reached peak dating app apathy? Does technology have a place in the bedroom? These are questions I went to Bryony Cole with. As the host of The Future of Sex Show, Bryony uses her podcast as a means to explore the brave new world of physical in||12 2 2017||Free||View in iTunes|
||Explicit13: Disability and Sexuality with Kirsten Schultz||Sexuality and disability are two subjects that Kirsten Schultz explores on her blog Chronicsex.org. Growing up with multiple illnesses, Kirsten had to navigate her sexuality in a world that had very little online resources for those with disabilities. T||30 1 2017||Free||View in iTunes|
||Explicit12: Vulvodynia Treatment with Hope Kramer||Experiencing pain during sex? It’s not just you - it might be vulvodynia. Chronic vulval pain is not something that’s so easily diagnosed, and in fact, many women don’t even realise they have it. But through searching forums online, Hope Kramer le||29 1 2017||Free||View in iTunes|
||Explicit11: The Future Of Marriage with Erik Newton||Do 50% of all marriage really end in divorce? Is the marriage rate up, or is it down? It seems that the world is more and more confused about marriage now than ever before. Here’s what we do know - the average for marriage has risen from 18 to late 2||29 1 2017||Free||View in iTunes|
||Explicit10: Everything Is Waiting For You||A very personal monologue from Valencia in Spain. It’s the last episode of season one and this time I’m flying solo. Find out what I’ve been up to overseas for the past three months, the problems with travelling solo as a woman, beauty as a commod||4 12 2016||Free||View in iTunes|
||Explicit10: Teaser Trailer||A sneak peak of an incredibly honest discussion about mental health in episode 10.||2 12 2016||Free||View in iTunes|
||Explicit09: Changing directions with James Dominguez||Here’s a startling and lesser known fact: bisexuals endure the worst mental health problems of anyone based on their sexuality. We’re prone to higher rates of depression, anxiety, self-harm and suicidal thoughts, according to a 2012 report. All of t||20 11 2016||Free||View in iTunes|
||Explicit09: Teaser Trailer with James Dominguez||And we’re back. Here’s a sneak preview of episode #9, out Monday November 21. James Dominguez of Bisexual Alliance Victoria speaks to about bisexual erasure, bi-phobia, and why visibility is our most powerful tool in a heteronormative world.||18 11 2016||Free||View in iTunes|
||Explicit08: How to find and make love last - Pierz Newton-John||Pierz Newton-John is a psychoanalyst and published author who teaches classes on love and relationships for the School of Life in Melbourne. In this episode, we talk about the danger of following your feelings, the unconscious mind and how it affects||23 10 2016||Free||View in iTunes|
||Explicit08: Teaser Trailer with Pierz Newton-John||A sneak preview of episode #8, out Monday October 24! Psychoanalyst and published author Pierz Newton-John teaches classes at The School of Life in Melbourne. His content focuses on how to make love last and includes lots of romantic myth busting.||21 10 2016||Free||View in iTunes|
||Explicit07: Going To Our Safe Space - Melina Mariposa Cassidy||Type in ‘relationship anarchy’ into Google and you’ll likely come across Mel Mariposa’s blog. Mel is a relationship counsellor in Canada who specialises in coaching those who practice ethical non-monogamy. She helps them to redevelop, redefine||9 10 2016||Free||View in iTunes|
||Explicit06: Love Is A Doing Word - Damien Tapley||In Episode 6, Camilla interviews ex musician Damien Tapley, now a creator of therapeutic, spiritual experiences. How do you connect from a selfless place? Can you feel the joy of life through sleeping around? What even is sleeping around? Do soul mates||24 9 2016||Free||View in iTunes|
||Explicit06: Teaser Trailer with Damien Tapley||A sneak preview of episode #6, out Monday September 26! Damien Tapley talks to Camilla about casual sex and slut shaming. When does sleeping around turn from good fun to god awful? Listen in to find out.||23 9 2016||Free||View in iTunes|
||Explicit05: Yoni Massage with Vanessa Muradian||In Episode 5, Camilla sits down with sexologist and yoga teacher Vanessa Muradian of Mia Muse, a premium lifestyle and sensuality brand. From Vanessa’s tranquil little zen den in Melbourne, they talk about running a high quality, high end and environm||11 9 2016||Free||View in iTunes|
||Explicit04: Moving Towards||Life coach and meditation teacher Erin Kyna talks to us from Mama Hawaii. In this episode we’re talking all about self-respect, and how to make love last. How do you manage expectations at the start of a relationship? How do you stay independent throu||28 8 2016||Free||View in iTunes|
||Explicit03: More Than Two||Relationship counsellor and head of PolyVic Anne Hunter joins Camilla to talk about polyamory in 2016. What happens when you step off the relationship escalator? How do you explore ethical non-monogamy? What's the number one conversation you need to hav||3 8 2016||Free||View in iTunes|
||Explicit02: Naked with Strangers||Laura Cordero joins Camilla for all the wines and falafel. They talk reality TV and Laura's upcoming appearance on SBS series Undressed, being disappointingly hetero, Freudian theory, Alain de Botton, accepting the love we think we deserve||3 8 2016||Free||View in iTunes|
||Explicit01: It's the Worst||The first episode of All We Cannot Say. Host Camilla has a heart to heart with artist Robyn Wilson (Flutter Lyon) after dealing with the end of a new relationship. Why is love the worst? Why is love the worst drug of all? And how do you get your fix on||3 8 2016||Free||View in iTunes|
||Explicit00: Teaser Trailer||A sneak peak of what's to come for Season One. Writer and feminist Laura Cordero and host Camilla Peffer talk about combining love and work. Can one inspire the other? And why are relationships like business transactions? Do we all secretly date||27 7 2016||Free||View in iTunes|
Wonderfully thought provoking and exploratory. Can't wait for the new season.
I don't want to be overly demanding but...
The worst thing about this podcast is that there isn't a new episode each day.
I Love that She leans into the most intimate and scary topics. No topic remains unexplored and unchallenged.
I love the rapport she builds with guests and how much she is able to get out of each person she interviews. I feel like I'm sitting around a table with tea talking with people I've known for years.
I love the honesty and rawness of the host. multiple times each podcast I think "God that's something I've thought about but never said out loud".
I could go on...
If you're a human and think about relationships in depth, listen to this podcast.
You will wrap up each episode feeling like a conversation with close friends is coming to an end.
To the host - please, please do more episodes more often. Please.