The Mixologist Psychologist's Guide to Life Skills and Social Tricks
This book is available for download with iBooks on your Mac or iOS device, and with iTunes on your computer. Books can be read with iBooks on your Mac or iOS device.
Who better to offer advice on improving one’s social skills and personal interactions than the guy witness to the drunken funhouse lab of human foibles? Is there another occupation where one is at the scene of more hook-ups or failed connections? Sorry, but I don’t think Stuart from Accounting has the same credentials. Your bartender hears the complaints and witnesses the successful interactions. He cringes at the failures and endures the boring. The bartender is versed in small talk. He entertains. He is practiced at the art of keeping things afloat and is always on the lookout for what people want. And based on my experience observing people in bars (and elsewhere for that matter) 95% of the population could use a refresher course in human interaction, social skills and emotional intelligence. Our focus tends to be on improving cognitive intelligence but rarely emotional intelligence. As a result, there’s a massive blind spot that a large chunk of us have when it comes to getting the most out of social situations. This is where the Mixologist Psychologist comes in. There’s validity to the sage, advice-doling bartender cliché. He has racked up thousands of hours studying real world social environments, not academic social theory. The psychologist and sociologist may have an understanding of social science, but the savvy bartender understands the SOCIABLE science. And like a commissioned salesman his take-home pay depends wholly on his social skills. When night after night you’ve watched people either succeed or shoot themselves in the foot, you can’t help but pick up on what works and what doesn’t. I’ve taken that experience and applied it to the business and personal front. But don’t think it’s just a crass primer on “picking up” or a dry, how-to-succeed-in-the-business-world tome. This is a book that can benefit men and women in all sorts of different social environments. I may not be able to make you funnier or better looking, but I can certainly help you fill in the necessary personality traits and social skills you may be missing. Want help nailing that job interview? Make that guy you’ve been interested in, interested in you? Get her to go on that second date? Convince that elusive buyer to do just that? Improve your relationships with friends, family and significant others? Whether you’re a small business owner, local politico or someone just looking for a new relationship, if you incorporate the theories in this book, you’ll have a leg up on 95% of the population. Seeing as life is one big social experiment, it’s a necessity we do all we can to improve our skill set in this area. This book gives you a chance to really look at the way you've been using social situations and to improve upon your methods of getting what you want and who you want. Tipping Back is a self help book that focuses its attention not on the self but the other person, and how that can in turn help you. Techniques such as Soulmating, Yes Anding, Gapping, and The 30 Second Rule will build a powerful social arsenal to be used with office mates, bosses, friends, family and romantic interests. Fed up with choking in that job interview? Seeing others move up the ladder instead of you? Not finding the right person to share your life with? Well, it's time we turned things around and let your bartender tip you for once. Follow his lead and you can change your life forever.