How Shadow Work Helped Me Find My Voice, My Path, and My Inner Gold
Alyce Barry & Cindy Kalman
This book can be downloaded and read in Apple Books on your Mac or iOS device.
Practically Shameless is the first book to explain the compassionate psychology of Carl G. Jung through one person's intimate experiences of shadow, including a riveting first-person account of Shadow Work processes. Practically Shameless reveals for the first time the real buying power of archetypes in daily life for creative self-expression, building self-esteem, getting your power back, letting go of destructive behavior patterns, and overcoming depression and the belief that life holds no meaning.
Many books say they will change your life. Practically Shameless actually will, by explaining for the first time the inner mechanics of change and offering an approach that has worked for thousands of people since 1990. Change is hard because there's a part of the self whose job it is to resist change. It does so for the best of reasons -- to protect us from something it considers worse than the change we want to make. Most of us think of our resistance to change as a problem. Practically Shameless reveals for the first time that our resistance is a good guy, not a bad guy, in our inner drama. It demonstrates the surprising key to turning resistance into forward movement: befriending that resistance by honoring the role it's been playing in protecting us. Once honored, our resistance becomes willing to stand down and to take on, with its treasury of information on risks we've faced in the past, a new role as valued ally as we begin to move forward. An exercise in Chapter 19 invites the reader to step into this inner protector to be honored directly by the author and begin making lasting change. An Appendix on the Shadow Work Model details the specific emotional wound underlying each of the 16 varieties of shadow, to help lift the shame enshrouding it and thus to help facilitate change. With a Foreword by Shadow Work founder Cliff Barry. Also available on audio CD, unabridged, with an illustrated booklet.
This is one of only a handful of books that helped me to see that there are indeed people in the world (in this case, Alyce Barry) that understand my often complex internal life experience.
I loved how Alyce speaks from a place of humility and humanity, sharing her sometimes painful personal journey with absolute certainty that things indeed, can get better.
I've seen the power of ShadowWork over years and appreciate how Alyce explains the concepts of the human shadow and how it trips us up in a simple clear way that's easy to understand.
Combining head and heart she beautifully blends theory with heart felt depth, leaving the reader with more insight, compassion for self and hope that no matter how painful or complicated our past, healing is indeed possible.
I highly recommend this book whether you've been on the path of personal development for ever or just starting out.
A Deeper Way Forward
What I love about Alyce's Book is the lead she offers me. I am more able to sit with who I am and the path I have trodden. Her practically shameless honesty in writing this book makes me more aware of the fabric of my own shadow and her courage helps me persist in shining the light on what I have a habit of hiding. This book offers me the possibility of seeing my shadow through the pain of self judgement and finding joy in a deeper self discovery. Alyce's writing shows the quality of spirit that Nietzsche described in his 3 ages of the human spirit as the age of the child. This is finding joy in life and oneself, right now, as is, shadow and light. This is a very personal account goes well with Robert Bly's "A Little Book On The Human Shadow" and "Meeting The Shadow" edited by Connie Zweig and Jeremiah Abrams.
Simple & Accessible
I am not sure how this book will reach those who have never experienced this type of work before, but if anyone is going to explain it as simply and clearly enough to bridge that gap, then Alyce Barry is the person to do it. Practically Shameless is a beautiful book that, personally, reaffirmed my own shadow work and is also a reminder of the beautiful transformational possibilities available to us all. Her Risk Manager exercise is wonderfully structured for immediate gratification and i would thoroughly recommend a read.