Adversity to Advantage
By By Petra Velzeboer: Therapist, Coach, Speaker.
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Petra Velzeboer is a therapist, facilitator and executive coach. She skilled up after a childhood with no education living in a religious cult that erased her identity and future. Through depression, anxiety, alcohol dependence and suicidal thoughts she reached her rock bottom at 25 and decided she had a choice: to learn how to truly live or to end her life now. Over a decade of experimenting on strategies for success and learning everything about mindset and psychology, her life is 100% different than what it might have been! Her goal is to teach others who are near their rock bottom, to help them learn the fast track for improving their lives! Join Petra as she interviews people from all walks of life about their journey to discovering that their superpowers are nurtured in their pain and their success is crafted through their story.
||Clean53: What's the Gift? with Trevor Crane||Trevor Crane is an international best selling author, publisher, Greatness Quest podcast host and co-founder of superkidsbooks.com! But it wasn’t always this way… Having gone through a $2.2 million bankruptcy where he lost his daughter and his daughter’s mother moved to another state, he’s learned the hard way that success is facing up to countless challenges and realising that as long as you don’t quit you don’t lose - you may fail, but you don’t lose! About 20 minutes in Trevor hits on an emotional nerve with me as he talks through his formula for asking himself ‘What’s the gift, what’s the gift, what’s the gift…’ a hundred times a day in order to make sense of the tragedies that strike our lives. I get real in wondering how we find the gift in the things that hurt us the most and we go through actions for utilising our stories to create impactful messages for others. He’s got some free books and gift in the links below! Amazing content that allows us to push our lives forward in a big way! FREE EBOOKS: How To Write The Right Book Free Download: https://bit.ly/2rsdKHs Big Money Book Free Download: http://bit.ly/2Ca8qk3 To find out everything else about Trevor go here: https://www.trevorcrane.com||15 10 2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean52: Life Goes On with Stephen Thrift||A rare condition called Misophonia threatened to ruin Stephen Thrifts chances at a happy life and has also played a part in helping him find his purpose. Raised in a home with parents in conflict, he experienced extreme bullying at school which he told no one about due to his embarrassment at being a victim. His later marriage developed into a volatile relationship leading to divorce, leaving him so distraught he drank heavily and experienced suicidal ideation. Join me as I discuss how he moved forward to create a great life only to discover he was suffering from a rare condition, Misophonia, literally the ‘hatred of sounds’ with symptoms of irritability and an inability to remain in crowded and noisy places for long. This led to losing jobs and needing to change his entire life around to ensure he manages his condition. Find Stephen and his inspirational career coaching work at stephenthrift.co.uk||8 10 2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean51: Every Single Day with Nate Bailey||Nate Bailey is a lead coach, trainer, author and speaker who helps people create the life they truly desire! A few years back Nate’s life was mediocre and his healthy, work and relationships were suffering. He realised he had to change things and has spent the last few years significantly turning his life around. He’s lost weight, built a business, become an author and a better husband and father. He says ‘The purpose of life is to grow and expand every day’ so he makes sure he does hard stuff every day to build momentum. We break down how to change habits including getting clear on what you want and asking yourself if you’re committed! His daily habits are focussed in these three points: Sweat Meditate Create Find Nate Bailey, his book and services at: http://www.natebaileyspeaks.com||30 9 2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean50: The Expert on building Mental Toughness! with Sarajane Aris||Learn the practical steps for building your resilience and mental toughness from Psychologist, Coach and Author Sarajane Aris. Author of Beyond Resilience, Sarajane gives us simple, practical tips turning our adversity into advantage. Some of my favourite reminders include: Failure is the best practice ground for building mental toughness. Your attitude to dealing with setbacks makes you. We always have a choice in how we respond to life’s adversities. We can shape our brain through neural plasticity. Be compassionate to our tricky brains as it can take a bit of time to change things. What meaning do we give to our adversity. A protected life does you no favours! There is more than one path. Listen to your inner wisdom. Use your resilience muscle or lose it!||24 9 2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean49: Chin Up! This is Adulting! With Ngozi & Obehi||It’s 2 for one this week with TWO amazing stories of adversity turning into a passion business creating wellbeing for busy people! Ngozi spent a decade climbing the corporate ladder, feeling it was just part of ‘normal adulting’ to occasionally want to throw yourself off a bridge or run away from everything! She helped other people with wellbeing strategies but never thought for a second she might be depressed. Her work related stress and anxiety spilled into everything and it took a breakdown on a business trip to force her to turn her life around! Obehi has a background in psychology and working in addiction services; from a traditional Nigerian family, everything was fine until she was 19 and a family car journey ended in her mother being fatally injured! The family coped by acting as if it was business as usual and Obehi travelled to the UK to study and work. Two further bereavements would occur when both her brother and father passed away and Obehi was left with the impact on all aspects of her mental health. They began building a business that would represent their values and passions, which culminated in Aurora Wellness : Mental Wellbeing Services for Busy Lives||16 9 2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean48: How to be Superhuman! with Hari Kalymnios||TedX Speaker and thought leader who started his career in the London stock exchange, learned over time that if we want to be superhuman (the ultimate best version of ourselves), we need to have the physical and mental energy to sustain us. With his extensive knowledge of the practical habits we need to put in place to allow us to live our individual mission, Hari gives us a breakdown of the habits and routines that allow you to live your superhuman life! I love learning more about the connection between our physical and mental health, how we cannot work on one in isolation and expect our best results. Check out Hari's free links and resources here: www.thethoughtgym.com - FREE video series http://harikalymnios.com/ http://thethoughtgym.com/smoothie/ My Superhuman Smoothie http://instagram.com/thethoughtgym/ - Instagram http://youtube.com/thethoughtgym - Weekly videos on YouTube http://thethoughtgym.com/superenergy/ -The Leadership BEAT Model online course||9 9 2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean47: How to Survive Trauma with Matt Pappas||Matt Pappas experienced horrific physical and sexual abuse between the ages of 5 and 10 from teenage boy who threatened to kill the family dog if he ever told. Matt found ways to suppress this trauma until his 2nd divorce at the age of 40 prompted him to get therapy. It was during this process that he realised the long term impact of trauma showed up in crippling anxiety, the inability to form deep connections, self-esteem issues and using alcohol to escape feeling the pain. He began his journey of recovery through therapy, virtual support groups, researching the impact of trauma on neuro-plasticity and now gives a message of hope to other trauma sufferers through his work coaching, providing telephone support groups and running his podcast beyondyourpast.com He is a an anxiety and survivor coach, NLP practitioner and trauma specialist. His tips are practical and include learning to talk about the trauma, overcoming the shame, connecting with people who enhance your life. Through this challenging work, we can find deep connection, happiness and fulfilment that we never thought possible.||2 9 2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean46: Food Addiction, Bulimia and Entrepeneurship with Simone Vincenzi||Simone Vincenzi turns is the co-founder of g-tex, a TedX speaker, a contributor to Huff post and Forbes, his passion is turning experts into authorities within their industries and tops this off with being a basketball player and musician. At 14 he realised his father was an alcoholic, his father left to rehab and life at home drastically changed. The conflict of being a child and needing to step up and be a man led to working in 200 restaurants by the time he was 19, becoming the youngest Michelin star restaurant manager in Europe and eventually driving to build his own successful business. The flip side of this driven young man was someone struggling with food addiction so severe that it led to bulimia and a rock bottom that made him desperate to find help. He spent time in overeaters anonymous, had a coach who supported change and led him onto a path of personal development. We discuss switching addictions and how the joy of being addicted to work can be lack of a social life or looking after our physical health. Simone is vulnerable, authentic and wise in this exciting conversation about what creates change from the worst circumstances. Find Simone at gtex.org.uk and listen to his podcast titled Explode Your Expert Biz||27 8 2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean45: The Expansion Game with Gosia Gorna||Author of The Expansion Game, speaker, transformational coach, Gosia Gorna talks authenticity, vulnerability, and how we choose our path before we're born. Born in Poland to an alcoholic angry father, she experimented early on with meditation, visualising success and using affirmation to change the trajectory of her life. A failed relationship and essentially becoming homeless in the UK, she credits all of this adversity with setting her on the path of success that she now enjoys. A real privilege to have this wisdom on the podcast an to hear about The Expansion Game that will allow you to shift perspective on adversity and growth. Find Gosia at www.gosiagorna.com||20 8 2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean44: Choose Life with Wendy Sage||Wendy Sage is a resilience coach and facilitator on the topics of leadership, positive psychology and mindfulness. She's an epic example of turning life's adversity into purpose as she didn't always work to support people. Starting out as an interior decorator, her second child died in her arms after being delivered by emergency c-section after becoming distressed and being hooked up to a ventilator. Wendy's talks through the pain of not being able to protect her child and how bereavement counselling helped her learn to be present while being connected to loss. She describes this experience as the first spark that she wanted to help people. After divorcing her first husband, she married her second and after just 8 years together he began an 18 month battle with cancer which would claim his life. She still cries at the thought of this loss but describes our resilience like elastic: 'stretched deeper in sadness, you have the capability of stretching in the opposite direction and feeling true joy' Find Wendy at https://www.thesageplan.com||13 8 2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean43: A Transgender Journey with Matt Ellison||Spending 4 decades of life hiding his true nature, Matt Ellison, transitioned from female to male just 4 years ago and is on a mission to educate people on what its like to live in the wrong body. We talk, learning to love yourself, the mental and physical journey, the loneliness of not being able to share your secrets and the fear of losing friends and work colleagues through finally becoming who you truly are. These lessons apply to all of us and will give you greater empathy and insight into this particular journey, one that is still fraught with stigma and isolation. Matt is an inspirational speaker and advocate for this cause, you can connect with him at www.mattellison.co.uk||5 8 2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean42: Roots & Wings with Niven Postma||Niven Postma knows good leadership across a variety of sectors and disciplines and loves nothing more than seeing the light come on in someone's eyes when they get something! Being in a transition state with career and possibilities, she describes how being in flux is both exhilarating and terrifying and that what is brave for one person may not be brave for someone else. With thoughts on how we 'dare greatly', listen to our bodies and try to make decisions that break the patterns of our past habits; we talk toxic relationships, asking for help, burnout and linking ourselves so closely to business that a failure impacts our very core identity. With practical ideas for creating anchor habits and communicating with those who are there for us, Niven is an admirable woman who continues to stretch her skills and direction no matter what stage of life she's in. I thoroughly enjoyed this conversation and know it will offer you both comfort and a kick in the right direction!||30 7 2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean41: Excited to Be Awake with Michael Laidler||Best selling author, keynote speaker, leadership coach, corporate trainer and dad, law enforcement officer we're in for a treat listening to Michael Laidler's views on resilience and leadership. Listen to this one if you're looking to be inspired and raise your game in leadership and success. Raised in a single parent household, with an absent father, and joining law enforcement at 19, Michael learned his work ethic through struggle. We cover topics such as the difference between management and leadership, auditing how you spend your time and training your mind for adversity. Michael advocates for building your mind like working out at the gym - you build it up over time. Find out more about Michael's story, speaking, courses and coaching, at http://michaelalaidler.com||23 7 2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean40: Show No Weakness with Beverley Jones||Beverly Jones is an author, speaker, business mentor and mental health coach who's experienced burnout, mental health issues and is using her experience to challenge stigma and create healthier workplaces. An idyllic childhood besides experiencing school bullying, Beverley moved into a corporate career, working all hours for years until she experienced burnout which triggered her unprocessed bullying past. Unable to talk about what was going on, she left her job to recover her physical and mental health, was given antidepressants by her doctor and after self-harming and contemplating suicide she slowly utilised her experience as a catalyst for changing everything. We discuss how our inner critic can be worse than any stigma as she told herself that none of her previous achievements mattered, she devised the 7 signs you're not coping including persistent sadness, physical health problems, paranoia, anger, tearfulness and how communication is the best medication. Find Beverley at www.awakencoaching.co.uk where you can find her amazing book Made it Thru the Rain||16 7 2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean39: The Cycle of Abuse with Richard Reid||Richard is a personal trainer, coach and is passionate about family and paddle boarding, but it wasn't always this way. Growing up without a father and intensely bullied at school, he learned early on to be resourceful and use his anger to protect himself from injustice. Experiencing several relationships that culminated in emotional abuse towards him, Richard is brave and authentic in stating that the cycle of abuse carried on to his becoming the abuser within a relationship himself. His rock bottom led to a 6 month sabbatical in Asia where he determined to re-write the rule book on his life. There's so much wisdom in this one including: the difference between loneliness and nurturing yourself by being alone, how training and being outside act as a healthy distraction from old patterns of behaviour, how helping others can be an unhelpful formula if not tempered with boundaries and how connecting with nature allows him to be the best father and husband he can be. An amazing privilege to have had him as my PT when working through an injury and a divorce, Richard's strength and calm allowed me to regain my fitness and confidence during a challenging time. Find Richard at Upcurve Personal Training||9 7 2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean38: 6 Months to Live with Abby Bushell||Abby Bushell knows adversity. 1 of 7 kids, she learned early on that the way to have a voice was through looking after everyone else. A string of domestic abuse relationships led to what Abby describes as becoming a functioning depressive, someone who held down a job and parented her daughter, but gained no joy or fulfilment in life. Being unable to ask for help she ended up in temporary accommodation for homeless people and had moments where she wanted to end her life. Thinking she had appendicitis, she was taken to hospital to discover she had a tumour attacking her gall bladder, appendix and bowel and was given 6 months to live. Going into survival mode and eventually making a miraculous recovery, her real trauma hit her a year later when her mind caught up to how much she'd been through and she decided to live the life she wanted. Quitting her corporate job and retraining as a trauma specialist using EMDR therapy, hypnotherapy and coaching, she set up her own business www.hypnocoach4change.com where her aim is to empower people through change by guiding them to achieve their intended outcomes. An incredible story of resilience through the adversity where she truly exemplifies the idea that you can turn your worst pain into your biggest advantage.||1 7 2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean37: Name That Shame with Cahit Ali||If you want to learn how to turn the most challenging childhood into an opportunity for growth and happiness then this interview if for you! Cahit Ali, growing up with a paranoid schizophrenic alcoholic father, internalised intense shame, guilt and fear, which stayed with him throughout his adult life. When his first boyfriend died suddenly in a car incident, he spiralled into intense physical symptoms of grief and shock that he was unable to do things for himself for months. We go deep in discussing how we can nurture growth in our pain, how to build resilience to the stuff that limits you and how physically being outside supports growing a new perspective of possibility. Rather than avoid the darkness and the shame, Cahit explains how we must face up to it and look it square in the face in order to generate any kind of advantage from it. Get your Monday rocking with the 37th episode of Adversity to Advantage. Find Cahit at http://www.cahitali.com and @cahitali on insta and twitter.||25 6 2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean36: Shame Vs Connection with Ann Betz||Ann Betz is an expert on the neuroscience of human consciousness and coaching and we go deep into topics such as resilience, attachment, amygdala hijacks and how to communicate what we need. Growing up in an alternative household with her parents in an open marriage, her rock bottom came at 17 when she lost all her hair to alopecia and had to reframe her identity as an adolescent and young actress. We talk about the impact of free love environments on children and how this plays out in adult relationships and our need to belong. We define both parenting and intimate relationships as the hot-bed for anything triggering and how we can learn to understand how to manage our brains primal responses and break the patterns of our past. An exciting conversation that is both practical and academic and taught me more about myself, my parenting style and what identity and belonging mean to me. Find Ann at beaboveleadership.com||17 6 2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean35: Addicted to Pain - Jen Loong's Entrepreneurial Journey||Diagnosed with borderline personality disorder right before starting wandersnap.co , Jen knows first hand how important it is to look after yourself while creating dynamic change in the world. Authentic and direct about utilising DBT (Dialectical Behaviour Therapy) to give her the tools for handling stress and self-doubt in the roller coaster entrepreneurial journey. At 28, Jen leads by example in how millennial can make a difference in communities around the world. Jen Loong 龙晓灵is the snap-happy founder for a new type of travel tech startup that marries photography with social impact. Jen’s vision is to start an empathy movement, where vanity can create social good with real income opportunities in developing communities is. Living truly as a global citizen tracing her upbringing in HK, Vancouver and Shanghai, Jen has since travelled to 42+ countries photographing underprivileged communities, and speaking five languages in total. Her stories from the road can be seen in the Huffington Post, VICE, Globe and Mail, just to name a few. You can view more of her experiences in running the inaugural North Korea Pyongyang Marathon, farming in a Nepali women’s co-op, and dancing in the matriarchal Mosuo tribe in Yunnan, all on http://www.jenloong.com, or on Instagram @loongstoryshort. To marry her passions for deeper social impact and story-telling, Jen is launching her own venture www.wandersnap.co – a travel photographer for-hire platform as a means to offer job opportunities around developing worlds. Creativity should not be a first-world privilege. Jen’s venture has been accepted as one of 24 from around the world as part of UPenn Wharton’s Global Social Impact House cohort for 2016, through which the venture will come into full fruition.||11 6 2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean34: Peak Performance and a fresh Perspective on Addiction with Nick Elvery||Every once in awhile I get really excited about an interview and this is one of them! Nick's had loads of rock-bottom moments, including doing crystal meth in Cambodia and descending into the dark, lonely place of drug and alcohol addiction. His father suffered from MS for years before passing away right when Nick decided he had to try something to save his own life. While the first 3 steps of recovery helped him kickstart his journey, he gives insight into alternative ways to get what you need when changing your whole outlook on life which is refreshing and current. Not attending recovery groups anymore myself, it seemed this route was sacrilegious to those who swear by recovery rooms being the only way. What seems true for both of our stories is that community and accountability are key in changing any habit and Nick has created an entrepreneurs' community to do just that, enhance productivity by biohacking our bodies and our brains in order to live at our truest potential. We get into sugar addiction, self-worth, meditation, nutrition and forming new habits and how no adversity needs to stand in the way of teaching ourselves a new way to be! Nick Elvery is a performance coach, runs a podcast and entrepreneur community so get involved today!||4 6 2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean33: It Get's Better - with John Schless||John Schless is the Chief exec for the Student Union at Greenwich University discussing his journey from a small town setting as head boy at school with girlfriends, to moving to university and coming out as gay. We discuss the adjustment his parents needed to make, how he internalised his struggle with gay shame and turned to food as escapism, how he understands his body and his mind now and the advice he would give to his younger self. While we muse on how cuts in the UK are impacting services that could support young people coming to terms with their sexuality, we also notice how the world is changing and there are more avenues than ever to get support from friends and communities online. John's advice if you're struggling now is: It Gets Better. No state stays the same, so hold on and notice what is in your power, including how you look after your body and mind.||28 5 2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean32: The Daring Way with Jacqui Scjenitzer||Jacqui is a facilitator for Brene Brown's The Daring Way workshops and knows all about developing self compassion in order to be brave. I enjoyed this conversation so much as Jacqui models vulnerability and encourages me to do the same. We discuss what we're not taught growing up such as understanding emotion, dealing with fear, that its sometimes ok to be angry and how to create useful boundaries. A perfectionist by nature, Jacqui's rock bottom came when she realised she would never be a mother after 15 years of IVF, miscarriages and fertility appointments. She talks us through the journey of resenting pregnant mothers, feeling triggered and finally learning that resisting our own story is pointless. Being a reluctant parent myself we discuss how we never fully understand the journey someone else is on but if we can be brave and share we can create deep and lasting connections. Connect with Jacqui Scjenitzer at braveologist.co.uk||20 5 2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean31:When ok is not enough! withTomas Svitorka||Join me for a counter argument on why you don't need to hit rock bottom in order to make choices that improve your life! While Tomas Svitorka definitely experienced some adversity, he chooses to view this simply as life, without the possibility of holding him back. In fact, he wants life to be hard because he knows if he overcomes those challenges he'll make a bigger impact in the world through his work. One day, while working a mediocre job, Tomas realised that he could live his life being ok and not questioning anything or he could realise that 'ok is not enough' and picture a different life, one that he built himself! We ask questions like 'when are we enough after we ingrain the habit of achievement' , 'how do we choose to look at our adversity' and 'how learning to enjoy the journey' impacts our happiness. For those in my audience who were raised in a sect of some kind, be sure to listen 45 minutes into the conversation. Tomas gives great practical tips on the impact on our lives and how authenticity and truth take away the mountain of shame that holds us back. Find Tomas at tomassvitorka.com||13 5 2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean30: Recovering Perfectionist with Valerie Teller||Valerie Teller is all about intuition. Listening to her body for the signs it gives her on which way to move her life forward. It's something I forget time and time again and this conversation reminds me of the information our gut instinct has for us, not only to keep us safe but to set us on the path for fulfilment. 'We're told that we should want certain things...' Valerie says, of her endless studying to be an international lawyer and barrister. Really, she just wanted to be an actress but was taught early on to suppress such silly ideas. She bravely talks about a childhood trauma that can still impact her today and how she now embraces vulnerability in order to connect and look after her wellbeing. If you've ever felt you were not allowed to fail and if you did became deeply depressed and self-critical then this podcast is for you. Learn the art of self-compassion and how the things that could destroy us can actually propel us to grow into our true power! Find Valerie Teller at http://switchedoncoaching.com||8 5 2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean29: "I'm Fine" with Nicholas Morgan||Co-Director of Euro Youth Mental Health, Nicholas Morgan knows mental health and young people! "I didn't realise anything was wrong until it broke " he says, of the build up of stress and the pressures leading to a breakdown while driving on the motorway. With no education about how to notice the signs of burnout and stress in his own body, this surprising experience led him on a path to therapy, reaching out to his support network and talking to his boss about his mental health needs. Nick talks early conditioning, educating your family on how to help and putting in routines and practices to support a successful life. Find Nick on Twitter and Facebook||29 4 2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean28: Taking the Business Leap with Natalia Talkowska||Natalia is a top creative mind and runs an agency Natalka Design specialising in visual storytelling that works with TED/Microsoft/Gov etc. She also launched Doodleledo - fun social experience for anyone who says 'I can't draw!' ran in 20 countries and growing. Find Natalia at www.natalkadesign.com and @natalkadesign This conversation is all about the entrepreneurs journey, from closed minded thinking sticking to the day job, to jumping in with both feet into her own business. An industry that didn't exist as an option in her home country of Poland. 'The only person who will make it happen is you' says Natalia as she applies her work ethic and determination to everything she does. Running a successful business for 6 years, this one is for anyone who has a dream but is scared of making the jump.||22 4 2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean27: F**k up Often but show up Anyway with Sian Rowsell||I messed up! I forgot to press record! I decide to show up anyway & jump in with my off-the-cuff thoughts on the catalysts that force us to change. We catch the last 20 minutes of the amazing Sian Rowsell who won a small business coach of the year award and talks us through: How to think bigger. How to be brave in business. Ask yourself what's your strategic plan for designing your LIFE not just your work. Do what you love even if it's risky! It's a short one but its a good one! Find Sian at www.sianrowsell.co.uk||15 4 2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean26: Bipolar Psychologist Prof. Jamie Hacker Hughes on being your True Self||SO excited about this interview! Professor Jamie Hacker Hughes talks bipolar disorder, suicidal ideation, 9 months in plaster after a bone operation at 2 years old, a career in the army, clinical psychology and as European minister for the 3rd order of Franciscans. He talks working in sales with every material possession and being deeply miserable, taking a 90% pay cut to find his path and the usefulness of being open about his mental health within the professional work he does. An inspiration in all aspects of his life, this interview is filled with practical tips for looking after yourself and following the path that is your truth. He has 4 main priorities: Family, Psychology, Religious Order and Academic Professorship. His life is full, filled with giving and living his purpose but guarded with strict boundaries that allow him to sustain his level of success. I learned so much from this one! You will too!||8 4 2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean25: The Paper Cuts that Build Unhappiness - with Dea Fileva||From corporate life to actress and coach, Dea Fileva, knows first hand the pressures of conditioning on the path we take. Dea describes how our parents and society push us into a life that they want us to go in, not one that nurtures our dreams and 30 years in, every paper-cut of giving up on our dreams builds up until we numb the reality so that we don't have to face the hard road of changing things. Her rock bottom came when she realised her life was defined by boredom. Completely successful on the outside, her parents and friends were shocked when she said she'd give it all up to study acting, to feel fully alive. When there's no extreme abuse or 'bad upbringing' it can be even more difficult to realise that it's up to you and only you, to find the fulfilment and happiness you crave but Dea explains how one step at a time can change everything.||2 4 2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean24: Don't Bottle it Up with Mark Cook||This is the first time Mark Cook is telling his story on a public platform and what a privilege to hear his journey. With no father in his life, an alcoholic mother, losing his gran at 8 years old and figuring out his sexuality, he had a mental breakdown while on the M6 motorway which led him to resign from his job and begin his path to recovery. We discover how leading an inauthentic and double life due to shame has a negative impact on mental health and will eventually leak out. Mark's message is simple: Don't bottle it up because the bottle will eventually explode. Mark is a perfect example of using his adversity as a stepping stone to helping people through his platform BeOpen. Connect with Mark on LinkedIn or connect with him on his Be Open website.||25 3 2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean23: I choose Life with Robin Coghlan||With 3 rock bottoms, including leaving home at 16, corporate burnout and leaving the perfect relationship, Robin and I go deep into what it takes to be fully alive. We talk about our fight or flight survival instincts impacting intimacy in relationships, how physical symptoms of burnout and stress are often pointing to not living a passionate life and how it's not about being happy or sad, it's about being fully ALIVE! I love this so much because it connects with the choices I've made, how amazing it is to fully feel, even if that means we connect to pain or sadness, at least we're truly connecting as we are! Robin's story is incredible, filled with adventure and a quest for personal development which will connect with anyone who wants to push for the life they want but isn't quite sure how. Connect with Robin on LinkedIn or leave a comment on petravelzeboer.com/podcast/||19 3 2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean22: Grief and Depression - a practical guide to finding Joy with Sam Allen||So Sam Allen lost her dad in December 2015 and this podcast is packed with practical ways to process grief and manage depression symptoms through creativity and connection. She experienced a happy childhood with her parents messy divorce prompting her first taste of adversity and subsequent depression. Her depression episodes are described as frightening, numb, detached and very physical and losing her father, her hero, was soul destroying. Her love of words and poetry crafted her journey to healing and her practical ideas for remembering those we've lost will be relatable to anyone who's ever lost someone they love. Find her poetry blog at https://peacockpoetryblog.wordpress.com and on LinkedIn if you want to connect with her coaching that uses creativity for grief and dealing with strong emotions.||12 3 2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean21: How losing a child built a zest for life with Adele Duncan||So excited to interview Adele Duncan, an amazing woman who mentored me a few years back when life was particularly challenging. She's the CEO of a gambling addiction organisation and has the most amazing work ethic I've ever seen. After having a son, they discovered their newborn daughter Paige had a genetic disorder that would sadly mean she would pass away at 2 1/2 when her brother was just 5. Join me as I interview Adele on the resilience that was built through an unimaginable time of doctor's appointments and trying to make the best life for her son. She was determined to let this tragedy teach her to live life to the full but just six months after her daughters death, her body and mind crashed to a place of depression and she was advised to take time off work to look after herself. With a work ethic so instilled in her from childhood, asking for help felt like admitting defeat but through this experience she learned she had to recognise when to slow down in order to fully live. Adele's message is simple: You only have one life, live it to the full. Be fully yourself, notice how to care for you, take every opportunity that comes and love like there's no tomorrow!||4 3 2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean20: Recycle your Pain into Power with Mike Cooper||At only 21, Mike C is the youngest person we've ever had on the podcast, but his wisdom is that of a much older man. After some comfortable younger years living in Germany while his step-father was in the army, it was a shock to his 11 year old system to move to inner city London with 3 siblings, parents and grandparents in a 2 bed flat. HIs behaviour at school declined and at 14 he was permanently excluded from mainstream education and sent to a behavioural unit or PRU. At 15 he was kicked out of his house and sofa-surfed with friends, giving him the biggest lesson in independence and at 18, his life was to change forever, as his step-father was sent to prison for 30 years for attempted murder. At 18 Mike was now the man of the house and had to step up to support his mother and his siblings. At 18 he figured out he needed to learn how to change perspective on his role in life or everything would fall apart. This is a good one! It brings me right back to the early days of my career working with kids excluded from school. Get some insight on how to make your dreams reality no matter what pain is surrounding you. Connect with Mike on Instagram mike_cooper17 and check out his Youtube channel||26 2 2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean19: How to be the Role Model you never had with Nelson Rodrigues||What a privilege to interview the passionate Nelson Rodrigues, the founder of Father's Nation, who was determined to break the cycle of uninvolved fathers and teach other men to be the role model they never had growing up. Nelson believes that masculinity needs to adapt to suit new times and men who don't evolve can end up suicidal if they don't let their voice be heard and learn a new way of being. Growing up in a traditional household with lots of siblings and a father away working, he moved to the UK at 16, leaving both is twin sister and his mother at home. Nelson himself was suicidal in his early 20s as he struggled to find his way and the only thing that helped was talking to one of his sisters one drunk night and realising that was the first step to moving his life forward. His message is for men to reach out and ask for help.||18 2 2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean18: Turn your Fear into Fierce with Brita Fernandez Schmidt||I first heard Brita speak a few years ago and was blown away by her passion and courage in speaking her truth. She was the quintessential example of fully being yourself on the frontline of humanity captured fully in her TEDx talk I had the great privilege of being in the same room as Brita as we talked through the story that got her where she is today as Director of Women for Women International an amazing organisation that supports women in countries affected by conflict, make meaningful change in their own lives, their children's and communities. Brita is down to earth and practical and sparks off my own story and a discussion about how to fit in habits and routines that allow us to live successful, purposeful lives as working mothers. Us women play small all the time, we don't want to be seen as hysterical, angry, ugly or over the top, so we hide our true ambitions and our fiery truth for the sake of peace and being a 'good person' but this isn't sustainable because our truth goes somewhere and comes out anyway, in displacement, regret, depression, explosive rage, you know how it goes. How much better to fully stand out in the full glory of our purpose and create real impact in the world! I'm so excited to put this conversation out into the world! Connect with Brita at @BritaFS and if you're looking for a great cause check out Women for Women International www.womenforwomen.org.uk||11 2 2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean17: How Courage Is Built through one small Action a Day||'I learned early on that if I didn't push hard in any direction then I would never be disappointed...so I floated through life and just fell into things' Join me for my conversation with Chris Day as we explore the down side to staying safe. As soon as he attached importance to a task or career, he developed crippling anxiety and describes falling into jobs and relationships as a way of avoiding making any conscious decisions about the direction in his life, after all, if you weren't attached you couldn't be disappointed if you failed. The fear of doing it wrong led to hyper-vigilance and intense physical psychosomatic symptoms which allowed him a 'logical' reason to not take risks.||29 1 2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean16: From Drug Addiction to Counselling Addicts with Gary Aldridge||'By the time I took my GCSEs I was so addicted to drugs that there was no chance I would get any grades' Ten years of drug use including stints in prison, homelessness and stuck in a cycle of the criminal justice system, Gary attended his first rehab in prison at 21. On probation at 27 he met a man who acted as a mentor and had been 6 years clean and sober. Wishing his whole life that he would have received mentoring instead of punitive punishment, Gary finally got the mentoring and guidance he'd been searching for through a recovering addict who volunteered to work with him.||21 1 2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean15: How Good Customer Service Changes Everything with Abraham Venismach||'The key to everything in life is your will and your imagination' What an adventure this episode is! A story that spans a childhood in LA with the crips, the bloods, getting robbed daily and struggling to fit in to survive. Moving to Israel alone at 17 and then backpacking through Guatemala, facing bandits head on, his biggest challenge was his business descending into $70,000 in debt with no obvious way out!||15 1 2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean14: Purpose, Codependency and what it means to be a Man||'Who am I without the stories from my mum and dad, the stories I tell myself about who I am' Phil Askew muses. Phil learned early on to take on the role of peacemaker in his house which carried on into his adult life as a rescuer in relationship with no space for any other emotions. His advice is, do the work to become your own parent so that when you're in relationship you can be side by side taking on the world as a team rather than playing a codependent rescuer and victim. An inspirational message that (of course!) takes me where I need to go, noticing which emotions are ok (together, confident, cool) and which emotions are not (tears, anger, overwhelm). What if that's just the story we're conditioned to believe and really we can teach ourselves to play out our full range of emotions, the whole spectrum of what it means to be alive! Find Phil Askew at http://www.luminouslives.com and find out how you can live your mission!||7 1 2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean13: Your Moments of Fear Define You with Alex Rudnicka||'If you have a dream it is your responsibility to protect your dream and fight for it no matter what anyone else says' Have you ever thought of leaving that job, starting that business, investing in yourself but thought your circumstances made it impossible? If so, this is the podcast to get you started for 2018! You will be defined in your moments of fear. Your journey may not be confident strides into success, it may be the decisions you make while weeping alone on your bathroom floor. That's where dreams are made. Alex started her journey in Poland with an unambitious family and a Tony Robbins book in her bedroom. She bought a one-way ticket to London with £70 in her pocket and barely any English because she wanted a different future. When you feel like there is no way you can better your circumstances, there is always a way that you can. www.alexrudnicka.com I love a New Year, I love the re-set button, I love looking back at what I've achieved and creating a map of the New Year. It's not cheesy if you actually make it happen! Happy New Year!||1 1 2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||Explicit12: How to Be a Man with Simon Seligman||'It was a profound mistake to send me away to boarding school. I was 8 years old and I was homesick continuously until I was 15' Simon Seligman is a life coach with 25 years experience in the Arts & Communication industry. While this story couldn't be farther away from my own, the skills for getting through life's difficulties resonate with me profoundly! I don't know how it is that each interview seems to give me exactly what I need to get me through to the next level!||25 12 2017||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean11: How badly do you want it? - with Happiness Consultant Samantha Clarke||Samantha Clarke is a happiness consultant, lecturer at The School of Life and runs an online Growth and Happiness school, to name just a few of her many achievements.||17 12 2017||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean10: Dynamic Leadership in Business & at Home with Mark Villareal||Mark Villareal is an Author, Speaker, Leadership & Strategic Planning Consultant with international best selling books 'Leadership Lessons from Mom' and 'Shortcuts get you lost'.||11 12 2017||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean9: From Domestic Violence to Domestic Bliss with Tania Brown||New Years is still a day Tania Brown hates due to the drinking starting early and an argument guaranteed to take place.||3 12 2017||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean8: From Bankruptcy to Success with Danielle Macleod||A childhood of eating disorders and not fitting in, Danielle then found love and ran a business which threatened her with bankruptcy after just 10 months. Having been head of HR at 26 she was now reduced to playing endless video games locked in the isolation of her shame. Join me as we uncover the tools she's cultivated to develop a mindset that saw her through depression, debt and into a life of fulfilment and purpose. Filled with practical insight on those very first steps to recovery (go outside!) right into recognising toxic situations before they become overpowering (leave that job if you know its not right!) to the learning that comes from literally having nothing, Danielle will show you that if you keep moving forward you can build up the life you want.||26 11 2017||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean7: How fully being yourself brings success & fulfilment - with Daniel Holley.||Diagnosed with ADHD as an adult, he spent his whole life trying to fit into other people's rules of who he should be, being told he wasn't good enough, was stupid and would never amount to anything. Behind the extrovert, passionate exterior, lay a man drinking to numb the pain of depression and low self worth. Daniel finally decided to say f**k-it and just be who he was because the only other choice was ending his life as the torture of hiding away was just too much. Being himself has created a trajectory of success and fulfilment that he never thought possible and he's now created his own brand of public speaking based on breaking all the rules and being your true self. A fascinating example of turning your Adversity into your biggest Advantage! www.1stnature.co.uk||19 11 2017||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean6: Amanda Devine on Burnout, Bereavement and Cancer||Life had been comfortable with little adversity showing up until Amanda Devine's father died. Using work as a weapon for coping she pushed herself through the pain until burnout forced her to stop. Not being able to articulate what help she needed and worried that friends would think she was mad, she couldn't admit how she felt as she was terrified that her whole 'superwoman' identity would disappear and she'd be left with nothing. Travelling to find herself, she returned to London only to find a lump in her breast. The 3rd person in a family of 4 to experience cancer, Amanda scheduled this interview in between chemotherapy treatments, determined to talk about her learning, despite currently being in the thick of adversity. A privilege and an honour to listen to her real and authentic life lessons that I know will enrich anyone's life who listens. See more about Amanda Devine at www.amandadevine.com||12 11 2017||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean5: Chris Richards on how hypnotherapy cures depression and how to feel truly empowered!||If you've ever wanted to learn about hypnotherapy and its impact on confidence and depression then this episode is for you.||5 11 2017||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean4: How to Build your Self Worth - with Harriet Waley-Cohen||EP 004: How to Build your Self Worth - With Harriet Waley-Cohen. Health and Wellbeing Coach.||30 10 2017||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean3: Oskar Marchock on: How to find the will to Live||How to Find the Will to LIve - with Oskar Marchock.||13 10 2017||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean2: How to stop comparing from controlling your life with Nicola Arnold||Learn to stop comparing from controlling your life with Nicola Arnold||13 10 2017||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean1: Reaching the Finish Line with Kallen Diggs||Reaching the Finish Line - with Kallen Diggs.||1 10 2017||Free||View in iTunes|
Brilliant and inspiring
I've really enjoyed every episode, they've been extremely useful and interesting. Whether you relate to the guests' experiences or not, the talks always offer extremely useful lessons for dealing with everyday challenges or longer term issues. The discussions are humbling, inspiring and empowering...can't wait for the next episode!
A very good listen!
I’ve listened through the first episode with Oskar and they touch upon subjects that are fairly close to me, and I seem to agree with the analysis quite a bit. I like Petra’s neutral stance through the whole episode as she lets the guest speak and make his points very clearly and this format seems to work very well especially for what seems to be a very difficult set of topics for a person opening up. can’t wait to listen to more interviews. Thoroughly recommended!
Why you should give these a listen!
Super motivational podcasts, episode 2 in particular was just what I needed to hear the other morning! I recently went self-employed and it can be oh so easy to feel isolated and doubt yourself. Coupled with this I'm facing my own demons with unhealthy indulgences in alcohol and food to fill the empty space I have with too much time on my hands whilst not feeling motivated to DO anything about it.
Petra unpicks the fears we all have (but maybe don't know how to express) in such a down to earth manner, when you listen to her talk you feel confident that she 'gets' the listener and isn't just talking at you.
If you want to kick start your positive mindset and need a little help getting back on track then give these a listen!