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Meet openminded singles or couples. Straight, gay, bisexual, polysexual and pansexual humans. It's not just about threesomes, it's about feeling comfortable with your sexuality. I am more than a dating app, I can help you reinvent your sex life.

* What media is saying:
"Have you grown tired of Tinder? No longer hooked on Hinge? Sick of gadding about on Grindr? Well, if you’re on the hunt for a new dating app with a new twist, say hello to 3nder..." —

"It’s a good time for 3nder to launch: A worldwide study released last year by the Metro publication showed 20 percent of people have had a threesome — up from 14 percent a decade ago." — NY Post

as well as Cosmopolitan, Vice, New York Magazine, NBC, The Independent, Huffington Post, Salon and many others.

* Won't publish anything on your Facebook*

* My mission
Our perception of love evolves faster than our society. With me you can explore your sexuality, away from social pressure.

How am I different from Tinder, OKCupid and other dating apps?

* Privacy things
You can come up with your Imaginary Name, so you don't have to use your real one. Nothing will be shared on your Facebook wall or whatever. When you sign up with me, you can use an imaginary name, just in case you are not happy with your real one.

* Incognito. Hide from Facebook friends
I can help you hide from Facebook friends who are using me.

* Curiosity
Have you swiped lot's of people but you still don't have a match? With Curiosity you can see all the people who liked you but you didn't liked them. This way you can get more matches quicker.

* Matching with people around you.
I only match you with people who are looking for you. From 0 to 300km away anyone who shares your desires will pop out on Lookaround part of the app.

* Unlimited free group chat or 1on1
1on1 or group chat, all you have to do is invite someone from the matches you already have. No need to share your WhatsApp or Kik Messenger, keep naughty conversations in one place.

* Why I charge?
I have no paywalls. But I have premium feature. I have no advertising and I don't sell your data. I try to be as cool as possible, I only offer you cool features that you can play with and support me at the same time.

* 3 playful steps
1. Swipe up when you like somebody
2. Message them if the feelings are mutual
3. Have a playful meetup

* Testimonials from awesome humans:

"Thank you for the app, we have tried Tinder before, but people were just treating us as weirdos. We finally feel comfortable exploring new horizons in our sex life."

"I have tried Tinder, Zoosk, POF but seems like 3nder is the only place I can find truly openminded people. Thank you for making polyamorous lifestyle an easy thing."

"Stupid app! Fix your bugs!" - Yes we get those too, it's not all pink.

* Need help? Something is broken? You have a great idea?
Feel free to get in touch, I have a lovely, but busy team of people who take care of awesome people. Just swipe down with two fingers while you are in the app.

What's New in Version 2.1.8

Less buggy buggy.

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Customer Reviews

Great idea, some hot people, but the app...

There really aren't that many people using this app. The ones that do though, tend to be fairly sane and attractive, and that's made both my wife and I pretty happy.

The app itself leaves quite a lot to be desired though. The messaging capabilities are terrible and enfuriating. I get notifications for messages that I can't read, people leaving a conversation I didn't know I was in... And the "customer service" is an automated message telling you to download the latest update.

Great idea, worth signing up for for lack of a better option (if you're super patient), but the execution leaves a lot to be desired.

Anyone out there??

The app itself works ok but I don't think this concept is mainstream enough for there to be a big enough user base. Maybe it is skewed towards single/available females (what dating site isn't?) but you can "Like" countless people and not get a single reply. It's such a waste of time that it's almost comical to log in and just see the absolute wasteland that is your Inbox.

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  • Free
  • Category: Social Networking
  • Updated:
  • Version: 2.1.8
  • Size: 16.2 MB
  • Language: English
  • Seller:
You must be at least 17 years old to download this app.
  • Infrequent/Mild Sexual Content and Nudity
  • Frequent/Intense Mature/Suggestive Themes
  • Infrequent/Mild Cartoon or Fantasy Violence
  • Infrequent/Mild Profanity or Crude Humor

Compatibility: Requires iOS 7.0 or later. Compatible with iPhone, iPad, and iPod touch. This app is optimized for iPhone 5.

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Top In-App Purchases

  1. Curiosity – 1 month$2.99
  2. Incognito — 365 days$0.99
  3. Incognito$2.99