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Date kinky, curious and openminded singles and couples. It's about feeling comfortable with your curiosity about sexuality.

* What media is saying:
"Have you grown tired of Tinder? No longer hooked on Hinge? Sick of gadding about on Grindr? Well, if you’re on the hunt for a new dating app with a new twist, say hello to 3nder..." —

"It’s a good time for 3nder to launch: A worldwide study released last year by the Metro publication showed 20 percent of people have had a threesome — up from 14 percent a decade ago." — NY Post

as well as Cosmopolitan, Vice, New York Magazine, NBC, The Independent, Huffington Post, Salon and many others.

* Won't publish anything on your Facebook*

* My mission
Our perception of love evolves faster than our society. With me you can explore your sexuality, away from social pressure.

How am I different from Tinder, OKCupid and other dating apps?

* Privacy things
You can come up with your Imaginary Name, so you don't have to use your real one. Nothing will be shared on your Facebook wall or whatever. When you sign up with me, you can use an imaginary name, just in case you are not happy with your real one.

* Incognito. Hide from Facebook friends
I can help you hide from Facebook friends who are using me.

* Curiosity
Have you swiped lot's of people but you still don't have a match? With Curiosity you can see all the people who liked you but you didn't liked them. This way you can get more matches quicker.

* Matching with people around you.
I only match you with people who are looking for you. From 0 to 300km away anyone who shares your desires will pop out on Lookaround part of the app.

* Unlimited free group chat or 1on1
1on1 or group chat, all you have to do is invite someone from the matches you already have. No need to share your WhatsApp or Kik Messenger, keep naughty conversations in one place.

* Why I charge?
I have no paywalls. But I have premium feature. I have no advertising and I don't sell your data. I try to be as cool as possible, I only offer you cool features that you can play with and support me at the same time.

* 3 playful steps
1. Swipe up when you like somebody
2. Message them if the feelings are mutual
3. Have a playful meetup

What's New in Version 2.3.0

We have caused some headaches to some of you in the last couple days. Hope you didn't have to take as much Valerian as us. Now lets go back to swiping up some awesome people.

Update fixes:
— Major crashes on launching of the app
— Crashing when trying to open a chat
— Crashing when trying to purchase an item

Have fun!

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Customer Reviews

Pretty Good

Well designed app. I feel secure using it. I wish more people used it. Maybe if they advertised the app more. I found out about it from a friend but obviously it might not be the kind of thing most people talk about. I also wish I could upload photos directly from my phone instead of having to use stuff from Facebook and not being able to crop or anything.

Mandatory Facebook? Really?

Hey app developers-get rid of the mandatory Facebook login!! The vast majority of us kinky people keep our kink lives VERY separate from our IRL lives. So requiring users to use their IRL Facebook profile and pics will prevent the largest portion of your target audience from using your app. Maybe college students don’t care about it, but any professional people or people with families would be extremely stupid to allow this kind of app access. Might as well make people login using their LinkedIn account. It’s a great concept, and way better than posting CL’s ads. But if you insist on requiring Facebook access, this app will whither and die.

3nder Review

Me and my gf have used this app several times and we've had great results. You just have to know how to prescreen the matches and if your good at that you should be fine. So all the ones we've had have been great and trust me we are very picky when it comes to finding a match. Just weed out the creepers and the Looky Lou's and you'll be fine.

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  • Free
  • Category: Social Networking
  • Updated:
  • Version: 2.3.0
  • Size: 16.9 MB
  • Language: English
  • Seller:
You must be at least 17 years old to download this app.
  • Infrequent/Mild Profanity or Crude Humor
  • Infrequent/Mild Cartoon or Fantasy Violence
  • Infrequent/Mild Sexual Content and Nudity
  • Frequent/Intense Mature/Suggestive Themes

Compatibility: Requires iOS 7.0 or later. Compatible with iPhone, iPad, and iPod touch. This app is optimized for iPhone 5.

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Top In-App Purchases

  1. Curiosity – 1 month$7.99
  2. Incognito — 365 days$0.99
  3. Incognito$2.99