The Mastery of Love: A Practical Guide to the Art of Relationship
by Don Miguel Ruiz
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In The Mastery of Love, don Miguel Ruiz illuminates the fear-based beliefs and assumptions that undermine love and lead to suffering and drama in our relationships. Using insightful stories to bring his message to life, Ruiz shows us how to heal our emotional wounds, recover the freedom and joy that are our birthright, and restore the spirit of playfulness that is vital to loving relationships. In the Toltec tradition, three fundamental masteries guide us to our true nature, which is happiness, freedom, and love. The first is the Mastery of Awareness. This mastery teaches us to be aware of what we really are. It is the first step toward freedom because we cannot be free if we don't know what we are, or what kind of freedom we are looking for. The Toltecs said, "Let us see ourselves with truth", and they created a mastery just for awareness. The second is the Mastery of Transformation, which teaches us how to become spiritual warriors and stalk our actions and reactions so we can break free of the knowledge that enslaves us. This mastery shows us how to change the dream of our life by changing our agreements and beliefs. The Mastery of Love is the result of the first two masteries. From the Toltec perspective, everything is made of Love. Love is Life itself. When we master Love, we align with the Spirit of Life passing through us. We are no longer the body, or the mind, or the soul; we are Love. Then every action we take is an expression of Love, and Love in action can only produce happiness. When we master Awareness, Transformation, and Love, we reclaim our divinity and become one with God. This is the goal of the Toltec.
Despite the name of the book it's not at all preachy. Simply a person trying to explain how they think the world is by giving you multiple examples and ideas. I started listening to this book in a very bad mood and unwilling to accept any idea but fifteen minutes in I loved it. It has several meaningful quotes about life, too many to list. All of which made me rethink the way I've lived my life. And it's really entertaining. The narrators do a good job of keeping your attention & still sounding calm & soothing. It's a very touching book. I'm going out and buying the actual book. This was such a find.
Even if you're not in a relationship you should listen to this
Practical and common sense. I've listen to this book a few times and I've applied many of the suggestions. It's very insightful with regards to the responsibility of self. Just the other day my husband said, "I'm getting nervous. You're being too nice to me. Why?" Although he asked this in a joking manner, the words rang true; he noticed my change. Also I would give this tape to all my single friends so they can garner 'improvement' tools before entering into a relationship. The book is that good.
The set of writings by Don Miguel Ruiz-from The Four Agreements to The Voice of Knowledge- all share a beautiful perspective on new thought inspired by the ancient teachings of the Toltecs. The audiobooks narrated by Peter Coyote, in particular, bring such expression and authority to the words that internalizing the message becomes much easier. His readings flow like inspired storytelling- it's like listening to your grandfather or a sage speak. I highly recommend listening/reading these books...keep an open mind and don't approach them with preconceived ideas nagging in your head.