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Breaking the Male Code

Unlocking the Power of Friendship

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Calling for a new men’s movement, a noted psychotherapist examines the critical role close male friendships play in helping men lead happy, healthy lives.

For much of the past century, men have operated under the rules of Male Code, a rigid set of guidelines that equate masculinity with stoicism, silence, and strength. As men’s roles have changed over the past few decades, this lingering pressure to hide their emotions has wreaked havoc on men’s lives. Lacking the ability to communicate their needs, desires, and feelings effectively, they are more likely to suffer from depression, anger, and isolation, and their relationships often suffer.
Noted psychotherapist Rob Garfield has worked with men struggling with emotional issues for more than forty years.  Through his “Friendship Labs,” clinical settings in which men engage in group therapy, he teaches men how to identify inner conflicts, express emotions, and communicate openly. According to Garfield, traditional therapy has largely marginalized men since many lack the tools to properly engage. But when men learn to open up to other men who share similar experiences, backgrounds, and perspectives, they not only build lasting bonds but learn the skills necessary to thrive in all aspects of their lives.
Writing with empathy and authority, Garfield examines the unique challenges men face and urges them to abandon male code in favor of a masculinity that integrates traditional male traits with emotional intimacy skills. He urges men to connect with other men using the Four C’s of intimacy—connection, communication, commitment, and co-operation—to form meaningful bonds. Drawing on real-life stories and original research, he shows how their friendships can serve as the foundation on which men can build and sustain deep relationships with all of their loved ones—including spouses, children, and parents—and in turn lead to happier, healthier lives.

From the Hardcover edition.

From Publishers Weekly

Mar 23, 2015 – What it means to be a man has changed in recent decades, and according to psychotherapist Garfield, men need new ways to relate to each other and the world at large in order to survive and thrive in it. In this rewarding self-help book, Garfield guides men through the whys and practical hows of developing fulfilling male friendships. According to him, platonic friendships can offer the keys to emotional balance and intelligence that past versions of the "guy code" of behavior have neglected. Garfield shares lessons he's developed through his time leading "friendship labs," a "guy-safe" term for group therapy, where he focuses on helping men develop friendships that are free from the societal and gendered traps he calls "dementors," such as brutal machismo and homophobia. Friendship is both tool and reward for Garfield, who focuses in later chapters on developing friendships that sustain every sphere of a man's life the office, his family, his marriage, and more. It's hard to imagine a guy's guy picking this book up, but if he were assigned to read it, he'd be surprised it contains an empathetic, approachable, skills-driven guide to an invaluable reward.
Breaking the Male Code
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  • Available on iPhone, iPad, iPod touch, and Mac.
  • Category: Self-Improvement
  • Published: May 12, 2015
  • Publisher: Penguin Publishing Group
  • Print Length: 320 Pages
  • Language: English
  • Requirements: This book can only be viewed on an iOS device with Apple Books on iOS 12 or later, iBooks 1.3.1 or later and iOS 4.3.3 or later, or a Mac with iBooks 1.0 or later and OS X 10.9 or later.

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