Children of the Self-Absorbed
A Grown-Up's Guide to Getting Over Narcissistic Parents
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Being a parent is usually all about giving of yourself to foster your child's growth and development. But what happens when this isn't the case? Some parents dismiss the needs of their children, asserting their own instead, demanding attention and reassurance from even very young children. This may especially be the case when a parent has narcissistic tendencies or narcissistic personality disorder. From the author of Working with the Self-Absorbed and Loving the Self-Absorbed, this major revision of a self-help classic offers a step-by-step approach to resolving conflict and building a meaningful relationship with a narcissistic parent.
Children of the Self-Absorbed offers clear definitions of narcissism and narcissistic personality disorder to help you identify the extent of your parent's problem. You'll learn the different types of destructive narcissism and how to recognize their effects on relationships. With the aid of proven techniques, you'll discover that you're not helpless against your parent's behavior and that you needn't consider giving up on the relationship. Instead, realistic strategies and steps are suggested for learning to set mutually agreed upon behaviors that can help you fulfill your needs and expectations.
When did I become the self absorbed one?
The book claims to help with dealing with a self absorbed parent but seems to spend more energy on convincing the reader that s/he is also narcissistic and self-absorbed and full of excel ides on how to deal with that within themselves. Some readers who have not learned unhealthy narcissism from their parents might find later chapters presumptuous and maybe even a waste of time. I understand that many will need help with this, but less than I hoped is spent on learning how to improve the relationship with the parent. I felt a lot of the second half of the book should have been read by my mother, not me.