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If You are Angry Now, You are not in Love

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“We love ourselves loving others. We love our desires reflected on the lake called others and love ownership and pleasure. What we love is not others but ourselves drunk in love.” 

  This book provides us with a new perspective on love. The author shows that what we have thought of as love is actually no more than “Self-Love” through real examples. The author argues that the love we are dreaming of is nothing more than another expression of self-satisfaction needs. What I love is not “you” but “I who love you.” Also, the reason we sacrifice ourselves for love is that the love partner is basically an extension of self-existence. We, not being able to free ourselves from the yoke of ‘Self-Love’, get angry and quarrel with the partner even while loving each other. 
  For true love, we need to have the in-depth introspection of our inner selves, says the author. At the moment when we discover that the selfish desire is obsessively adsorbed behind love, our love can be born again.


1. Two-fly love
   We love you but don’t love you
   The lie that “I am yours”

2. If we are angry now, we are not in love
   Love makes me angry
   The illusion that I am sacrificing myself
   Special expectation and special anger
   The monster in me
   The mechanism of anger
   Anger control

3. Loneliness cannot be avoided
   Who made me lonely
   We want to be connected and disconnected
   Loneliness is not a fact but feeling

4. Ignorant love is violence
   Coercion for you
   The double standard
   Offbeat sex
   Speaking without speaking

5. Do not demand from humans more than what humans can do
   Other’s suffering
   The compulsion of being flawless
   Love does not force change
   There was a good reason

6. We cannot make others happy
   A promise that cannot be kept
   The compulsion to make your spouse happy
   Keeping the boundary of the mind
   The right to be depressed 

7. Possible love
   Reciprocal love
   Your freedom
   Light glass

8. Two hearts in contact leave scars
   Locard’s principle
   Scars from the past cannot hurt me
   The cure of juxtaposition

9. Love is still valid
   My dignity does not require grounds
   Strength of mind
   Love is still valid

Customer Reviews

A Great Read!

This book became the momentum for me to reflect on myself who behaved as I like and was selfish. Since I read this book, my relationships with others have been gradually changing. I recommend this book to those who want to make new relationships through enlightenment.

If You are Angry Now, You are not in Love
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  • $2.99
  • Available on iPhone, iPad, iPod touch, and Mac.
  • Category: Psychology
  • Published: Sep 20, 2015
  • Publisher: Varanasi
  • Seller: varanasi
  • Print Length: 100 Pages
  • Language: English
  • Requirements: This book can only be viewed on an iOS device with Apple Books on iOS 12 or later, iBooks 1.3.1 or later and iOS 4.3.3 or later, or a Mac with iBooks 1.0 or later and OS X 10.9 or later.

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