Knocking on Heaven's Door
The Path to a Better Way of Death
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In this visionary memoir, based on a groundbreaking New York Times Magazine story, award-winning journalist Katy Butler ponders her parents’ desires for “Good Deaths” and the forces within medicine that stood in the way.
Katy Butler was living thousands of miles from her vigorous and self-reliant parents when the call came: a crippling stroke had left her proud seventy-nine-year-old father unable to fasten a belt or complete a sentence. Tragedy at first drew the family closer: her mother devoted herself to caregiving, and Butler joined the twenty-four million Americans helping shepherd parents through their final declines.
Then doctors outfitted her father with a pacemaker, keeping his heart going but doing nothing to prevent his six-year slide into dementia, near-blindness, and misery. When he told his exhausted wife, “I’m living too long,” mother and daughter were forced to confront a series of wrenching moral questions. When does death stop being a curse and become a blessing? Where is the line between saving a life and prolonging a dying? When do you say to a doctor, “Let my loved one go?”
When doctors refused to disable the pacemaker, condemning her father to a prolonged and agonizing death, Butler set out to understand why. Her quest had barely begun when her mother took another path. Faced with her own grave illness, she rebelled against her doctors, refused open-heart surgery, and met death head-on.
With a reporter’s skill and a daughter’s love, Butler explores what happens when our terror of death collides with the technological imperatives of medicine. Her provocative thesis is that modern medicine, in its pursuit of maximum longevity, often creates more suffering than it prevents.
This revolutionary blend of memoir and investigative reporting lays bare the tangled web of technology, medicine, and commerce that dying has become. And it chronicles the rise of Slow Medicine, a new movement trying to reclaim the “Good Deaths” our ancestors prized.
Knocking on Heaven’s Door is a map through the labyrinth of a broken medical system. It will inspire the difficult conversations we need to have with loved ones as it illuminates the path to a better way of death.
Publishers Weekly Review
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Timely and Healing
Having lost my father a month ago, and watching my mother go through months of agonizing medical decisions, frequently all by herself, this book couldn't have been more timely for me... or more healing. I wish I had placed a bookmark every time I read something and thought 'oh my God, that's just what happened to us!' In the end, comfort care, hospice and dying in his beloved home surrounded by his devoted wife and children, was a blessing and a gift. It took us too long to get there, and some doubted the decision almost to the end. This eye opening book has helped to settle my soul and confirm that, even though a little late, we made the right choice. The kindest, most loving choice for both Mom and Dad. Thank you so much!
Whole Parts Missing!
This is a very interesting and well-written book. The author is adept at both writing with emotion as well as writing without to help the reader understand where she personally is coming from and where we are as a society regarding the dying.
However, I encountered several parts simply missing in this down-loaded book. Unacceptable and frustrating. Buyer beware.