Love Your Enemies
How to Break the Anger Habit & Be a Whole Lot Happier
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When people and circumstances upset us, how do we deal with them? Often, we feel victimized. We become hurt, angry, and defensive. We end up seeing others as enemies, and when things don’t go our way, we become enemies to ourselves.
But what if we could move past this pain, anger, and defensiveness?
Inspired by Buddhist philosophy, this book introduces us to the four kinds of enemies we encounter in life: the outer enemy, people, institutions, and situations that mean to harm us; the inner enemy, anger, hatred, fear, and other destructive emotions; the secret enemy, self-obsession that isolates us from others; and the super-secret enemy, deep-seated self-loathing that prevents us from finding inner freedom and true happiness.
In this practical guide, we learn not only how to identify our enemies, but more important, how to transform our relationship to them. Love Your Enemies teaches us how to . . .
break free from the mode of “us” versus “them” thinking
develop compassion, patience, and love
accept what is beyond our control
embrace lovingkindness, right speech, and other core concepts
Throughout, authors Sharon Salzberg and Robert Thurman share stories and exercises for achieving finding peace within yourself and with the world. Drawing from ancient spiritual wisdom and modern psychology, Love Your Enemies presents tools that are useful for all readers.
Love Your Enemies
The authors are very skilled in their fields and are admirable. I really expected to receive some good ideas from this book. After watching Brene Brown's TED on vulnerability, I would say that this is a book of strategies to quell vulnerability. Also, the exercise of taking on someone else's anger and transforming it comes under the heading of self-traumatization. I also don't personally accept the concept of karma and reincarnation as givens, so this book comes from a premise that didn't work for me. The suggested goal of mind reform and "letting the mind and body dissolve down through the darkness of unconsciousness and into the clear light" are fine for meditation moments but to not relate to a real, messy life. I want to bring the light to my unconscious, not dissolve it. The word, 'perfect' is used a bit too much. I would more likely recommend the work of David Richo or Marshall Rosenburg.