The Truth About Divorce and Marriage
Danielle Teller, M.D. & Astro Teller, Ph.D.
This book can be downloaded and read in iBooks on your Mac or iOS device.
Drs. Astro and Danielle Teller know better than most that finding the right partner in life doesn’t always happen the first time around. Through their own divorces they learned how widely held cultural assumptions and misinformation that nobody thinks to question—what they refer to as “sacred cows”—create unnecessary heartache for people who are already suffering through a terrible time.
Do you think, for example, that the divorce rate in the United States is rising? Or that children are harmed by divorce? Most people do, but it turns out that neither of these notions is supported by the data. Combining the rigor that has established them as leaders in their respective fields along with a dose of good-natured humor, the Tellers ask readers to take a fresh look at seven common sacred cows: the Holy Cow, the Expert Cow, the Selfish Cow, the Defective Cow, the Innocent Victim Cow, the One True Cow, and the Other Cow. This is not a book that is “for” marriage or “for” divorce, but “for” the freedom to decide how to live most honestly and happily either as part of a couple or a single person.
In the same way that Esther Perel’s bestselling MATING IN CAPTIVITY gave couples a fresh perspective on their married life, so SACRED COWS invites readers to question assumptions and conventional wisdom. It offers a smart, insightful, and sympathetic view for those in a marital crisis, marriage counsellors, or anyone looking to gain a fresh perspective on one of our most cherished and misunderstood institutions.
Refreshing and smart
Wow. So it turns out I have been a cow and I didn’t know it. I thought I was being a supportive and helpful friend, but in reality I was unconsciously reiterating long-held beliefs that people tell themselves and others. Sacred Cows refreshingly exposes that these are simply not true. I found myself in a bit of shock a few times as the book revealed notions that I previously thought to be truths but actually don’t make sense at all.
While the book focuses on a serious topic, it is so delightfully written with accessibility and humor, that feels like you are talking with a close friend.
If you have friends or family questioning their relationships, then I highly recommend Danielle and Astro Teller’s book. They have helped me to be a better friend (and hopefully less of a cow) while also making me laugh along the way.