The Betrayal Bond
Breaking Free of Exploitive Relationships
Patrick Carnes, Ph.D.
This book is available for download with iBooks on your Mac or iOS device, and with iTunes on your computer. Books can be read with iBooks on your Mac or iOS device.
Exploitive relationships can create trauma bonds--chains that link a victim to someone who is dangerous to them. Divorce, employee relations, litigation of any type, incest and child abuse, family and marital systems, domestic violence, hostage negotiations, kidnapping, professional exploitation and religious abuse are all areas of trauma bonding. All these relationships share one thing: they are situations of incredible intensity or importance where there is an exploitation of trust or power.
In The Betrayal Bond Patrick Carnes presents an in-depth study of these relationships, why they form, who is most susceptible, and how they become so powerful. He shows how to recognize when traumatic bonding has occurred and gives a checklist for examining relationships. He then provides steps to safely extricate from these relationships.
This is a book you will turn to again and again for inspiration and insight, while professionals will find it an invaluable reference work.
Life Changing book
If you ever met a person who simply does not keep his/her promises, this book will very likely answer why. It did for me. This book helped me more than religion did. Most importantly it helped me to have much better relationship with my family. You ave to g thru some "legitimate pain" to go thru ths book. But once you are done, life WILL be better. (no, I do not know the author, but I am eternally grateful to him for the knowledge I have gotten out of it).