The Nice Girl Syndrome
Stop Being Manipulated and Abused -- and Start Standing Up for Yourself
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5.0 • 10 Ratings
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- $14.99
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- $14.99
Publisher Description
How women can overcome the pressure to please others and feel free to be their true selves
Are you too nice for your own good? Do family members manipulate you? Do coworkers take advantage of you? If this sounds familiar, read The Nice Girl Syndrome. In this breakthrough guide, renowned author and therapist Beverly Engel, who has helped thousands of women recognize and leave emotionally abusive relationships, can show you how to take control of your life and take care of yourself.
Engel explains that women today simply cannot afford to be Nice Girls, because women who are too nice send the message that they are easy targets and are much more likely to be victimized emotionally, physically, and sexually. She identifies the seven different types of Nice Girls and helps you understand which type or types might apply to you. Engel helps you determine whether the Nice Girl Syndrome is keeping you in an abusive relationship or in manipulative situations and helps you change Nice Girl beliefs and behaviors that are holding you back.
Shows you how to confront the beliefs and behaviors that keep you stuck in a Nice Girl act as you replace them with healthier, more empowering ones Includes inspiring stories of women Engel has worked with who have found the courage and strength to stop taking abuse and start standing up for themselves "This book will challenge, entertain, and empower its readers."--Publishers Weekly (starred review) Written by renowned author and therapist Beverly Engel, who has helped thousands of women recognize and leave emotionally abusive relationships
Filled with wise advice, powerful exercises, and practical prescriptions, The Nice Girl Syndrome shows you step by step how to take control of your life and be your own strong woman.
PUBLISHERS WEEKLY
Engel (Healing Your Emotional Self), a psychotherapist and domestic violence expert, has sharp words for the "nice girls" of the world who care more about being perceived as sweet and pleasant than strong and self-protective. Drop the phoniness and passivity, she exhorts, arguing that while society superficially rewards nice girls, they suffer deeply in their intimate and work relationships by losing personal power and parading inauthentic selves. Avoiding conflict and playing na ve may seem to offer payoffs, Engel notes, but the payoffs aren't as big as the price women pay for not holding their ground "They may get taken care of but they aren't respected. They may get special attention but from the wrong kind of people." Readers will find Engel's elucidation of the four causes of "Nice Girl Syndrome" and the "Seven Types of Nice Girls" (i.e., Doormat, Pretender, Prude, Enlightened One) deeply funny and familiar. Most useful for its thorough treatment for how "nice girls" are socialized and for Engel's concise antidote (the four "Power C's": confidence, competence, conviction and courage) this book will challenge, entertain and empower its readers.
Customer Reviews
Just what I needed
This book (along with my supporting loved-ones) opened my eyes to truly see how I have been taken advantage of my my boyfriend of 5 years. This book gave me the clarity I needed to tell him, very directly, that he must move out of my house. I am excited to apply everything I have learned from this book and avoid putting myself in similar situations in the future.