The Sociopath Next Door
Martha Stout, Ph.D.
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Who is the devil you know?
Is it your lying, cheating ex-husband?
Your sadistic high school gym teacher?
Your boss who loves to humiliate people in meetings?
The colleague who stole your idea and passed it off as her own?
In the pages of The Sociopath Next Door, you will realize that your ex was not just misunderstood. He’s a sociopath. And your boss, teacher, and colleague? They may be sociopaths too.
We are accustomed to think of sociopaths as violent criminals, but in The Sociopath Next Door, Harvard psychologist Martha Stout reveals that a shocking 4 percent of ordinary people—one in twenty-five—has an often undetected mental disorder, the chief symptom of which is that that person possesses no conscience. He or she has no ability whatsoever to feel shame, guilt, or remorse. One in twenty-five everyday Americans, therefore, is secretly a sociopath. They could be your colleague, your neighbor, even family. And they can do literally anything at all and feel absolutely no guilt.
How do we recognize the remorseless? One of their chief characteristics is a kind of glow or charisma that makes sociopaths more charming or interesting than the other people around them. They’re more spontaneous, more intense, more complex, or even sexier than everyone else, making them tricky to identify and leaving us easily seduced. Fundamentally, sociopaths are different because they cannot love. Sociopaths learn early on to show sham emotion, but underneath they are indifferent to others’ suffering. They live to dominate and thrill to win.
The fact is, we all almost certainly know at least one or more sociopaths already. Part of the urgency in reading The Sociopath Next Door is the moment when we suddenly recognize that someone we know—someone we worked for, or were involved with, or voted for—is a sociopath. But what do we do with that knowledge? To arm us against the sociopath, Dr. Stout teaches us to question authority, suspect flattery, and beware the pity play. Above all, she writes, when a sociopath is beckoning, do not join the game.
It is the ruthless versus the rest of us, and The Sociopath Next Door will show you how to recognize and defeat the devil you know.
From Publishers Weekly
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In that this author capitalizes from scapegoating much of our societal problems on this Ill defined group of moral imbeciles. More disturbing is its popularity. Replace sociopath with Jews and publish this during Weimar republic and it would easily be championed by you know who.
Understanding sociopathic interactions
Every so often I came across people whose capacity to manipulate and exploit others shamelessly left me at best hurt or puzzled, and at worst feeling confused, powerless, and questioning my own sanity. This book presents a possible explanation, and while I am not yet completely convinced, some early experimentation with predicting behavior and preparing a response based on the theories and explanations written here have met with surprising success.
Though the book waxes a bit poetic and preaches to the choir in the last chapter, the rest is well worth reading and thinking about carefully.
The Sociopath Next Door
Excellent academic work, but I would have found it more helpful if the author could have spent more time on practical solutions on how to deal with a sociopath. Say after you marry one and unfortunately have kids with the sociopath. Your not always able to distance yourself from the sociopath as the author recommends, and ideally would be optimal.