almost human..‪.‬ A.K. Finn

What you should do in most situations is probably obvious. So why don’t you? Why isn’t knowing how much better it would be to do what you know you should enough of a motivation to actually do it?

If your thoughts are skewed by your limited state (via addiction or whatever else holds you back), could thoughts ever be used to change your state? What about your behavior? Learn to bypass and unravel unhelpful, deceptive conscious thoughts as you access the power of deeper unconscious knowledge buried beneath.

We’ve been looking at the power of going public with your real experience to grow and change your life. But anything you consciously attempt to portray will be fraught with dishonesty and self-indulgence, putting you in your own way. Growth comes when you can cut through your own current filters by seeing and being as close to real as possible (over time) instead of being intentional.

Seeing the big picture of your life means gaining a sense of the unknowable, ever-shifting balance of unique forces either pushing you forward or holding you back. So how can all your pushing, driving forces—your “whys” (your reasons for wanting to change) surpass the hindering forces—your addictions, compulsions, personal limitations…?

Today I dig into my own unbearable feeling of having wasted my most precious years: a fear of being frozen forever in inability, of wasted potential, of lost innocence or sense of adventure… Could a wider perspective reveal that nothing was really lost? Maybe there’s no need to beat yourself up for “wasting potential.” It’s a beautiful thing to see even your worst mistakes, tragedies, loss, and regrets all being somehow woven into a far bigger, richer picture or story.

Your reputation and responsibilities to others are only about as powerful a source of motivation to change as a fear of getting caught. Such indirect forces are too easy to negotiate with and ignore. But what can’t be outrun or hidden from are the values and beliefs you see yourself claiming publically over time.