435 episodes

A podcast dedicated to bringing real help to real couples! Hosts Seth Studley, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist, and his wife Melanie Studley, Marriage Expert and Coach, answer listener questions about sex, intimacy, communication, conflict resolution, in-laws issues, healing from infidelity, and so much more! Their authentic and down-to-earth approach to helping couples has transformed thousands of relationships. They have three kids and live outside of Seattle, Wa.

Anatomy of Us Anatomy of Us

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A podcast dedicated to bringing real help to real couples! Hosts Seth Studley, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist, and his wife Melanie Studley, Marriage Expert and Coach, answer listener questions about sex, intimacy, communication, conflict resolution, in-laws issues, healing from infidelity, and so much more! Their authentic and down-to-earth approach to helping couples has transformed thousands of relationships. They have three kids and live outside of Seattle, Wa.

    How to OWN YOUR DAY with Melanie's Prayer Planner + Journal!

    How to OWN YOUR DAY with Melanie's Prayer Planner + Journal!

    Today, we share a behind-the-scenes look at Melanie's all new Prayer Planner + Journal! Melanie created this planner/journal to master her ADHD, Dyslexia, and the chaos of being a business owner and a busy mom of three!

    Melanie explains the components of the planner, how she uses it each day, and where you can get your own so that you can master YOUR LIFE!
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    • 35 min
    My Husband does NOT want to GROW!

    My Husband does NOT want to GROW!

    In this insightful episode, Melanie and Seth Studley discuss the challenges of navigating personal growth disparities within relationships. Inspired by a listener's question about what to do when your partner isn't interested in personal development or marriage growth, they share their own experiences and offer practical advice on how to handle situations where one partner is less interested in personal development.
    Melanie (Speaker and Coach) and Seth (Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist) emphasize the importance of maintaining a growth mindset and leading by example. They highlight the transformative power of personal growth and encourage viewers to focus on their own journey while fostering an environment of encouragement for their partners.
    Whether you're facing similar struggles in your relationship or seeking guidance on inspiring your partner to embrace personal development, this podcast provides valuable insights and actionable tips. Tune in to gain a deeper understanding of how to navigate personal growth differences and strengthen your relationship along the way.
    🔗 Links and Resources

    We have a FREE download of the Clearing Structure available RIGHT HERE! shop.anatomyofus.com/collections/free-pdf-resources

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    📌 Keywords:

    Marriage Communication, Personal Development, Conflict Resolution, Relationship Advice, Marriage Counseling, Active Listening, Relationship Building, Couples Therapy, Communication Skills, Healthy Marriage, Love and Communication

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    • 31 min
    Erectile Dysfunction in a Sexless marriage

    Erectile Dysfunction in a Sexless marriage

    Today, we're diving into a super important topic: erectile dysfunction in a sexless marriage.

    We've got a listener question asking how to bring up this sensitive issue with her husband as well as addressing the issue of a sexless marriage for many years. 

    From spotting the signs to starting the talk, we've got your back with practical advice and a sprinkle of humor. We'll chat about fostering understanding, seeking support, and keeping the love alive in your relationship.

    So, if you're curious, concerned, or just want to be a supportive friend, this episode is for you! Hit that play button now and let's dive into this essential conversation with empathy and a touch of sass. And remember, we're all in this together! 💖🗣️
    🔗 Links and Resources
    We have a FREE download of the Clearing Structure available RIGHT HERE! https://shop.anatomyofus.com/products/the-clearing-structure
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    📌 Keywords:
    Erectile Dysfunction, Men's Health, Sexless Marriage, Relationship Advice, Marriage Counseling, Relationship Building, Couples Therapy, Healthy Marriage, Love and Communication
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    • 35 min
    The Five Dos and Don'ts of Emotional Support in Marriage

    The Five Dos and Don'ts of Emotional Support in Marriage

    🔍 Ever wondered how to navigate emotional support in your marriage like a pro? Look no further! In this episode of the Anatomy Of Us Podcast, hosts Seth and Melanie Studley break down the essential dos and don'ts to master the art of emotional support in your relationship.
    🎯 Whether you're a newlywed or a seasoned couple, these insightful tips will help you deepen your connection and foster a stronger bond with your partner.

    👂 DO Actively Listen: Learn the importance of giving your full attention and truly hearing what your partner is expressing.
    ❤️ DO Offer Empathy: Discover how to show genuine care and understanding towards your partner's emotional state.
    🤝 DO Use Supportive Language: Explore the power of words and gestures to convey your unwavering support and solidarity.
    🗣️ DO Encourage Full Expression: Find out why encouraging your partner to express themselves fully is vital for a healthy relationship.
    🦁 DO Provide a Safe Space: Dive into the analogy of a lion pride to understand the significance of creating a judgment-free zone for your partner to share their feelings.
    🚫 DON'T Invalidate or Dismiss: Avoid common pitfalls like invalidating your partner's emotions or dismissing their concerns as trivial.
    ⏳ DON'T Interrupt or Rush: Learn the importance of patience and allowing your partner the time they need to express themselves fully.
    🤔 DON'T Offer Unsolicited Advice: Discover why sometimes, it's best to hold back on giving advice unless specifically asked for.
    👥 DON'T Make It About Yourself: Understand the importance of putting your partner's emotional needs first and avoiding the temptation to make the situation about you.
    🚪 DON'T Avoid or Withdraw: Explore why withdrawing from your partner during times of emotional need can be detrimental to your relationship and how to avoid this common pitfall.
    🎬 Ready to take your emotional support game to the next level? Hit play now and join Seth and Melanie as they guide you through the dos and don'ts of emotional support in marriage!

    🔗 Links and Resources
    We have a FREE download of the Clearing Structure available RIGHT HERE! https://shop.anatomyofus.com/products/the-clearing-structure
    👥 Connect with Us:
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    📌 Keywords:
    Marriage Communication, Emotional Support, Relationship Advice, Marriage Counseling, Relationship Building, Couples Therapy, Communication Skills, Healthy Marriage, Love and Communication
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    • 55 min
    The 5 Dos and Don’ts of Shared Responsibility in Marriage!

    The 5 Dos and Don’ts of Shared Responsibility in Marriage!

    In this episode, we're spilling the tea ☕ on essential strategies for keeping harmony alive in your household. From chore wars to decision-making dilemmas, we've got you covered! 💪

    DO:
    ✅ Communicate openly about who's the laundry pro and who's the dishwashing master.
    ✅ Fairly divide tasks based on skills, availability, and interests (because, let's face it, nobody likes cleaning toilets).
    ✅ Keep things flexible by adjusting responsibilities as life throws its curveballs.
    ✅ Shower your partner with appreciation for their superhuman efforts (even if it's just for taking out the trash).
    ✅ Tag team decisions like the dynamic duo you are—after all, it takes two to tango!

    DON'T:
    🚫 Assume certain tasks belong to one gender (because scrubbing toilets is an equal opportunity task).
    🚫 Nitpick your partner's cleaning style—hey, as long as it gets done, right?
    🚫 Brush off your partner's concerns about who's doing what around the house (it's a big deal, okay?).
    🚫 Take on the entire to-do list without consulting your partner (burnout, here we come!).
    🚫 Leave your partner hanging with a pile of dirty dishes—ain't nobody got time for that!

    So grab your popcorn 🍿, cuddle up with your sweetheart, and join us as we dish out some practical tips and hilarious anecdotes for building a partnership that's as smooth as butter! 🌟 Don't forget to hit that subscribe button for more episodes on building a thriving and fulfilling relationship! 🎉 Let's make marriage magic happen, together! 💖


    🔗 Links and Resources

    We have a FREE download of the Clearing Structure available RIGHT HERE! https://shop.anatomyofus.com/products/the-clearing-structure

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    📌 Keywords:

    Marriage Communication, Conflict Resolution, Relationship Advice, Marriage Counseling, Active Listening, Relationship Building, Couples Therapy, Communication Skills, Healthy Marriage, Love and Communication

    Thank you to our sponsors!

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    • 42 min
    The Five Dos and Don'ts of Conflict Resolution in Marriage

    The Five Dos and Don'ts of Conflict Resolution in Marriage

    Description: 🎙️ Welcome to the latest episode of The Anatomy Of Us Podcast, where we delve into the crucial elements of conflict resolution in marriage. Join us as we discuss 'The 5 Dos and Don'ts of Conflict Resolution in Marriage', a guide to nurturing a stronger, healthier relationship with your significant other. This episode is a part of our DO THIS, NOT THAT series for February! 

    🔹 About This Episode: Conflict resolution skills are essential in every marriage. In this episode, we break down five dos and don'ts that can transform the way couples handle conflict. From active listening to using "I" statements, we cover it all. Whether you're newlyweds or have been married for decades, these tips are invaluable for maintaining a loving and understanding partnership.

    🔸 What You'll Learn:
    Do #1: Actively listen to the other person's viewpoint to understand their perspective.
    Don't #1: Don't Resort to personal attacks or bring up past issues not relevant to the current conflict.
    Do #2: Maintain open and honest communication throughout the discussion.
    Don't #2: Don't: Interrupt the other person or dismiss their feelings and opinions.
    Do #3: Seek a solution that acknowledges and respects both parties' needs and concerns.
    Don't #3: Don't: Let emotions like anger or frustration take over the conversation.
    And much more!

    🔗 Links and Resources 
    We have a FREE download of the Clearing Structure available RIGHT HERE! https://shop.anatomyofus.com/products/the-clearing-structure

    👥 Connect with Us:

    Subscribe to our channel for more insightful episodes.
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    📌 Keywords:
    Marriage Communication, Conflict Resolution, Relationship Advice, Marriage Counseling, Active Listening, Relationship Building, Couples Therapy, Communication Skills, Healthy Marriage, Love and Communication

    Thank you to our sponsors!
    Seed: Visit seed.com/AOU & use code 25AOU for 25% off your first month of synbiotics.
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    🔔 Don't forget to hit the bell icon to get notified about our latest episodes!

    💬 Your Thoughts Matter: We love hearing from our listeners! Drop a comment below sharing your key takeaways from this episode or any topics you'd like us to cover in future episodes.

    #MarriageCommunication #EffectiveCommunication #TheAnatomyOfUsPodcast #RelationshipAdvice #LoveLanguages #HealthyRelationships #Podcast #CommunicationTips #MarriageGoals #CoupleGoals

    👉 Make sure to like, comment, and subscribe for more episodes that help you deepen your connection and communication in your marriage.

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    • 52 min

Customer Reviews

4.7 out of 5
1.1K Ratings

1.1K Ratings

Mombwr5 ,

Love This Podcast!

Pretty sure I have listened to every episode and have enjoyed them all so much! I love the authenticity Seth and Melanie display. It truly is real help for real couples and I feel like a I learn something new every time I listen. It has been neat to have see how they have evolved in their faith and relationship over the years and these guys are just plain fun! We lead a Marriage Life Group and recommend this podcast to everyone who comes through this group.
Keep up the good work, it is so appreciated ! ❤️💪🏻

TRBL9836 ,

Take your Vitamins!

If you care about your health and take your vitamins, this show needs to be part of your “daily’s” for your mental and emotional health! I stumbled across the Studley’s when I began individual counseling needing something extra than my weekly session. This remains my top listened to show and I cannot begin to express the positive impact it has had in my life and my marriage. The messages/topics seem to come when I need them most and it’s changed my interactions with my wife, children, and others for the better. It’s also incredible how the content leaves a mark in my mind which has encouraged positive habits that have become subliminal in nature. For example, their 100 days of Q&A. I began expressing my gratitude to my wife and didn’t notice at first what inspired it, but realized a couple weeks later that it was Seth and Melanie in the show. It led to her reciprocating the same and the connection between us has become more meaningful! Thank you Seth & Melanie!!

Trompete87 ,

A Huge Blessing

My wife and I have been struggling for years and we can’t seem to get past certain issues. We have been to some pretty dark places mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. We have all the “tools” from counseling, but we have always felt like we are the only ones who struggle this badly. We discovered this podcast about a year ago, and it has been a blessing ever since. We will have some crazy arguments or read something in scripture or a book about marriage and somehow AoU will post an episode the same day or the next day about that same topic describing it in a way that we can relate to directly.

Case in point: spiritual warfare. We discovered a book by Tim Muehlhoff on the topic and began reading it. Just as the book started to sound a lot like our marriage, Melanie posted the first Spiritual Warfare episode and shared what she and Seth were going through. I cannot begin to describe what a blessing and encouragement those two episodes were to our marriage. Between Dr. Muehlhoff’s book and the AoU episodes, we have begun developing healthier habits to properly guard our marriage against the plans of Satan, including being more disciplined in prayer and setting prayer alarms. If your marriage is not in the best place and you are looking for hope, know that Seth and Melanie get it. I pray that God will continue to use their ministry to bless your marriage as He has ours. There is hope in Christ and this couple is a testimony to that hope.

“Now to Him who is able to do exceedingly abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that works in us, to Him be glory in the church by Christ Jesus to all generations, forever and ever. Amen.” Ephesians 3:20-21.

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