Coffee Break Blogging David Risley: Online Entrepreneur, Blogger, Blog Marketing Strategist

Sometimes we do have constraints that bump right up against our lack of skills.
Common for many in this business is lack of technical skills. And this is often coupled with the habit of comparing yourself to others where you see other good looking blogs and you try like hell to make your own look that good despite not having the skillset to do it.
You have two options here:
Do it by yourself. Hire somebody to do it. Now, going the “do it yourself” route is a viable option for some, but I see some people basically grinding their entire progress to a halt over it.
In the “real world”, you hire people all the time. You probably hire somebody to fix your car, or to do major repair work around the house. You hire them because they’re the expert and you want the result quickly.
So, WHY is it that we lose this perspective when it comes to the Internet?

In our last issue, we met Bob. Bob set out to start up his own online business, but ended up drowning in information and left himself overwhelmed and confused on what to do next.
And when we left Bob last time, I talked about how Bob needed structure and order… and he needed to implement “just in time learning”. He needed self-imposed tunnel vision in order to weed out any incoming information that took him off his goal or simply was talking about something which isn’t yet relevant to Bob.
Let me give you a classic example…
Let’s say our friend Bob here has a niche in mind. He’s even started his site up for it. He’s written a few blog posts, perhaps. But, his email list is still practically non-existent and he has yet to make his first buck online. So, Bob is still in the early phases here.
But, Bob is subscribed to some “guru” who is pretty big into podcasting. Bob listens to that podcast. Loves it, in fact. The host of that podcast even publishes income reports and Bob finds it motivational. So, the “guru” launches a course all about podcasting. And it sounds freakin’ awesome to Bob.
But, let’s back up here. And let’s talk a little sense into Bob, shall we?

Information overload and overwhelm are two of the biggest constraints to people looking to build their online business. But, here’s the rub…
Most people are doing it to themselves voluntarily!
Let’s look at a typical person who is trying to start and grow an online business. Let’s call him Bob.
So, Bob wants this. He has visions of making enough money online so that he can walk out of his day job. He is under no illusions that it will be an overnight thing. He knows it will take a lot of work.
But, Bob needs to figure out what to do. So, he goes out and starts searching for and reading various articles and “gurus” in the world of online business. He subscribes to several email lists. He puts a bunch of RSS feeds into his phone so he can keep track of different sites. He registers for some webinars.
But, Bob is confused. He feels like he is understanding the theory behind things. He can start to use some of the terminology from the world of online marketing. But, he’s still personally confused on what HE should be doing.
He tries to solve it by buying a few courses. Being on all these peoples’ lists, he sees things for sale. They look awesome. Certainly, the ad copy on those pages makes each of those things seem like the best thing ever. So, he picks up a few.
He also picks up some tools. He picks up a couple WordPress plug-ins and some online services. Every time he buys one of those things, he feels like he did something concrete to grow his business. But, there’s still this nagging feeling…
He’s still confused. He’s still feeling overwhelmed.

For #ASKBMA this week, I'm talking about what to do when you've been blogging for awhile, but it isn't working. Carl is in the personal development niche and is having a problem figuring out his unique selling proposition (USP).
Also on the agenda...
- Black Friday 2018
- The latest on The Daily
- An update on the Coffee Break Blogging podcast.
- What's new inside THE LAB
Quick Links:
- BLACK FRIDAY - http://www.blogmarketingacademy.com/blackfriday/
- THE DAILY - http://www.blogmarketingacademy.com/daily/
- PODCAST - http://www.coffeebreakblogging.com
- THE LAB - http://www.blogmarketingacademy.com/lab/
- ASK BMA - http://www.blogmarketingacademy.com/ask/
That's our weekly update for 11/21/2018. See ya next week! And Happy Thanksgiving!

When we focus on what we don’t have, it will often lead to more of that. See…
You get what you validate. And, when you validate your shortcomings by focusing on them, you’ll just magnify them.
I’m about to get a little “woo woo” on you here, but I personally believe this…
As beings, we imbue the world around us with energy. It is like we’re literally painting our environment with energy. That energy can either be positive or negative. And that “painting” is driven by our attention.
Not only that, when we give something our attention, we’re also giving it power. We’re validating it. We’re imbuing energy into it, merely by focusing our spiritual energy on it.
That energy has a quality to it, however. It can either be positive or negative.
There are those people who, when they put their attention on things, things tend to go right. There are also some people who tend to screw up anything they get involved with. There are lot of different scenarios here, but all of it is summarized by simply saying that we imbue things with energy and that the nature of that energy has a lot to do with the effects.
Positivity or negativity toward things is a learned skill. You might have a natural tendency toward one or the other, but you have control over it. You can train yourself to be more of an optimist by taking time each day to list one or more things you are grateful for.
Being grateful is literally injecting beauty into the world.
One might not think of gratitude as imbuing their world with positive energy. Many think of it as merely “being thankful for” something. But, it is so much more than that.
It is something to strive for.
And something to be aware of the next time you find yourself being rather negative about your own situation. When you’re doing that, ask yourself…
What reality are you postulating for yourself right then?

Man, they appear to be doing so well. What’s wrong with me?”
This is a pretty common thought to a lot of people.
You may see somebody in a bigger house than you have… then look at your own and wonder what went wrong. You may see somebody else with a nicer car and wonder why you’re driving around such an average vehicle. Or, let’s make this even more common…
You’re scrolling through Facebook and seeing pictures of people’s parties, their vacations, their fancy meals. They seem to be living the high life. What’s wrong with YOU?
It has actually been proven through experiment that such use of social media actually helps further depression. People are unhappier due to social media, in a lot of cases. On top of the comparisons, it doesn’t help one bit that social media is being used these days to divide people and stir them up. But, that’s another discussion…
But, if you’re the kind who makes a habit of comparing yourself to others, then you’re more likely to find unhappiness breeding in you when you are active on social media.
But, let’s bring this back into the world of online business…
When you want to make money online, one of the first things you often do is search the internet for how to make money online, or how to make money blogging. And you come across people who are talking about it. And often they talk about how much money they make.
Pat Flynn, from Smart Passive Income, publicly posts his monthly income reports. It is a popular feature of his site, and many others have done the same. I actually used to do the same thing, but have long since stopped. Why is that?
… because I believe it leads people into making comparisons between themselves and me, or themselves and Pat – or whoever.
You get inspired by the money, then the next move is to try to do what they have done instead of charting your own path. Instead of doing what you need to do, you’re instead left trying to copy somebody else. And if you don’t get the forward movement, it is pretty deflating.
Plus, income reports put the emphasis on the income and not what actually creates that income… which is delivering value to others.
Comparing yourself to others will almost naturally lead to an attitude of “lack”. Your attention and your focus is on what you DON’T have. And you will inevitably get more of what you focus on.
The ironic thing is that, most of the time, these comparisons are based on an outright LIE.