How to Be a Girl
By Marlo Mack
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How to Be a Girl is an audio podcast I produce about life with my six-year-old transgender daughter. It stars the two of us -- a single mom and a six-year-old "girl with a penis" -- as we attempt together to sort out just what it means to be a girl.
||CleanWe're back! Welcome to a new season!||After a pretty lengthy hiatus, we're back! The first episode of the 2018 season comes out next week. Here's a little taste of what's to come. Music credits: "Lode Runner" and "Sorrento" by Podington Bear.||4/19/2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||CleanWe Shall Overcome||--||1/15/2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||CleanA little girl, a holiday, big news, and... a miracle!||This mini-episode contains: One VERY excited little girl awaiting Santa, news of the big changes coming to our lives, my plans for the future of this podcast, and... a miracle! Music credits: Dee Yan-Key, "Santa on Tour" (licensed under CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) Borrtex, "Buying Presents" (licensed under CC BY-NC 4.0)||12/24/2017||Free||View in iTunes|
||CleanWhen it rains it pours||How can the best of times also be the worst of times? This spring nearly washed me away... but not quite. M. tries her hand at TV journalism. Music credit: David Mumford, “Singing in the Rain (Instrumental)" (licensed under CC BY 4.0)||7/6/2017||Free||View in iTunes|
||CleanEpisode XIX: Red State Mama||I thought I was pretty brave until I met my counterpart from a red state. Music credits: "Telling Me So" and "Spring" (instrumental) by St. Paul de Vence||2/22/2017||Free||View in iTunes|
||CleanA little update from Marlo||This tiny episode is mostly silly, and a little bit serious. I also have some news. Plus, cat videos. (KUOW is hosting a How to Be a Girl listening party in Seattle on February 26! Reserve a seat at http://kuow.org/post/join-us-how-be-girl-listening-party) MUSIC CREDITS: "Quirky Dog" by Kevin MacLeod (www.incompetech.com) "Mama" (instrumental) by St. Paul de Vence (Thank you, Benjamin Doerr!!)||2/17/2017||Free||View in iTunes|
||CleanEpisode XVIII: Big Sister||I'm not transgender, but my daughter is. That means she needs someone to model the future who isn't me: A transgender big sister. Music credits: “Dormir Rien de plus” by Monplaisir (public domain)||2/1/2017||Free||View in iTunes|
||CleanEpisode XVII: The Window||In 2013, Obama opened a window for transgender people when he made it easier to change the gender on your Social Security record. But with Trump coming into office, it looks like that window is about to close. I hadn't been in much of a rush to change my 9-year-old transgender daughter's Social Security record, but I sure am now. MUSIC CREDITS: “Dubakupado” by www.incompetech.com “Homeless California” by Monplaisir (public domain) “King Thumbscrew The Third” by Doctor Turtle (CC-BY-NC 4.0)||1/11/2017||Free||View in iTunes|
||CleanEpisode XVI: How to Be a (Teen) Girl||It’s still five years off, but I think about it all the time. What’s it going to be like when my transgender daughter becomes a teenager? Music credits: Andy G Cohen, "Land_Legs" (licensed under CC BY 4.0) David Mumford, "Twinkle Twinkle Instrumental" (licensed under CC BY 4.0) Loch Lomond, "Elephants and Little Girls" (licensed under CC BY 4.0) Kevin Macleod, “J.S. Bach, Prelude in C” (licensed under CC BY 3.0)||12/21/2016||Free||View in iTunes|
||CleanEpisode XV: Just Maybe||She hasn't got a womb or ovaries but she wants to be a mommy. How do I tell my young daughter that she won't ever be a biological mother? Music credits: "Child Come Home" by Michael Howard (Licensed under CC BY-NC 3.0) "Flagger" by Blue Dot Sessions (Licensed under CC BY-NC 4.0) “That Old Harpoon” by Gillicuddy (Licensed under CC BY-NC 4.0)||11/30/2016||Free||View in iTunes|
||CleanA post-election message from my 8-year-old trans daughter||My 8-year-old transgender daughter is not giving up. She's eating popcorn and singing and telling jokes and she has some advice for you.||11/21/2016||Free||View in iTunes|
||CleanEpisode XIV: My Friend Lauren||When I first realized I had a transgender child, Lauren reached out and told me it was going to be OK. Ever since, she's been the one I lean on when I'm terrified. She's the bravest woman I know. My friend, "Lauren," in 1979. Music credits: “George Street Shuffle” and “In Your Arms” by Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com) “Evenhanded” by Podington Bear “From here to Iceland" by Loch Lomond “I Enjoy Being a Girl,” performed by Christine Jorgensen "Mars Landscape: Moon Set” by Julie Maxwell (Source: Free Music Archive, CC License) Thank you to my new supporters on Patreon.com: Brady Houck, Shaleece Haas, Rona So, Jennifer Zuber, Emily Hoff, Andrew Weisner, and Damiana Day.||11/9/2016||Free||View in iTunes|
||CleanEpisode XIII: Play Date||My daughter has lots of friends, and she's big on play dates with other little girls. But sometimes we need to book a special play date, because sometimes you just need to hang out with somebody who's just like you. Music Credits: "The Temperature of the Air on the Bow of the Kaleetan” by Chris Zabriskie, “Hélice” by Monplaisir, and “Rainbow Street” by Scott Holmes. Thank you to my new supporters on Patreon.com: Ann Frossard, Lorna McCarthy, Maricia Scott, Lyle Mattson, Ryann Grove, Jessica Gaab, and Risa Cyr.||10/19/2016||Free||View in iTunes|
||CleanEpisode XII: How to Be a Dad||When my husband and I split up four years ago, we agreed to share custody of our...."son." Four years later, we have a transgender daughter, and the crazy truth is that I've never really asked him how he feels about this. So I did. And this is what he said. (I asked him a few other questions, too.) Music credits: “The Father’s Name” by Gianluca Sgalambro Thank you to my new supporters on Patreon.com: Chris Wright, David Roswell, Laura Kivlen, Britt Tanner, Robyn Kanner, Nicole Villacres, Henry Richardson, Natasha Mooney, Spokane Trans* Map, Krystal Barrett-Jones, Remi Taylor, Michaela Friedman, Avery Shroeder, Ashley Page, Bergie and Brandon, Lindsey Wallace, Lily Krueger, Jonty Levine, Sam Calandra, Andreas Moesch, Genie Gratto, Michael Nessa||9/28/2016||Free||View in iTunes|
||CleanShort and Silly||This isn't a full episode. Just a little update on what we've been up to, with some very silly audio of my daughter. (What can I say? It's been a silly summer!) There's also an important announcement about the future of this podcast and some news on my daughter's love life (and mine too!). Music credits: "Fudge" by Gillicuddy||9/4/2016||Free||View in iTunes|
||CleanEpisode XI: Bathroom Bill||I never thought a bathroom bill - the kind they passed in North Carolina - would come to my home state. But it did. They're trying to pass one where I live, and this is the story of my fight (so far) against it. (You can see more photos related to this story on my blog, gendermom.com.) Music credits: "Heartache" by Broke For Free, "Golden" by Little Glass Men, "A void" by johnny_ripper, "Pure Attitude" by Kevin MacLeod (www.incompetech.com), "The Tallest Man in Idaho" by Michael Howard, "Blessed Instant" by Oilvia chaney. Thank you to my new supporters on Patreon.com: Cindy McGahee, Amanda Minor, Rene Justin Dado, Nanette Fok, Kristen Albright, Molly Tanner, Rae-Louise Enno, Lazbreath, Gina Trapani, Katelen Michelle Kellogg, Caitlin Pierce, William Shafer, Allison Lefrak||6/29/2016||Free||View in iTunes|
||CleanEpisode X: School (Part II)||This is a continuation of Episode IX. It tells the rest of the story of what happened when my transgender daughter started second grade at a new school. Music credits: "Light Thought Variation 2," "Thatched Villagers," and "Relaxing Piano Music" by Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com), "Moonlight Sonata (Ludwig van Beethoven)" by Dr. Phibes and The Ten Plagues of Egypt, "Bagatelle (Ludwig van Beethoven)" by Circus Marcus. THANK YOU to my generous supporters on Patreon.com: Nyssa, Nicholas Harrigan, Sebastian Riisgaard, Krystal, Andrea Sackett, Andy Moore, David, Dustin Andres, Myrna Bohan, Emily Savin, David Rosenthal, Jo-Hanna Read, Meghan O'Hara, Allison Mulcahy, Maraia Ener, Gil Rich, Hampus Jakobsson, Tammy, Sonali Bhagat, Debby Swayne, Clare Jones, Gene Gibson, Nathan Jones, and Brookie Judge.||3/24/2016||Free||View in iTunes|
||CleanEpisode IX: School (Part I)||This episode has been six months in the making, because that's how long it took for this story to play out. It's the story of my daughter entering second grade at a new school where we knew no one, almost no one knew her secret, and I had no idea how I was going to keep her safe. Music credits: "Blackbird" and "Light Thought Variation 2" by Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com), "Chiaroscuro" by Zé Trigueiros, and "Piano Symphony No. 1" by Miss M. Thank you to my generous supporters on Patreon.com! Three cheers for Nicholas Harrigan, Sebastian Riisgaard, Krystal, Andrea Sackett, Andy Moore, David, Dustin Andres, and Mary Anne Sedney!||3/9/2016||Free||View in iTunes|
||CleanEpisode VIII: Meeting Laverne||Earlier this year, my daughter got to meet the transgender TV star Laverne Cox. I wrote about it for my blog, and that heart-warming, feel-good post went crazy viral on the internet. But there's more to the story. Here it is. My daughter gave her first interview (to Amy Poehler's Smart Girls website): Check it out! Music credits: "Hearts Mend (Prelude)" by Rebecca Foon, "EDM Detection Mode" by Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com), "nu pop2" by Plusplus.||8/5/2015||Free||View in iTunes|
||CleanEpisode VII: THE FACTS (about transgender kids)||THE FACTS (about transgender kids)||6/30/2015||Free||View in iTunes|
||CleanEpisode VI: The Interview||This episode is a little different from the others I've made. It's mostly just my daughter talking, answering my questions about what it's like being a transgender six year old.||12/24/2014||Free||View in iTunes|
||CleanEpisode V: Looking for Love||She's six years old and transgender. I'm a single mom. This is what happens when we both hit the dating scene and compare notes about it. Music credits: "Night Owl" by Broke for Free, "Is This What Mama Meant" by Michaela Anne.||11/19/2014||Free||View in iTunes|
||CleanEpisode IV: Tom Boy Trans Girl||How girlie do you have to be to secure your spot in the girl club? And what happens when your own mother questions your girl credentials? Bonus: The Origins of Acrobat Girl: Music credits: "Action" and "Eastern" by Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com), "Xena: Warrior Princess - Main Title" by Joseph LoDuca.||8/24/2014||Free||View in iTunes|
||CleanEpisode III: How Old is Gender?||Am I insane? How can I be so sure that my young child is transgender? Music credits: "Her Love Comes in Air" by soundZcapa, "Gato" by Rod Hamilton, "Kaikou" by Satori.||7/8/2014||Free||View in iTunes|
||CleanEpisode II: Daily Life in the House of Girls||What's it like raising a transgender child? How did your family respond? What about school? How in the world does this work? This episode gives you the low-down on what daily life is really like for us.||6/7/2014||Free||View in iTunes|
||CleanEpisode I: Mama, I'm a Girl||When he was three years old, my son informed me that she was actually my daughter. I'm now the mother of a happy, confident little transgender girl, but it took a while to get here.||6/7/2014||Free||View in iTunes|
Very inspiring story. Thank you for sharing it.
I luv your podcast. It is so very inspiring. You have done an amazing job guiding your daughter through this. I'm only 12, but this story has truly touched my heart. When ever your daughter is feeling down,upset,hurt,sad,or angry, just tell her "Keep Swimming Little Fishy. Things will get better"
Moving and thought-provoking
An intimate, honest look into the lives of an amazing kid and an amazing mom making their way in a difficult world.