Fostering With Love
By Dan Absalonson
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A podcast chronicling the journey of one man's experience in becoming a foster parent.
||CleanFWL Episode 23 - A Long Overdue Update||In this episode I finally give an update and share what it was like to go to an evaluation to see if my wife and I are fit parents to provide a forever home for our foster daughter. As I recorded this we'd had her in our home for a year. Download the .mp3||2/13/2015||Free||View in iTunes|
||CleanFWL Episode 22 - A Heartbreak||In this episode I talk about how hard it is when a foster child who's been with you for a while has to leave. This time a 4 year old boy we were caring for had to leave because he was showing signs of sexual abuse. Listen to the episode to hear about this||4/10/2014||Free||View in iTunes|
||CleanFWL Episode 21 - A Birthday Party||In this episode I talk about how wonderful it was to make our little foster guy feel special on his fourth birthday. We had the privilege to throw a foster child a birthday party again, and it was really cool. It was one of those days where my wife and I||4/10/2014||Free||View in iTunes|
||CleanFWL Episode 20 - And Another||Listen to what happened to the two little guys we had for a few days and about our new placement of a four year old boy and his five year old sister, and their little brother who we didn't end up taking. Download the .mp3(click the link to play ||4/10/2014||Free||View in iTunes|
||CleanFWL Episode 19 - Another Emergent Placement||We've received news of kids coming into care before the police are going to take them. Hear how I feel about the sad situation of knowing kids are going to be taken from their home before they do and an update on what happened with our last placements.&nb||4/10/2014||Free||View in iTunes|
||CleanFWL Episode 18 - Let's Do This Again||In this episode I talk about how we went about getting re-licensed to be foster parents after our break from doing it for a while and we had a middle of the night placement of two kids! Brother and sister. Sad stuff. We're back on this foster parenting jo||4/10/2014||Free||View in iTunes|
||CleanFWL Episode 17 - You Must Have Your Hands Full||In this episode I catch everyone up on the big things that have happened with our long term placement, and several other foster care placements we've had since then. Download the .mp3(click the link to play the audio in your browser or right-cli||4/10/2014||Free||View in iTunes|
||CleanFWL Episode 16 - Cultural Conundrums||Download the .mp3 In this episode I talk about how we found out our foster child is part Native American and what that means for adoption possibilities. website: http://www.fosteringwithlove.blogspot.com||4/10/2014||Free||View in iTunes|
||CleanFWL Episode 15 - A Birthday Party||Download the .mp3 (click the link to play the audio or right-click to download) Our foster child turned 5 while staying with us and we had the privilege of celebrating it with him. It was pretty special. Website for this podcast: http://www.fosteringwith||4/10/2014||Free||View in iTunes|
||CleanFWL Episode 14 - A New Placement||Download the .mp3 (click the link to play the audio or right-click to download) How we had to let one 3 year old little guy go and now have a new 4 year old foster child placement. Four kids in the house! :) Website for this podcast: http://www.fostering||4/10/2014||Free||View in iTunes|
||CleanFWL Episode 13 - An Update, Finally!||Download the .mp3 (click the link to play the audio or right-click to download) I talk about why it has been so long since I posted an episode and why you should trade in your sedan for a minivan! Website for this podcast:http://www.fosteringwithlov||4/10/2014||Free||View in iTunes|
||CleanFWL Episode 12 - I'm Back!||Download the .mp3 A podcast chronicling the journey of one man's experience in becoming a foster parent. It's been over a year but I'm back and my wife and I have a foster child in our home. I talk about what it was like and the CPR training course we we||4/10/2014||Free||View in iTunes|
||CleanFWL Episode 11 - A Story, A Farewell, & An Exhortation||Download the .mp3(Right Click, Save Target As...) In this final episode, I talk about what has gone on since the last episode, some things my wife and I have gone through with adoption and an upcoming pregnancy, as well as a farewell with many thanks.||4/10/2014||Free||View in iTunes|
||CleanFWL Episode 10 - Adoption Finalization||Download the .mp3(Right Click, Save Target As...) How adoption finalization of our beautiful baby daughter went at the courthouse on National Adoption Day.||4/10/2014||Free||View in iTunes|
||CleanWe Took A Break, Back Soon, & A Gift||For many reasons we let our foster care licence expire. We needed to focus on our kids. We pulled our oldest two out of school and started homeschooling, we decided my wife should stop working full time and come back home, etc. What does any of this mean||12/18/2013||Free||View in iTunes|
||CleanFWL Episode 09 - An Update and Some More Big News||Download the .mp3(Right Click, Save Target As...) Find out why I haven't posted an episode in such a long time. Our family has changed again, and will be changing again in the near future with an addition.||11/18/2010||Free||View in iTunes|
||CleanFWL Episode 08 - Adoption||Download the .mp3(Right Click, Save Target As...) Find out why we havent posted in a very long time, we've been busy adopting a baby girl and showing her off! :)||9/21/2010||Free||View in iTunes|
||CleanFWL Episode 07 - Falling In Love, Adoption||Download the .mp3(Right Click, Save Target As...) My wife joins me in this special episode. We talk about our journey to foster care, bonding, heart ache, adoption, reunification, schedules, bio parents, and much more. Join the conversation by leaving co||9/7/2010||Free||View in iTunes|
||CleanFWL Episode 06 - Side Aches||Download the .mp3(Right Click, Save Target As...) In this sixth episode, I talk about our struggles. Things have become more difficult, and I talk about what those things are and why they're stressful. I want this podcast to be encouraging, but open and||8/17/2010||Free||View in iTunes|
||CleanFWL Episode 05 - And Then There Were Five||Download the .mp3(Right Click, Save Target As...) In this podcast episode I talk about what it's like having 3 kids in our care again, one bio son and two foster children - all in diapers hooray! Also I mention our bedtime routine, how having three effec||8/11/2010||Free||View in iTunes|
||CleanFWL Episode 04 - Adventures in Feeding||Download the .mp3(Right Click, Save Target As...) In this fourth episode, I talk about some difficulties we have had with feeding, and how we have started to develop a relationship with the bio mom. Blog post to come soon.||8/3/2010||Free||View in iTunes|
||CleanFWL Episode 03 - A Dead Sprint, Then Pacing Ourselves||Download the .mp3(Right Click, Save Target As...) A lot has happened since the last blog post. As you know we've been placed with a little three month old boy, and in addition we were placed with his older three year old sister. They share the same bio m||7/26/2010||Free||View in iTunes|
||CleanFWL Episode 02 - More Waiting, A False Start, Off To The Races||Download the .mp3(Right Click, Save Target As...) In this episode the audio is a little more off the cuff, and differs slightly from the blog post text. Hello Everybody, and welcome to episode 2 of Fostering With Love. I'm Dan, and today I'm going to tal||7/14/2010||Free||View in iTunes|
||CleanFWL Episode 01 - The Calm Before The Storm||Download the .mp3 (Right Click, Save Target As...) Hi. My name is Dan and I'm about to become a foster parent! Come along for the ride. My goal in creating this blog and podcast is to share my experiences so that others can get a glimpse of what it's lik||6/30/2010||Free||View in iTunes|
I almost cried listening to this podcast...
I've worked in the Foster Care system for over 10 years and have now decided to become a foster parent. When I worked in the system I saw amazing foster parents but I saw too many who were there to adopt. I always worried about the "Fos-Adopt" homes because they had an agenda to see through the lens of "I want this child to stay with me" which is not what foster care is about. I listened to Episode 6 and started Episode 7 and had to stop because of typical statements I've heard from other fos-adopt parents. "The birth mom held the baby too much which caused all sort of neurological problems." Very judgmental statements about birth families are not helpful. (Although, that's a new one, I usually hear "They never held the baby enough and kept him in a bouncy chair/car seat all the time." And yet this podcaster couldn't understand why he was getting 'push back' from the birth mom. It's because even if you haven't acknowledged it, your agenda is to keep this baby and making it more difficult for the birth mom to complete her plan to reunify. Podcaster also said: "It's going to be so hard to let the baby go back home." You've had this child maybe 1-2 months. Can you imagine how the birth mother feels? She loved that child through pregnancy (9 months), birth (trauma and hormones galore) and held that child to her body until he was removed from her. And YOU'RE going to feel bad? I don't hear the empathy with the birth mother in these podcasts. It simply breaks my heart.
I will continue to listen because I want to know what happens to this family. I'm hoping I'll hear growth in the podcaster's mindset. Most likely, the child will not be reunified with the mother. Most children with addicted mothers don't get their young children returned because recovery takes years, which the child does not have. Child deserves permanency. But the child also deserves foster parents who value the birth family because he comes from them. I pray God puts love in this podcaster's heart for the entire family in need, not just the children.
Good podcast and not polished in any way
I have enjoyed listening to this podcast from a fellow Washington state resident. My wife and I are in the process of becoming foster parents and this podcast is very true and realistic regarding the difficulties and challenges that are faced within the foster care system.