The Scarlet Virgins Podcast
By Rebecca Lemke
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The Scarlet Virgins podcast takes an in-depth look at the topics addressed in Rebecca's book, "The Scarlet Virgins," including purity culture, modesty, I Kissed Dating Goodbye, legalism, and the various ramifications of spiritual abuse.
||CleanInterview With A Sexual Assault Prevention Educator||In this episode, Rebecca interviews Nikki Penwell, a sexual assault prevention educator. You can find Nikki on Facebook or on her website.||1/5/2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||CleanWhy You Shouldn't "Fake It"||If you've been raised in purity culture, sex can be incredibly frustrating and you may be tempted to fake an orgasm to make your spouse happy...but don't! In this episode of The Scarlet Virgins Podcast, Rebecca discusses why it isn't a good idea to...||12/29/2017||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean10 Tips for Dealing With A Frigid Spouse||Purity culture often reinforces frigid behaviors that already are impressed upon women when it comes to sex. This leads many spouses to confusion and sexual frustration. In this podcast episode of The Scarlet Virgins, Rebecca offers 10 Tips for...||12/22/2017||Free||View in iTunes|
||CleanHaving Discernment With Recovery Groups||For folks who are recovering from childhood abuses (legalism, physical abuse, cults, etc), recovery groups seem like a good resource for recovery. But are some recovery groups worse for you than the thing you were originally recovering from (or at...||12/15/2017||Free||View in iTunes|
||CleanInterview with the author of "Sexy"—Dr. Jeff Mallinson||In this episode, recorded live in California at Professor Mallinson's home, Rebecca interviews the author of the book "Sexy" about finding erotic virtue in perplexing times. Among the things discussed: the "sin of Onan," Prostitution, Sexual Assault,...||12/11/2017||Free||View in iTunes|
||CleanThe Pros and Cons of No-Touch Courtship||No-Touch courtship is a concept that is very popular in Conservative homeschooling circles. It has been made popular by famous families like the Duggars and glamorized to a certain degree that it may not deserve. In this podcast episode of The Scarlet..||11/3/2017||Free||View in iTunes|
||CleanWhat Changing My Hair Taught Me About Modesty and Body Image||I mentioned this in another video, but I got my hair fixed up for the first time recently! I'd never colored it or had anything done besides a simple hair cut. What I wasn't anticipating is how I was impacted by getting this done. I grew up in modesty..||10/27/2017||Free||View in iTunes|
||CleanPurity Culture and Sexual Band-Aids (BDSM, Rape Fantasy, etc)||I talked about this a little in my book which is linked below, but I have observed a significant amount of people impacted by purity culture being drawn towards BDSM, Rape Fantasy, and other things that I would classify as sexual band-aids given the...||10/20/2017||Free||View in iTunes|
||CleanFacing Sexual Dysfunction||If you were raised in purity culture like me, you may have run into some different sexual dysfunctions. Hopefully this video (an extra to my Scarlet Virgins podcast) will give you some things to think about and comfort in knowing you aren't alone and...||10/13/2017||Free||View in iTunes|
||CleanOwning Sexuality||Hey guys! This is a podcast episode that has been adapted from my article "How To Get Used To Sex When You've Been Raised To Be Ashamed" which you can find here: http://rebeccalemke.com/2017/08/18/ho... If you've been raised in purity culture and...||10/6/2017||Free||View in iTunes|
||CleanSexual Suppression||This is the second episode of The Scarlet Virgins Podcast that has been recorded for Youtube. This episode is on sexual suppression after growing up in purity culture and how it has had an impact on myself and my peers....||9/29/2017||Free||View in iTunes|
||CleanDysfunctional Childhoods and Their Impact on Relationships||This is the first of my podcast episodes to be recorded for my YouTube audience. We hope you enjoy it! Sorry about the clapping at the end, that was to tell my audio recorder to split to the next episode! ;) Dysfunctional childhoods often go hand in...||9/22/2017||Free||View in iTunes|
||CleanMen and Purity Culture||The Scarlet Virgins ep. 16||7/7/2017||Free||View in iTunes|
||CleanModesty, Makeup, Jewelry, and more||The Scarlet Virgins ep. 15||6/30/2017||Free||View in iTunes|
||CleanBonus: Rebecca with Thomas Umstattd Jr. on KXTW 1120 AM||Scarlet Virgins Bonus 1||6/23/2017||Free||View in iTunes|
||CleanWhat About Masturbation?||Scarlet Virgins ep. 14||6/23/2017||Free||View in iTunes|
||CleanThe Truth About Failed Courtships||The Scarlet Virgins ep. 14||6/16/2017||Free||View in iTunes|
||CleanHealing Wounds||The Scarlet Virgins ep. 12||5/26/2017||Free||View in iTunes|
||CleanLadies Who Lust||The Scarlet Virgins ep. 11||5/26/2017||Free||View in iTunes|
||CleanApostacy in Purity Culture||The Scarlet Virgins ep. 10||5/26/2017||Free||View in iTunes|
||CleanHangups in Marriage After Purity Culture||The Scarlet Virgins ep. 09||5/26/2017||Free||View in iTunes|
||CleanBrokenness in Jesus||The Scarlet Virgins ep. 08||5/26/2017||Free||View in iTunes|
||CleanPornography and Purity||The Scarlet Virgins ep. 07||5/26/2017||Free||View in iTunes|
||CleanModesty||The Scarlet Virgins ep. 05||5/22/2017||Free||View in iTunes|
||CleanSex and Love||The Scarlet Virgins ep. 05||5/22/2017||Free||View in iTunes|
||CleanSexpectations||The Scarlet Virgins ep. 04||5/22/2017||Free||View in iTunes|
||CleanMindset in Marriage||The Scarlet Virgins ep. 03||5/22/2017||Free||View in iTunes|
||CleanSingleness and Relationships||The Scarlet Virgins ep. 02||5/22/2017||Free||View in iTunes|
||CleanEverything Wrong with "I Kissed Dating Goodbye"||The Scarlet Virgins ep. 01||5/22/2017||Free||View in iTunes|
In the interest of full disclosure, I am Rebecca's husband, and tend towards a bias in that respect. That said, the content she shares here is both useful and timely as much of the generation that grew up in legalistic purity culture have now entered adulthood and are trying to make sense of the messages from their youth. Her approach is practical and balance, and I hope that her message of hope and healing finds the ears it was meant for.
Mix of health, religion, self-esteem and self-identity, inspiration, sexuality
Rebecca has this wonderful way of tackling some sensitive and difficult topics. She views each issue in every episode through a variety of lenses. Well done.
Open and honest
While I may not be in absolute agreement on every point, I have found Rebecca’s podcast to be an open and honest working through of issues that especially those who have grown up in purity culture face. The episodes provide great platforms from which conversations should spring.