horizontal with lila
By Lila Donnolo
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Horizontal with Lila is the podcast of intimate conversations about sex, love, and relationships that's entirely recorded while lying down. Many of the episodes are recorded in bed at Hacienda Villa, a sex-positive intentional community in Bushwick, Brooklyn. Others are recorded while horizontal elsewhere.
||Explicit72. how I met your mother: sitting relatively upright with my dad||my grandfather and the cycle of abuse, dad's seminary life, and why he decided not to be a priest||3/15/2019||Free||View in iTunes|
||Explicit70. tiger mom: horizontal with a recovering perfectionist||horizontal with lee noto: slow-going sex & celibacy, plant medicine journeys, faking orgasms, promiscuous rebellion, and bragging||3/1/2019||Free||View in iTunes|
||Explicit69. average-sized penis: quickie with The Sex Hacker||quickie with kenneth play: first sex party, Tinder adventure in Hawaii, and a kink love letter||2/22/2019||Free||View in iTunes|
||Explicit67. true love or bust: horizontal with a world-class relationship coach||annie lalla, part one: self-esteem & soul mates, footnoting, empathy algorithms, integration, differentiation, and my mother||2/8/2019||Free||View in iTunes|
||Explicit65. the clitoris and the culture: horizontal with wednesday martin phd||horizontal with wednesday, part one: female sexual autonomy, untrue, abstinence-only sex ed, & the worst thing to ever happen to women||1/25/2019||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean63. I love you and I beat you to it: horizontal with an actor-romantic||horizontal with burl moseley, part one: making as many friends as possible, our childhood celebrity crushes, and the first kiss ritual||1/11/2019||Free||View in iTunes|
||Explicit61. my gender is dolly parton & miss piggy: horizontal with queerfatfemme||horizontal with bevin, part one: self-love, self-compassion, self-care, seasonal affective disorder, and soulmates||12/28/2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||Explicit59. I’m gonna f**k him forEVER: horizontal with a polyamorous podcaster of political proportions||horizontal with samia mounts, part one: playing lumberjack, an american family takes a lover, wild man, being multi-orgasmic, & lifelong sexy relationships||12/14/2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||Explicit57. fear of intimacy: horizontal with the love (drive) podcaster||horizontal with shaun galanos, part one: cruising chat rooms, wizard sleeves, uncircumcised cocks, self-voyeurism, and check-ins||11/30/2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||Explicit55. touch hunger: horizontal with a professional nurturer||horizontal with epiphany jordan, part one: her Muslim father, sexual rebellion in the 70s, the touch deficit, and Lila's complicated feelings about her mom||11/16/2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||Explicit53. sperm control: horizontal with a nonmonogamy consultant||horizontal with wry: playing 90210, internalized slut-shaming, choosing heartbreak, relationship anarchy, PREP, and how herpes is not that big of a deal||11/2/2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||Explicit52. permission to change your mind: quickie with a sex therapist||quickie with dr. cat meyer: a threesome, a delayed anger response, satisfaction before orgasm, does it still feel good?, and choosing yourself powerfully||10/26/2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||Explicit50. your pussy is not a sheath: horizontal with a vagina whisperer||horizontal with pamela samuelson, part one: ambiverts, cervixes, the g-spot, the "husband stitch," and taking back the speculum||10/12/2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||Explicit48. libertine: horizontal with the doyenne of dirty stories||horizontal with dixie de la tour, part one: bawdy, bang-O, craigslist personals, the unknown hookup, and the old porno booths||8/10/2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||Explicit46. 12 ways to say no gracefully: horizontal with the co-founder of cuddle party||horizontal with marcia b, part one: boundaries boundaries boundaries, the some/many/most model, and asking for what you want||7/27/2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||Explicit44. don't f**k in my room: horizontal with a (grown-up) child of poly parents||horizontal with lurleen, part one: oversharing, open marriage, and sibling rivalry||7/13/2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||Explicit42. nipple orgasms: horizontal with youtube’s lesbian sexpert||horizontal with stevie boebi, part one: stevie's first girlfriend, daddy issues, repressed memories, molestation, being biromantic, spin the bottle, and the love feast||6/29/2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||Explicit40. sexplanations: horizontal with the sex ed teacher you never had||horizontal with dr. doe, part one: body hair, puritan sexuality, the real definition of intercourse, anal sex, puckering, and happy trails||6/15/2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||Explicit38. reveal all fear nothing: horizontal with a feminist pornographer||horizontal with madison young, part one: her memoir "daddy," saturations, rainbow unicorn bondage, self-aftercare, and how a porn star prepares||6/5/2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||Explicit37. not necessarily consensual: horizontal with a sexual assault survivor||horizontal with kennedy, part two: sexual assault, victim-blaming and slut-shaming, trauma, comforting boys, the seven-year itch, sharing your partner, and the desexualization of mothers||6/1/2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||Explicit36. you can make a human: horizontal with a young mother||horizontal with kennedy, part one: placenta fajitas, childbirth and misogyny, bodily fluids, and choosing motherhood at 18||5/25/2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||Explicit34. that was a big cucumber: horizontal with a gay reiki master||horizontal with josh, part one: gay stirrings, the right vegetables for your butt, porn energy work, and unintentional celibacy||5/11/2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean32. why we never had sex: horizontal with my dearest high school friend||horizontal with joe mccue, part one: our high school lives, joe’s bad first time, teaching his sister to read, and the stay-at-home-dad dream||4/27/2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||Explicit30. my heart is broken may it never heal: horizontal with a man separated from his wife||horizontal with matthew stillman, part one: villagemindedness, elders, orphan wisdom school, Matt’s first great love, his wife, and proceeding as if you are needed||4/13/2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||Explicit28. future of sex: horizontal with a sex tech podcaster||horizontal with bryony, part one: catholic school skirts, the time I slapped a girl, being spared sex, and going to the chapel||3/30/2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||Explicit26. for people who aren't looking to fall in love: horizontal with a bisexual slut||horizontal with fiona, part one: child-free, birth control, swallowing come, tumblebugging, and coming out as poly||3/16/2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||Explicit24. booty revolution: horizontal with a youtube star||horizonatal with meghan tonjes, part one: sexting, how lila met her partner, the feelings ambush, and getting disowned||3/2/2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||Explicit22. poly cocktails: horizontal with my hacienda housemate||horizontal with zed, part one: the sex table, the “poly” house, outsiderness, and being a sex-positive germophobe||10/9/2017||Free||View in iTunes|
||Explicit21. unicorning: quickie with a woman who has sex with couples||quickie with alana: fear of intimacy, being a unicorn, and the most delayed orgasm||10/2/2017||Free||View in iTunes|
||Explicit19. pet yourself: horizontal with a sensualist||horizontal with jackie, part one: happy parents, unhappy parents, depression, self-soothing, and a first kiss with a kitchen boy||9/18/2017||Free||View in iTunes|
||Explicit18. sex on the subway tonight: quickie with a gonzo journalist||quickie with grant stoddard: a trivia contest, a twin bed, and a column called "I did it for science"||9/11/2017||Free||View in iTunes|
||Explicit16. kiss me i'm jew-witch: horizontal with the comedy witch||horizontal with tiger, part one: the stork didn’t bring me, dad disappointment, and coming out as bisexual||8/28/2017||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean15. friend death: quickie with lila||a best friend, several fiances, a road trip, and a suicide||8/21/2017||Free||View in iTunes|
||Explicit13. nonsexual naked coconut oil contact improv movement: horizontal at connection camp||horizontal with dr. hazelgrace yates: hugging our parents, touch palette, human car wash, and the coco jam||8/7/2017||Free||View in iTunes|
||Explicit11. shower-head: horizontal with a primo villan||horizontal with rene, part one: parents, divorces, compartmentalizing emotions, and cheerfulness||7/24/2017||Free||View in iTunes|
||Explicit9. it's my body to give: horizontal with a unicorn||horizontal with elaine, part one: sex camp, swingers vs. poly people, and elaine's first fetish party||7/10/2017||Free||View in iTunes|
||Explicit7. the perfect lover: horizontal with an intimacy start-up founder||horizontal with philip, part one: sex ed in germany, condoms, coming of age, and VR porn||6/26/2017||Free||View in iTunes|
||Explicit6. divine pleasure: quickie with a meditation teacher||horizontal with ralph de la rosa: sex & spirituality, hare krishnas, celibacy, and slow sex||6/19/2017||Free||View in iTunes|
||Explicit4. sluthood: horizontal with a sex scientist||horizontal with dr. zhana, part one: sex ed, older boys, first masturbation, my first time, and sluthood(ie)s||6/5/2017||Free||View in iTunes|
||Explicit3. there's a kink for that: horizontal with a professional dominatrix||horizontal with mistress leigh: fetish work, dominant women / submissive men, play, power, and feefees||5/29/2017||Free||View in iTunes|
||Explicit2. stuff came out: horizontal with a sex writer||horizontal with grant stoddard: sex parties, the alchemy of attraction, benefits of having two partners, and a dinghy||5/21/2017||Free||View in iTunes|
||Explicit1. feed your delight: horizontal with a polyamorous woman||horizontal with mirelle: sluts, love languages, intimacy, polyamory, comets, fantasies, and fear||5/21/2017||Free||View in iTunes|
Empoweringly Open Conversations
I'm blown away by this podcast. Lila offers her guests so much space and love, and shares so much of herself that she is met with honesty and such deep conversation. It's so powerful hearing a podcast talk so openly and directly about love, relationships, sex, fears, and nonmonogamy.
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Lila's lucious voice melts you immediately. She takes you into her bed and lets your ears watch as she unzips intimate conversations with her special guest of the evening. The topics she so elloquently touches on will arouse your curiousity and catalyze you to both reflect upon and quesiton the extent to which your personal sexual belief system is adulterated by the normative ethos of your environment. Spend a couple hours horizontal with Lila, and you will walk away a satisfied listener.
Masterful, intimate, and delightful!
This will be the first iTunes review I have ever written, but in this case I find myself compelled.
Horizontal With Lila is quickly becoming one of my favorite podcasts. I discovered it because a close friend of mine was a guest on one of the episodes and even in the show's infancy (currently 4 episodes in) it's been a welcome discovery! And not just welcome, but impactful. I hope the show will be around for a long time to come.
Lila is masterful at what she does, which is to create a safe and intimate space for guests to join her and have personal, sensual, and far-reaching conversations around the most delicate experiences from their lives. There are currently many other podcasts dealing with the topic of sexuality but this one has a presence, an immediacy, a heart, a delight, and an authentic curiosity to it that I think sets it apart. "Horizontal" takes some of my favorite elements from other shows like The Heart, Death Sex and Money, and even Risk and expands on them.
At the center of the show is Lila, herself, of course. Her velvet voice is soothing and sultry; it puts one at ease. And yet one gets the feeling that beneath the warm questions there is a searching zeal that won't relent. In particular, I was delighted with the way Lila doesn't just breeze through topics with her guests but rather circles around those topics and those questions, returning time and again, until it feels she has really drawn her guests out and given them the opportunity to plumb the depths of their stories, should they choose to. Not many hosts take the time to do that quite so naturally or so intentionally.
The conceit of the show is brilliant, as well: recording the exchange while lying down together. It brings an unguarded quality to the conversation that I find rare in produced content and feels like we, the audience, are being invited to eavesdrop on a couple's private pillow talk.
It seems that in pretty much every way Horizontal With Lila is a gift. Give it a listen: I think you will find it's worth your time!