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Although ​performing ​stand-up comedy ​was what initially united ​Eliot, Brent, and H. Alan over 10 years ago​, it’s their ​openness ​(​and ​sense of humor) about feeling ​totally ​lost ​and disconnected from the gay community that’s truly bonded them. ​On YMIW, ​Eliot, Brent and H. Alan get down and dirty, exploring the ​good, bad, and ugly ​tropes of contemporary gay life, often the stuff that no one -- especially ​​​straight people -- discuss for fear of being labeled homophobic. (Don’t worry. ​They’ll do that for you.) Each episode features ​a special guest ​-​- comedians, humorists, musicians, influencers, film/TV writers, journalists, politicians, etc. - as well as allies, enemies, and acquaintances from all backgrounds and professions, not just those in the public eye. And as white​, urban-dwelling ​gay ​dudes in their ​thirties, Eliot, Brent and H. Alan​ check their own privilege at the door, eager to ​instead explore what life looks ​for those not afforded the same concessions.

Customer Reviews

Funny podcast but.....

These guys make me laugh. I love their guests but whenever the interview gets good they cut them off to go back to talk about themselves. It’s very much like hanging out with my gay friend that at the end of the night they give me conversational blue balls.

I Love these Guys

They care about woman. I could weep, finally I’m accepted. I’m a woman, I’m a slut, I have sex with men! And I matter to these guys!
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Brent and Elliot great, but..

H. Alan refuses, during EVERY debate, to ever be open to another opinion/perspective and comes across nauseatingly self righteous and combative (glaringly obvious at the beginning of the Travon Free episode). H Alan, challenge yourself to actually think through your co-hosts’ perspectives. There’s a way to express and defend yourself without being condescending.

Also at the beginning of the Travon episode, two of you immediately brought up the unlikelihood of Kindr being effective. Check your privilege here nonwhite noncis folx are hoping this IS effective so they are treated better; clearly it wouldn’t affect your experiences, so save your pessimism.