Love and Abuse
By Paul Colaianni
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A show to help you identify toxic communication, emotional abuse, manipulation and other forms of bad behavior in all of your relationships. Don't get sucked into abusive communication. Empower yourself by learning to pinpoint the specific behaviors of toxic people before you are dragged in to their game so deep you come out a shell of your former self. Love and Abuse is the official podcast of The M.E.A.N. Workbook on emotional abuse and manipulation at loveandabuse.com.
||CleanYes, there are people that know how to control you and steal your power||We are often told that we can choose how to feel and that no one can actually control us. However, in emotional abuse and manipulation, that concept doesn't seem to hold true at all. In fact, it seems that we can be conned by our own brain as the...||3/23/2019||Free||View in iTunes|
||CleanThe narcissist under the hood - The difficulty of explaining emotional abuse to friends and family||How do you tell friends and family about the emotional abuse from the narcissist when they don't see that behavior in them at all. In fact, they have a very different view of the abusive person to the point where they may actually feel sorry for them...||3/15/2019||Free||View in iTunes|
||CleanAre you with a manipulative person?||Would you know if you were being manipulated? Do you know what the look for? Manipulative people are experts are toxic language to make you feel bad about yourself. It's time to learn just how to tell if you are being manipulated or not. Love and...||3/13/2019||Free||View in iTunes|
||CleanThe texts after the breakup: When breadcrumbing keeps you from reaching closure||Some people have a strange way of showing they care by sending you small messages out of the blue to get you to think about them. In reality, this is a manipulative tactic to make sure you never get them out of your mind. Breadcrumbing can happen for...||3/12/2019||Free||View in iTunes|
||CleanWhen manipulative people change your reality: Crazymaking and Gaslighting||Gaslighting and crazymaking are one in the same - they are both terms to describe a person that wants you to feel crazy. They do that by causing you to distrust your own decisions and make you think that you are wrong about almost everything. They...||3/11/2019||Free||View in iTunes|
||CleanConfusing you into submission: A common manipulation you may fall for again and again||Have you ever sat there feeling confused, frustrated or running out of patience listening to someone talk and talk? There is actually a method manipulators use to confuse you into compliance so that they can get their way with you. It is something you..||3/5/2019||Free||View in iTunes|
||CleanRemembering only the good times can sometimes perpetuate the bad times||It takes two humble people to work at the relationship, not one that's always blaming the other. When one person is always blaming and pointing the finger at the other, and the other person tries to do the right thing, there may be a deeper issue that..||3/2/2019||Free||View in iTunes|
||CleanSelfish people just don't really care about you||If you've ever wondered why someone could be so cruel, it's time to accept that selfish people just don't care about you. Selfish people will slowly disintegrate your self-worth, self-esteem, self-trust, self-love and self-compassion, which is...||2/28/2019||Free||View in iTunes|
||CleanRecognizing you are being emotionally abused when you don't see the signs||When you can't see the symptoms or manipulation or emotional abuse, do either actually exist? Is there a way to tell when you're being emotionally mistreated? Yes. This episode talks about what to look for when you don't see the signs.||2/26/2019||Free||View in iTunes|
||CleanWhen you're constantly defending yourself||Do you spend all your energy defending yourself with certain people? Can you never get ahead with them because they continue to paint you into a corner where you feel you have no choice but to correct them about what you've done or who you are? It may..||2/19/2019||Free||View in iTunes|
||CleanAre you the manipulative one?||What happens when you look at your relationships and think that perhaps you are the one causing the problems and that your partner or family are right about you? Are you the manipulative one? Do you need help? I think that's a great question to...||2/17/2019||Free||View in iTunes|
||CleanWatching out for emotional predators. Are you being brainwashed into becoming a manipulation or emotional abuse victim?||You can be "groomed" into becoming the victim of emotional abuse or manipulation. Just like a child predator will groom his or her victim for abuse, the "emotional predator" will set you up for their control so that you become whatever they want you...||2/14/2019||Free||View in iTunes|
||CleanThe "You're too sensitive" game||When someone cares about you, they don't say things like "you're too sensitive" or "you're so emotional", they actually become more sensitive to your sensitivities. Don't fall for the "you're too sensitive" game, it is played by those who want to get...||2/14/2019||Free||View in iTunes|
||CleanDon't dismiss the red flags of manipulation and deception||Have you noticed the red flags but decided not to say anything? What do you do when you catch someone red handed and the red flag of deception or manipulation rears its ugly head? Do you honor your boundaries and speak up or instead choose to dismiss...||2/14/2019||Free||View in iTunes|
||CleanIntroduction: The show about unhealthy communication, emotional abuse and manipulation||Emotional abuse, manipulative communication, and lies and deception are so prevalent in the world today that it's almost impossible to go through life without meeting at least 10 people that are capable of making you into their victim. You do not have..||2/14/2019||Free||View in iTunes|
I have always been stubborn about not listening to podcasts. My partner felt that it would help me/us in so many ways and suggested Paul. I should have listened to her, months ago. He offers the most amazing advice and breaks things down in a way that hits home and makes perfect sense.
Grateful for the information.
Truly, thank you for helping me to identify and understand. You correlate the issues very well.
So excited to listen!
I JUST found this new podcast! So excited to listen! Thank GOD for Paul Colaianni ! He’s pioneering this much needed area , so much hidden abuse with few who ‘get it’ ... His first podcast the Overwhelmed Brain kept me sane and he literally helped me realize I should and could escape with my children from a potentially deadly covertly abusive marriage. Realizing it wouldn’t ‘get better’ and seeing this was due to my ex’s unchangeable personality disorder and losing myself to the abuse
has been the hardest most devastating experience in my life. Thank You Paul , May God Bless you for the care and very helpful much needed info you share with an underrepresented population of those of us who are or have been victims of this crippling ( but nearly undetectable to those outside the relationship! ) abuse. You’re truly an angel of mercy to many. Thank you on behalf of my children and myself!