Miss Gender (video)
By Jay Frosting
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Best friends for years, Jay Frosting and Ashley talk about what it's like as Ashley figures out how she goes about transitioning from one gender to another. Discussions include how Ashley came to realize she’s transgender, coming out to parents and other family members, mulling over how to handle things at work, and simply trying to get the hang of being a woman.
|1||ExplicitVideoAshley’s New Vagina (s02e14)||Remember back in 2015 when Ashley put in a two-years-out down payment for bottom surgery with Dr. Bowers? Well, that...||7/12/2017||Free||View in iTunes|
|2||ExplicitVideoGenerally Hopeful (s02e13)||After Ashley’s wobbly visit with her parents over Independence Day weekend in which her parents carelessly outed Ashley to her...||1/31/2016||Free||View in iTunes|
|3||ExplicitVideoAre Things Getting Better? (s02e12)||Ashley went to see her parents over Independence Day weekend. Her brother Adrian, and his wife and parents-in-law were also...||8/23/2015||Free||View in iTunes|
|4||ExplicitVideoMom and Dad: Still Doofuses (s2e11)||Ashley chats with Jay about visiting her parents in December. They didn’t use her birthname during the trip, but they...||2/13/2015||Free||View in iTunes|
|5||ExplicitVideoSo Many Trips! (s02e10)||Ashley and Jay talk about Ashley’s travels over the last few months, including the family reunion she attended in July,...||12/31/2014||Free||View in iTunes|
|6||ExplicitVideoAshley’s New Face (s02e09)||Ashley gives Jay all the details about her recent trip to Argentina for her FFS (Facial Feminization Surgery) with Dr....||6/2/2014||Free||View in iTunes|
|7||ExplicitVideoWinterfamilytime 2013 (s02e08)||After a promising visit with her parents over Thanksgiving, Ashley felt somewhat optimistic about seeing them in December, but since...||1/30/2014||Free||View in iTunes|
|8||ExplicitVideoThankful||After Ashley sent a second letter to her parents about using her correct name, she realized that they would probably...||12/15/2013||Free||View in iTunes|
|9||ExplicitVideoImmovable Object||About a year ago, Ashley sent her parents a letter asking them to call her Ashley. At the time, she...||7/1/2013||Free||View in iTunes|
|10||ExplicitVideoThis Is No Good||Ashley visited her parents at the beginning of winter. Over her previous visit for Thanksgiving, she had heaps of support...||1/24/2013||Free||View in iTunes|
|11||ExplicitVideoThanksgiving Too||Even though Ashley’s name change has gone through, she’s wasn’t sure whether it would make any difference when she visited...||12/21/2012||Free||View in iTunes|
|12||ExplicitVideoName Change Day||After having filed her paperwork and heaps of waiting — among other steps — Ashley’s court date for her name...||9/14/2012||Free||View in iTunes|
|13||ExplicitVideoNo More Ms. Nice Girl||Ashley had been trying to remain patient with her parents’ refusal to use her new name or correct pronouns, hoping...||8/6/2012||Free||View in iTunes|
|14||ExplicitVideoThe Letter||Ashley has waited for months for her parents to start using the name Ashley instead of her birth name, but...||6/22/2012||Free||View in iTunes|
|15||ExplicitVideo7 Questions||Ashley answers 7 Questions for the we happy trans project, such as who’s been most supportive of her transition, changes...||4/1/2012||Free||View in iTunes|
|16||ExplicitVideoSupport Groups||Ashley is frustrated by her parents’ lack of acceptance, and suggests that instead of emphasizing her new happiness to them,...||3/16/2012||Free||View in iTunes|
|17||ExplicitVideoThe T Word||Ashley teaches Jay about the nuances and changing meanings of some of the more hurtful slurs directed toward trans folks,...||2/29/2012||Free||View in iTunes|
|18||ExplicitVideoAccept? Yes. Condone? No.||Ashley’s father seems to view her gender therapist as a sort of puppet-master (puppet-mistress?) pulling Ashley’s strings, even though Ashley...||2/15/2012||Free||View in iTunes|
|19||ExplicitVideoWinter Family Time||Ashley visits with family and friends during the yuletide season and her parents obstinately use the wrong name and pronouns...||1/31/2012||Free||View in iTunes|
|20||ExplicitVideoLaid Off||Ashley gets laid off, inferring through the business-speak that it was a means for the company to cut costs. She...||1/23/2012||Free||View in iTunes|
|21||ExplicitVideoThanksgiving||Over Thanksgiving, Ashley’s parents reveal that they still misunderstand her transgender status, claiming that she’s cross-dressing and that she’s making...||1/16/2012||Free||View in iTunes|
|22||ExplicitVideoSexytime||Jay figures it’s time to ask Ashley about sex and romance as a trans woman, asking her about underwear preferences,...||12/31/2011||Free||View in iTunes|
|23||ExplicitVideoCatcalling||Ashley gets catcalled and wolf whistled at while entering Target and feels a little apprehensive, but also feels a little...||12/15/2011||Free||View in iTunes|
|24||ExplicitVideoClothes & Shopping||Jay asks Ashley if she had considered wearing a wig until her hair had grown out to a length that...||11/30/2011||Free||View in iTunes|
|25||ExplicitVideoCall Me Ashley?||Ashley talks about her parents’ recent visit and how she asked them to consider calling her Ashley rather than her...||11/21/2011||Free||View in iTunes|
Outstanding and fun
What if your best friend suddenly announced he or she thought their gender at birth should have been different?
This intensely personal story, told in a relaxed conversation, gains much from the long-term friendship of the two folks behind this show. Though both were still finding their podcasting feet in the first episode, by the second, Ashley is revealing her journey with honest charm and Jay is providing a shining example of the kind of supportive—while still curious and sometimes perplexed—friendship we should all be so lucky to have.
I'm looking forward to years of this fascinating dialogue on gender, body, and how we make ourselves who we are.