ON BOYS Podcast
By Janet Allison, Jennifer LW Fink
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Ever wonder why do boys DO that? Join co-hosts Jennifer L.W. Fink, mom of four boys, and Janet Allison, parenting coach & educator, as they explore and explain boy behavior. Their weekly conversations include a healthy dose of humor & insight, and feature take-away tips you can use right now, at home or in the classroom, to help boys grow into healthy, happy men. Whether your boys are teens or toddlers, you’ll find a big dose of support, encouragement and camaraderie at On Boys.
||Clean148: 14 Ways to Love Your Boys||Love really is what makes the world go around. - At least, it's what makes the world a better place! - On Valentine's Day, our thoughts typically turn to romantic love (thanks to a hefty assist by Hallmark, restaurants and jewelry companies.||2/13/2019||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean147 Raising Boys with Amy Joyce of The Washington Post||Over the last year or so, as story after story of men's misconduct hit the headlines, one question rang out in the hearts, minds and souls of parents: How do we raise boys to become good men? - Boys, we know, are not born evil or prejudiced.||2/6/2019||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean146 What You Need to Know about Boys & Suicide (w Katey McPherson)||Young men are 4X more likely to die of suicide than young women - The suicide rate for boys ages 15 to 19 grew by 30 percent from 2007 to 2015 - Suicide is now the second leading cause of death for ages 10-24 -||1/30/2019||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean145 Masculinity Goes Viral: The APA Guidelines, Gillette Ad & Boys of Covington High School||By now, you've probably seen this picture... - ...and heard about Gillette's new ad, The Best Men Can Be - Maybe you've even heard about the American Psychological Association's Guidelines for Psychological Practice with Boys and Men,||1/23/2019||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean144: You Asked about Age 14, Implicit Bias and Sensitive Boys (Listener Q & A)||- Our listeners ask the big, important questions! - When we put out our most recent call for listener questions, we got some heart-felt, thought-provoking, difficult-to-answer questions. Allison asked how to effectively love and support a young...||1/16/2019||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean143 How Confidence & Joy Spark Success||"Confidence and joy are to the development of a child as oxygen is to life." -- from Confidence & Joy: Success Strategies for Kids with Learning Differences If your son struggles -- academically, socially,||1/9/2019||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean142: Resolutions for People Who Care About Boys||The word resolution means "a firm decision to do or not to do something." It also means "the action of solving a problem, dispute, or contentious matter." - As we head into 2019, let's consider both definitions of the word.||1/2/2019||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean141: Best of 2018||As 2018 draws to a close, we reflect back on our first year. - This podcast launched on March 12, 2018. Since then, we've recorded 40+ episodes, on everything from tween boy hygiene to how to talk to boys about sex,||12/26/2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean140 Maggie Dent on Mothering Our Boys (Part 2)||- Want your boys to develop gentleness and empathy? Get a guinea pig. - So says Maggie Dent, Australia's BOY CHAMPION, mother of four grown boys and author of Mothering Our Boys: A Guide for Mums of Sons. -||12/20/2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean139: Maggie Dent on Mothering Our Boys (Part 1)||- Please meet the marvelous Maggie Dent! - Known in Australia as "the queen of common sense," Maggie is a teacher, counselor and dedicated BOY CHAMPION. - She's a popular speaker, parenting educator and the author of 11 books,||12/12/2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean138 Holiday Gifts & Guilt||(Talk with Janet & Jen LIVE on 'OPEN MIC' - click here for date & ticket information.) - 'Tis the season for gift-giving, overspending & guilt. - In today's consumer culture, there's intense pressure to show love and care for your family via material...||12/5/2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean137: iGen||- Baby Boomers. Gen X. Millennials. And now, iGen. - According to psychology professor Jean Twenge, the members of iGen include the children and young adults born between 1995 and 2012. And what sets these kids apart from previous generations,||11/28/2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean136: Thankful for Boys!||- We talk a lot about what's hard about parenting. About all of the important things you need to and should do with your boys. This Thanksgiving, we talk about why we're thankful for boys. - Let us count the ways: -||11/21/2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean135: Tween Boys||Some call the tween years a "second toddlerhood." - Like toddlers, tweens are striving for independence and determined to do things on their own. Except when they'd rather not. Some days, they want nothing more than to be little kids again,||11/14/2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean134: Rites of Passage||- Traditional societies had many (often elaborate) rites of passage for boys and girls. - On the South Pacific island of Vanuatu, boys become men after diving off rickety 40 foot platforms -- toward the ground.||11/7/2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean133: Re-Run – The Good News About Bad Behavior||Enjoy this episode from our archives - it's too good to miss! - AND if you're intrigued by what you hear, consider joining co-host Janet Allison for her upcoming online class: "5 Steps to Untangle Your Parenting.||10/31/2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean132: Risk-Taking Boys with Mom Judi Ketteler||Would you let your 10-year-old son hang out with a bunch of teenagers you haven’t met? Would you let him attempt a double or triple flip in the trampoline in the backyard – or manage his own Instagram account? Writer and mom Judi Ketteler has. -||10/24/2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean131: Emails & Phone Calls from Teachers||How do you respond to phone calls and emails from teachers about your son's misbehavior? - Excerpts of actual emails I've received from my son's teachers: On Tuesday, Sam was sitting in a chair with his legs on a stool,||10/18/2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean130: Homework re-run||HOMEWORK can bring out the worst in us...and our kids. We wonder if we should force them to do it (again) or if we can just stop having them do it all together because the conflict is too great. Is it really important?||9/26/2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean129 Grief with Tom Golden||One of our jobs, as parents and educators of boys, is to help them learn how to deal with tough emotions -- including grief. As much as we want to, we can't protect our boys from hurt. Loved ones die. Parents divorce Friends move.||9/19/2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean128: 21st Century Sex Ed with Jo Langford||The standard "birds and bees" sex talk doesn't work any more. (If it ever really did!) - Today, parents have to address pornography, homosexuality, gender and consent. If you feel nervous tackling those topics, don't worry. You're not alone. -||9/12/2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean127: Help! My Son Has a Girlfriend! (Listener Q & A)||"My son just turned 14 & his girlfriend is 13, and he doesn't understand why I won't leave them alone in my house. Am I being over protective of BOTH of them? I feel a duty of care to his girlfriend. I know how easily things can turn from innocent t.||9/5/2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean126: Helping Teachers Understand Boys||A listener asked us, "How do you gently encourage/educate your boy's teacher on what boys need and how to help them, rather than shame them, when they have gone into anger?" - The short answer: It ain't easy, but it's so, so worth it! -||8/29/2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean125: Anxiety & Depression in Boys||- 1 in 2 children will develop a mood or behavioral disorder or substance addiction by age 18. - We parents like to think that if we "do everything right," our kids will be mentally and physically healthy with nary a care in the world.||8/22/2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean124: How to Help Your Boys Have a Great School Year||It's back to school time! - But despite the smiley faces pictured in many back-to-school ads, the start of a new academic year doesn't exactly generate feelings of enthusiasm and excitement in many boys (or their parents). - For many families,||8/15/2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean123: The Good News About Bad Behavior with Katherine Reynolds Lewis||- If your kids always do what they're told, consistently treat others with kindness and never over-react to unintended slights, you can skip this episode. - If not -- WELCOME! Your child is 100% normal,||8/8/2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean122: Co-Parenting with Brandie Weikle||Co-Parenting - Divorced or Married||8/1/2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean121: Sibling Stress: How to Handle Bickering, Fighting & More||If you have more than one child, you have sibling stress. - Bickering! Fighting! Maybe even bullying. - Seeing -- and hearing -- our children torment each other is major source of stress and family conflict. - We wonder, Have I failed?||7/25/2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean120: Hygiene Help for Tween & Teen Boys||Have a boy who hates to shower? - You are not alone! - When a mom recently asked the Building Boys Facebook group, "Anyone else have a teenage boy who hates to shower?" she was quickly inundated with support and sympathy. - Personal hygiene,||7/18/2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean119 Consent with Mike Domirtz||Kids want the skill set to empower them to make the right choices. -- Mike Domritz, founder of The Date Safe Project & father of 4 boys Talking to boys about consent is a must. It's also incredibly challenging and a bit intimidating.||7/11/2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean118: Business Tips from a 12-Year-Old Entrepreneur||Boys can learn a lot by starting and running a business. - Jen's youngest son, Sam, bought his older brother's lawn business two years ago, when the older brother moved to Tennessee (where he has since started another lawn care service). -||7/4/2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean117: Summer Jobs||Does your son have a summer job? - Most boys don't. - In 1978, 60% of teens had summer jobs; today, that number hovers between 35 and 40%. - Boys today are more likely to spend their days playing sports,||6/27/2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean116: Why Risk Is Important for Boys||How comfortable are you with risk? Do you respond with fear or encouragement when your son wants to try something new? How about when you find him climbing atop your tree house? Or doing flips off a public staircase? -||6/21/2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean115: The Boy Crisis with Warren Farrell||Your son is not the only one struggling. According to Dr. Warren Farrell -- and a slew of research -- boys in 63 of the largest developed nations are faring worse than girls. They're doing worse academically. They're falling behind in the workplace.||6/13/2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean114: Sleepovers, Camp, and Separation Anxiety||'Tis the season for sleepaway camp and summer sleepovers! - For some parents and kids, though, the prospect of a night away from home is scary. There are so many ‘what-if’s' that could happen: what if they’re cold? what if they get homesick?||6/6/2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean113: Lying, Risk, & How to Advocate for Boys (Listener Q&A, Part 2)||Welcome to Part 2 of our first Listener Q & A! - This week, Jen & Janet tackle 3 more questions: "What strategies do you use to deal with a sudden increase in lying in pre-teen boys?" "What's the best way to allow young boys to be adventurous/...||5/30/2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean112: Potty Talk, Vaping & School (Listener Q&A, Part 1)||When we put out a call for listener questions, you sent us some doozies! - In this, our first-ever Listener Q & A (Part 1), we tackle three of your questions: "I just finished listening to the podcast episode with Amy Lang.||5/23/2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean111: Self-Esteem and Boys||According to the Oxford Living Dictionaries, self-esteem is "confidence in one's own worth or abilities; self-respect." That's something we want for our kids. We're not talking about participation trophies simply for showing up; we're talking about a t.||5/16/2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean110: Talk to Boys about Sex with Amy Lang||Amy Lang is a sex educator -- and the mom of a teenage boy who is utterly mortified by his mom's career. If anyone understands just how awkward talking about sex with your son can be -- and how important it is to push through despite your the discomfor.||5/9/2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean109: Gun Play and Boys||Is Gun Play Really Okay? - A generation ago, gun play was an acceptable part of childhood. Parents gave their kids toy guns as gifts -- yes, even Red Ryder BB guns! (and yes, that's A Christmas Story reference) -- and boys regularly played Cops and Ro.||5/2/2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean108: Video games and Boys (with special guest Greg Wondra)||Why do boys spend so many hours playing videogames? And how worried should we be about the hours they spend gaming? - To get some answers, we turned to a true expert: Greg Wondra, a former boy & current parent who also happens to be video game design||4/25/2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean107: Video Game Design – A Career for Boys||Can your video game-loving boy turn his passion into a career? Perhaps, says our special guest, Greg Wondra. Greg is a veteran game designer who worked on the MLB 2K series, Wizard 101, Lost Planet 3, and Monkeyquest,||4/18/2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean106: Screens and Boys||How many hours per week do your boys spend in front of a screen? - According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, children ages 6-10 now spend 6 hours per day using screens as entertainment. That figure doesn't count time spent learning ..||4/11/2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean105: Masculinity in the Age of #MeToo||What is masculinity? It's a question that's not easy to answer. But it's an important one for parents and educators of boys to tackle because the primary question for all boys, is "What is it to be a man?" In this episode, Jen & Janet discuss: -||4/4/2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean104: Anger and Boys||"By age 9, the default emotion for most boys is anger." -- Michael Gurian It's easy to feel overwhelmed and helpless in the face of a boy's anger, whether you've got a toddler throwing a temper tantrum or a teenager on a rampage.||3/28/2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean103: Sports and Boys Who Don’t Like Them||Sports are a HUGE part of boy world -- and that's a problem for boys who aren't interested in or don't particularly enjoy athletics. In this episode, Jen & Janet discuss: Why it's so important for parents to separate their athletic ambitions from...||3/21/2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean102: Disappointments and Helping Boys Deal with Them||Sam had high hopes for this 12th birthday. But things didn’t go as planned. Instead of a day of adventure and independence, Sam’s had an encounter with a cop and learned he must wait another four years to ride his ATV independently on the trails. -||3/14/2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean101: Homework and Boys||Few things cause boys (and their families) as much stress as HOMEWORK. In many cases, homework battles turn into outright power struggles -- with no winners. In this episode, Jen & Janet discuss: Why boys struggle with homework||3/14/2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean100: Introducing Co-Hosts Janet and Jen||What do you get when you combine a former educator/family coach with a writer/mom of 4 boys? A podcast that's all about parenting, teaching and reaching tomorrow's men! - In this episode, you'll meet your co-hosts, Janet Allison and Jennifer L.W.||3/11/2018||Free||View in iTunes|
My favorite podcast!
I’m a mom of two boys and it isn’t always easy. Janet and Jennifer’s podcast always have the best stories and advice to help me navigate through this wonderful adventure of raising boys . They let you know it’s not always going to be perfect and I’ve applied so much of the advice they give into helping raise my boys . Their podcast are always so relevant and they cover so many of the dilemmas many parents of boys run into. I always look forward to each new episode.
Great Info and Always A Good Laugh
These two ladies give such great prospective. I love their different views as both a mom of boys and an educator. As a mom of two boys I relate to so much that is shared and have grown so much in my understanding of my boys and their interactions in life.
I am a mom of 3 boys, 16, 10, and 5, so you can imagine the excitement when I found a local speaker and author whom was creating the community of Boys Alive!! I have been listening to Janet on the radio now for about a year and was able to hear her speak live at an event here in my hometown of Portland, OR earlier this year.
Recently I was having a difficult time with my 5 year old boy’s behavior at the end of the school year in pre-school so I reached out to Janet in a desperate search for some answers on why my son was suddenly having such a hard time in school. Not listening to teachers, being aggressive towards friends and being dismissed from his class was what I was being told were the problems with my son. We were even asked to pick our boy up from school one of the days. I was devastated and tearful and questioning myself about where I went wrong in my parenting and what I needed to do to reverse this behavior so it doesn’t devastate him or me as his mother for life.
In talking to Janet she reminded me of a kind of “spring fever” that many kids go through at the end of the year. She reminded me there were transitions and changes often happening at this time of year. For my son it was his last 2 weeks at the preschool he’s been attending for 2 years and he starts kindergarten in the fall at a new school. Saying goodbye to friends and familiar places is hard for him. She assured me that these behaviors were common, especially with boys, and that this too was only a phase, some brief growing pains. She encouraged me to be consistent with my parenting, love unconditionally, and not dwell on the bad behavior. Sure enough it only lasted those 2 weeks then he for the most part returned to his kind loving and energetic self.
I can’t say enough of how thankful I was for Janet’s calm and comforting talk with me as we were going through this. She was right there when I reached out to have a conversation with me as soon as possible. She helped me to be a better mother by understanding what he was going through and why. She gave me practical advice that I was able to implement immediately to help him move through this phase.
Also the podcasts are so relevant to all the things I question and go through with my boys. I love this community. It has kept me a little more sane through these hard parenting years with boys!! I can’t thank you enough for having this resource available for me and others out there in the same boat!! Thank you so much!