150 episodes
The Place We Find Ourselves Adam Young | LCSW, MDiv
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4.8 • 2.3K Ratings
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The Place We Find Ourselves podcast features private practice therapist Adam Young (LCSW, MDiv) and interview guests as they discuss all things related to story, trauma, attachment, and interpersonal neurobiology. Listen in as Adam unpacks how trauma and abuse impact the heart and mind, as well as how to navigate the path toward healing, wholeness, and restoration. Interview episodes give you a sacred glimpse into the real-life stories of guests who have engaged their own experiences of trauma and abuse. Drawing from the work of neuroscientists such as Allan Schore, Dan Siegel, and Bessel van der Kolk, as well as psychologist Dan Allender, this podcast will equip and inspire you to engage your own stories of harm in deep, transformative ways.
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153 How Your Past Story Affects Your Present Sexuality with Jay Stringer
I am joined today by author Jay Stringer to talk about sexual stuckness/difficulties/pain. Healthy sexuality is deeply tied to the degree to which we have made sense of our story in our family of origin. Sadly, so few of us have ever been asked to connect the dots between our past life story and the sexual difficulties we face in the present. Today, Jay and I try to connect some of those dots. If you want to understand your sexual story in more depth, please sign up for The Sexual Attachment Conference on May 4th. We want to help you understand and transform some of the unique sexual difficulties you may be experiencing either individually or as a couple.
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152 Learning To Live Inside Your Body with Dr. Hillary McBride
I am joined today by Dr. Hillary McBride to discuss excerpts from her new book titled, “Practices for Embodied Living.” Topics covered include: how to feel your feelings, being alive in your body (eroticism), and the story of your relationship to your sensuality and sexuality. Finally, I ask Hillary about her beautiful claim that we often find the Holy precisely in the places we were told not to look (including in our bodies).
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151 What To Do With Desire and Dread with Mike Boland
Pastor and counselor Mike Boland shares a story from when he was 15 years old. It’s a story about the interplay of longing for connection and, at the same time, dreading what will be required of him in return. We talk about grooming, and the war of ambivalence that rages in one’s body in the midst of abuse. You can find out more about Mike’s work at therestinitiative.org.
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150 Trauma Heals By Connecting With Others
The opposite of trauma is not "no trauma;" the opposite of trauma is connection. To be human is to be wounded. However, wounds heal naturally when the environment is right… and the right environment for healing is the empathic presence of another person. God made our brains and nervous systems to need one another. This is particularly true when it comes to engaging your story. You cannot engage your story alone. Sitting in your favorite chair with a journal, a Bible, a cup of coffee, and a good view out your window is not sufficient to heal your wounds. But the attuned presence of another human being can change your brain.
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149 Why Listening To Your Body Leads To Healing Part 2
Today I focus on two important ways that your body tells you things. The first is through your affect. Whenever your affect becomes dysregulated, your body is letting you know valuable information about your present environment… and about your past story. Dysregulation makes implicit memory known. And the second way that your body communicates with you is through impulses. Your body has impulses… impulses that it would like you to take more seriously than you probably do.
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148 The Healing Power of Understanding Your Story with Dan Allender and Cathy Loerzel
You have a story and that story matters. Your story in your family of origin significantly affects the way you think, feel, and act in the world today. This is why Dan Allender says, “It is time to listen to your story.” What if healing begins by listening to your story? By reflecting on—and engaging—the experiences in your growing up years, you can better understand why your brain has been shaped in the way that it has. These are the topics that Dan, Cathy, and I explore in today’s episode. If you want to experience more of the healing power of understanding your own story, join the three of us in Atlanta, GA, on Saturday February 3, 2024, for the StoryWork Conference. The conference will be live streamed if you can’t make it to Atlanta. You can register by going to adamyoungcounseling.com. CEU’s are available for therapists.
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I found this podcast when it was casually mentioned at church by our pastor. I was going through one of the most difficult times in my life. Those times when God brings you to the path that you are destined to be on.
During that chapter in my life, even though it was for the good of my entire being - I felt like I was drowning. For me, this podcast was then and still is part of journey to connect with and honor my authentic self.
It’s hard to articulate how listening to these episodes has impacted my story. Even the book recommendations continued my journey outside of the episodes.
The visualization of these books piled in my room are data points indicating how far I have come- they are reminders of my steps along the way of discovering who I am.
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There is some good information to gather from this podcast but there is something that I think needs to be pointed out. The host, probably because of his own story, repeatedly says a core wound is a mother’s purposeful abusive triangulation of son in order to get revenge on an emotionally unavailable husband. That a verbally and emotionally abusive father isn’t as harmful as a mother who triangulates. That the father is only abusive to his son BECAUSE of his wife’s emotional attachment to her son. Why isn’t the host asking WHY the husband wasn’t emotionally available to his wife? If he was verbally and emotionally abusive to his children, than certainly it begs to reason he was equally or more so abusive to his wife. That’s the REAL root issue in the family dynamics. Some exploitation into narcissistic abuse should be had before making such hard as fast blanket statements about moms (who are more than likely bearing extensive abuse from the father). I’m a mom in this situation and I can take ownership for leaning on my children for emotional support but I didn’t NOT do so with any intention (it was subconsciously done) or malice. I truly didn’t even know I was doing it until the covert narcissistic abuse I had endured for 22 years was uncovered. Narcissistic people already blame their victims (which is how I missed the abuse for 22 years—because I readily absorbed all of the blame for everything. Literally everything) and to now listen to a podcast host say over and over that I’m the real abuser in the family and I’m to blame for my husband’s mistreatment of our children is absolutely wrong. All that being said, I have gained knowledge and help for my own healing via this podcast so I think a 4 start trying is deserved.