Power Your Parenting: Moms With Teens
By Colleen O'Grady LPC, LMFT, author, speaker & C-Suite Radio
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Colleen O'Grady, MA. is a speaker, trainer and author of the award-winning and best-selling book Dial Down the Drama: Reduce Conflict and Reconnect with Your Teenage Daughter---A Guide for Mothers Everywhere. Colleen shares her wisdom from twenty-five years of experience as a licensed marriage and family therapist which translates into over 50,000 hours of working with parents and teens. Colleen, known as the parent-teen relationship expert helps you raise the bar of what's possible for the teenage years. Colleen not only knows this professionally she has been a mom in the trenches with her own teenage daughter. You really can improve your relationship with your teen and dial up the joy, peace, and delight at home and work, Every episode is geared to uplift you, give you practical parenting tips that you can apply right away and keep you current on the latest in teen research and trends.
||Clean#035 How to Raise Creative Teens||How do you foster your child/teen's creativity? Expressing your creativity through art, dance, writing, film and music is an excellent way to develop the teenage brain. The brain is having a major growth spurt during the teenage years. It is a season where you use it or lose it, meaning that neurons that are not used wither away. Neurons that are used wire into the teenage brain. It is the easiest time to learn a new language or a piano concerto.There are many challenges parent face when trying to encourage their teen's creativity.Teens don't want to practice. They want to quit. There is too much competition. All of these situations can lead to arguing and conflict. In this episode I share an interview by Jean Ireton on her online video series Breakthrough to Creativity on how to get past the drama and truly encourage your teens creativity.||3/11/2019||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean#034 Help for Moms with Strong Willed Daughters||My friend sent me a post that said, "Check on your friends with strong willed daughters. We are not ok." I laughed but what really struck me is how many thousands of moms had shared it. Obviously it struck a chord. A strong willed daughter has an upside and then the shadow or dark side. Think of it as different sides of the same coin. Really we want a strong willed daughter.Strong: Having great physical, moral, and intellectual power.Will: used to express desire, choice, willingness, consent, or in negative constructions refusal.There is something beautiful, courageous and noble in a strong willed girl. And then the dark side of an immature teen..1. They approach the world from a one-up position.2. They are relentless about getting their way.3. They are all armored up. They hide the vulnerable emotions.4. They can take on too much. It's hard to ask for help.In this episode we will talk about how to protect the spirit of the strong willed girl and how to effectively parent the dark side. And not let it get the best of you.||3/4/2019||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean#033 How to Handle the Big Breakup Dial Down the “Love” Drama||Dial Down the “Love” Drama||2/25/2019||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean#032 What is a Successful Mom?||Who Says?||2/18/2019||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean#031 Journaling: Connect to Your Inner (Parenting) Wisdom||Interview with Angela Caughlin||2/11/2019||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean#030 How to Have the Hard Conversations with Your Teen||What do I mean by a hard conversation? Basically it's any conversation your teen doesn't want to have with you---and there are a-lot of those. In this episode I give you 5 key elements to help you have a (successful) hard conversation with your teen.1. You want to balance the hard conversations with intentionally having positive conversations/experiences with your teen.2. Timing has to be right. Bottom line is that if either you or your teen are emotionally flooded or have been drinking or high, it's the absolute worst time to have that conversation. This comes from understanding neuroscience. When you are emotionally flooded, you are in stress response. You are offline from that part of the brain that has everything you need to solve a problem.3. You need to be clear. And to do that you don't want to rush into that conversation. Time is your friend. I describe the different areas you need clarity. If you rush in too quickly you vent. The problem is that venting is all over the place and it's not a conversation. Venting dials up the drama and your teen will not learn anything from this..4. You need to listen to your teens and hear their story. This can be challenging because often you need to have the hard conversation because they did not tell you the truth. But if you can get your teen to open up, you'll find the gold. You want to find the places your teen is stuck. The more accurately you can identify this, it informs the consequence and lets you know what your teen needs to learn.5. You must be strategic and not reactive.The strategy is slowing down and deciding how you are going to approach these conversations. Often it is mapping out what you are going to say in the next conversation...and it might take multiple conversations.||2/4/2019||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean#029 Are You a Worried Mom or a Reflective Mom||Every mom worries. You can't eliminate worry. Parenting a teen gives you endless things to worry about. Worry can be useful if it leads to effective action. But too often worry is just wasted energy. It doesn't lead to solutions it just leads to more worry and before you know it the worry grows exponentially like a wildfire. You don't want worry dominating your life and your parenting. Don't let worry control you; you can control the worry.A worried mom lives in a state of worry where her actions and responses are continually fueled by worry. Constant worry is not healthy for you and actually is a hindrance to your parenting. Constant worry negatively impacts your relationship with your teen. We want to replace the worry energy with reflective energy. All moms worry in some ways. We are biologically hard-wired to worry, but not all moms are reflective. Reflection is incredibly important to your parenting. Reflection is essential for you to be a happy, thriving, "I love my life" mom. Worry leads to a drained, anxious, and resentful mom. In this episode I am going to contrast worry with reflection and show you why worry is a hindrance to parenting and why reflection is the key to enjoying the teenage years. Reflection is foundational for conscious and intentional parenting. If you are tired of living in a state of worry, learn how reflection can actually set you freefrom the burden of worry and set you on a course to create the life you want.||1/28/2019||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean#028 Fifteen Minutes a Day Can Change Your Relationship with Your Teen||Power Your Parenting: Moms with Teens is back. This is going to be an exciting year. I have lined up some great guests and of course I will be sharing some practical parenting tips and sharing current research on teens. One of my primary goals is to raise the bar on what's possible for moms and teens. You don't have to dread these years. You can actually enjoy them.In this podcast I first answer the question, "Why am I hosting a podcast on moms and teens?" Was I the perfect mom with the perfect teen? You'll have to listen to find out. :)I will share with you 3 key strategies that turned my relationship with teenage daughter around. You really can change your relationship with your teen in fifteen minutes a day.I shared some of these ideas in my TEDx talk, "Stressed-Out Moms and Ticked-Off Teens: 3 Keys to Dial Down the Drama" Watch here.https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z0U-U-Gggf8||1/21/2019||Free||View in iTunes|
||#027 How Teens Can Get Parents to Hear Them||Do your teens need better communication skills—especially when they are wanting something from you? In this podcast I interview Laura Lyles Reagan who is a family sociologist with more than 30 years of experience in practical youth development and par||2/27/2017||Free||View in iTunes|
||#026 How to Beat Anxiety||Do you feel like you worry about your teen 24/7? Does your son and daughter seem to always be stressed? Ready to dial down the worry and the stress! In this episode I interview Jodi Aman, who has been a psychotherapist for over 20 years. Jodi...||1/2/2017||Free||View in iTunes|
||#025 Embodied Mom: Support your teen in being “body positive”||Has your daughter ever eaten a big bag of Cheetos and then fifteen minutes later run out of the room and screamed, “I’m so fat.” Monitoring teenage girls and their food choices can be tough for moms. You can tell your daughter is struggling with..||10/10/2016||Free||View in iTunes|
||#024 Why You Need A Long-Term Perspective||Why do you need a long-term perspective when parenting a teenager? The answer comes from the final Chapter in my book, Dial Down the Drama: Reducing Conflict and Reconnecting with Your Teenage Daughter. It’s important to remember that we were once tee||8/4/2016||Free||View in iTunes|
||#023 How to be Your Daughter’s Dream Maker||“How to be your daughter’s (or son’s) dream maker” is a complicated question. Your daughter or son may not know what they want to be when they grow up. Your son is set to get a scholarship for baseball in college but he decides his...||7/26/2016||Free||View in iTunes|
||#022 How to Recapture Your Life||Have you ever felt like everyone in your family is driving your life? I had one mom tell me, “I feel like I’m my daughter’s personal assistant. I wish I had one!” This episode is the practical “how to’s” on how to recapture your life whic||7/25/2016||Free||View in iTunes|
||#021 What Your Teen Needs to Thrive||What does your son or daughter need to thrive? This is an important question for both you and your teen. The answer is sometimes personal to your own taste, but often it is applicable to all of us. This is especially true for teens. One...||7/16/2016||Free||View in iTunes|
||#020 How to Discipline Your Teen||“You can’t tell me what to do!” Let’s face it disciplining a defiant teen is challenging. Because parents often feel powerless when it’s two hours past curfew, we can be flooded with a whole array of emotions.||5/27/2016||Free||View in iTunes|
||#019 How Good Moms Become Drama Mamas||How Good Moms Become Drama Mamas is the title of Chapter 8 in my book Dial Down the Drama: Reducing Conflict and Reconnecting with Your Teenage Daughter. In the previous podcast (which comes from Chapter 7) I discuss why teens are hardwired for drama.||5/9/2016||Free||View in iTunes|
||#018 Getting Ready for Finals With Neha Gupta||It’s easy to see why moms and teens can fight more during the month of May. Neha Gupta, Founder of Elite Private Tutors, gives us tips and tricks on surviving the month of May with our overwhelmed, stressed out teens with finals and how to...||4/29/2016||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean#017 Why Your Teen Is Hardwired for Drama||Have you ever had a “What was she thinking moment?” If you have then you are going to want to listen to this podcast and see why her dramatic flair ups and disrespect aren't personal.This is the seventh episode in my Dial Down the Drama series. It comes from the seventh chapter, Why Your Daughter is Hard-Wired for Drama.Scientists in the past have blamed crazy teenage behavior on raging hormones, but in the last ten years neuroscientists have discovered there is a lot more going on developmentally. The teenage brain is under major reconstruction. Many of you know that the prefrontal cortex is undeveloped to the age of 25, but you don't really know what that means. That undeveloped prefrontal cortex is one reason the teenage years can be challenging.But there is so much more going on in that teenage brain. The teenage brain is having a tremendous growth spurt and there is a Window of Opportunity to “use it” or “lose it.” Simply said if the teenage brain is going to reach it’s full potential there are specific challenges the teen needs to pursue that will “use” it. Also, you need to be aware of how the teen can “lose” it and actually hinder the brain's development.||3/19/2016||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean#016 How to Like Your Daughter Again||How to Like Your Daughter Again comes from the sixth chapter in Dial Down the Drama: Reducing Conflict and Reconnecting with Your Teenage Daughter."Is it possible to have a healthy relationship with your teen?" "And what does that even look like?"This is the million dollar question. You don't want to be your teen's best friend but you don't want to be her enemy either.When you are in a daily battle with your daughter, it's easy to not like her very much. This is why so many moms believe they have to wait until she is older and out of the house to "like" her.It doesn't have to be that way!It is possible and crucial to have a healthy relationship with your teen. Even though your teen is depending on her friends more and developing her autonomy, a secure attachment with your teen matters significantly and can be her lifeline.There are three elements that make a secure connection with your teen that I dive into in my book.Being there for your teen.Being tuned in.Being responsive.In this episode we'll focus on the first element. You'lllearn how to be there for your teen, and how to get your teen to open up to you. (You'll also find out why your teenage daughter is like a cat:)||2/29/2016||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean#015 How to Reclaim Your "I Feel Good " Energy||Today's episode comes from the fifth chapter in my new award-winning book Dial Down the Drama.It takes a lot of energy to protect, nurture, and guide your teenager. And this is only one facet of your life. This doesn't include the rest of your family, or your life.Moms are good at pouring out their good energy to their family but typically we are not good at replenishing this energy.It can feel selfish.But if we don't intentionally recharge our lives it starts to show to everyone around you. Believe me everyone in your family knows when you are stressed or exhausted.See our life is like a cup. We can only give what's in our cup. If are cup is full of joy, we pour out joy. If our cup is full of frustration we pour out frustration.We can't give and give and give and give and not think that it will take a toll on our body and emotions. No one wins when you are exhausted.If it's been awhile since you've laughed or enjoyed yourself, then you need to listen to this podcast.||2/27/2016||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean#014 Why Your Clarity Matters||This episode comes from the fourth chapter in my book Dial Down the Drama: Reducing Conflict and Reconnecting to Your Teenage Daughter---A Guide for Mothers Everywhere.Today we are going to discuss why your clarity matters. Your clarity is huge. Without it you can't parent effectively or enjoy your life.See your teenage daughter (or son) is clear about what they want. They may not be clear about when their history project is due but they are clear about what they want to do the next weekend.Often we lose our clarity because we live our lives at 90 miles per hour. We may accomplish lots of things on our to-do lists, but we can end up in a huge fog.What happens when foggy mom meets clear daughter. Well clarity trumps fog every time.It's time to get on the road to clarity which starts with understanding how you lost it in the first place. Next you need to know where you are, (which takes courage and honesty) to get where you want to go.This can be overwhelming for a lot of moms. You may feel like you have no idea what you want. Don't worry we can start small. I'll give you practical ways to tap into your clarity.||2/14/2016||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean#013 Why Moms and Daughters Can’t Get it Right All the Time||This podcast comes from the third chapter in Dial Down the Drama: Why Moms and Daughter's Can't Get it Right All the Time,which was published at the end of October 2015.No mom or daughter can get it right all the time, but we feel the pressure to do so. This pressure drives us to do more and do it better. I call this the Pressure to be Perfect.Not only do we feel this pressure, but your daughter feels this pressure too. She feels pressure to have the perfect hair, body, friends, boyfriend, and grades, even when she acts like she doesn't care.This pressure is a setup for drama between you and your daughter. You want to get this parenting thing right and so your self esteem can be linked to how well your daughter is performing or behaving. If your daughter is doing well in school, you feel good about yourself as mom, if her grades drop, you feel like your making a D on your mom report card. Because your daughter is hard wired to be imperfect and actually the same applies for you, basing your self worth on how she is doing will take you on a stressful emotional roller coaster.All of this craziness is driven by Powerless Parenting Messages. In this episode I look at replacing these with new messages that will empower instead of shame.||2/7/2016||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean#012 What Fear Does to You and Your Daughter||The podcast today comes from the second chapter of my upcoming book Dial Down the Drama. Today we are going to address fear and how this impacts you, your teen, and your parenting.There are no shortage of things that we can worry about. Will your son or daughter turn out okay? Will they make it into college? Will they turn out to be successful adults? And many of you have heard the saying, "keep them alive to 25," well that's not very comforting either. And then their are all the teenage issues from getting pregnant, addictions, eating disorders, to fatal car accidents.No wonder we can worry 24/7. The problem is that there is nothing productive with that kind of worrying. It robs you of enjoying your time with your teen and your life.Most of what we worry about and are fearful of, will never happen. It's just our imagination torturing us.The problem is that intense fear throws us into the stress response and compromises our ability to protect our son and daughter. You can literally be paralyzed with fear, or find yourself LOSING it with them when they come home ten minutes after curfew.In this episode I give you a tool that helps your dismantle the "F" Bomb. ("F" = fear) This way you can excavate the truth from the fear and take effective action to protect and guide your teen.||1/31/2016||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean#011 Are You all Mothered Out||Are you feeling "All Mothered Out"?You are definitely not alone. This has become a cultural phenomenon for women.In this podcast you will learn why so many moms feel "All Mothered Out" and how you can turn that around.This is the first podcast in my Dial Down the Drama series. I can't believe it, but in less than three months my book, Dial Down the Drama: Reducing Conflict and Reconnecting to Your Teenage Daughter---A Guide for Mother's Everywherewill be published by Amacom. Because I can't wait to share it with you, I decided that each week I would give you a couple of takeaways from each chapter of my book.I am also starting the Mom Question of the Week. On each podcast I will answer one question. If you are interested in me answering your question then you can leave me a comment here, email me at firstname.lastname@example.org, or go to my Facebook page at Colleen O'Grady:Power Your Parenting. I look forward to hearing from you.I actually wrote a song called "All Mothered Out." It was great therapy---I'm sure you could have written your own verse. You can go to You Tube to hear my video or just click this link https://youtu.be/Rawxc9m3WZI.||1/20/2016||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean#010 Clothing Police or Style Icon||Does your daughter feel like you are the clothing police?Well you are not the only one. This is definitely one of the hot topics for mothers and daughters. (and not in a good way.)You give her constructive criticism. "That dress doesn't look good on you." You just want to protect her. "You can't go out wearing that shirt or that short skirt."Your daughter doesn't see your good intentions and goes ballistic.What she hears is "you think I'm fat," or "you think I'm ugly," or "you are trying to control me."What is a mom to do?To answer this question,I invited Catherine Cassidy to share her expertise.Catherine Cassidy founded U*styled in 2008 to give professional women the tools to live their lives in style by curating a wardrobe they love that makes getting dressed each morning easy and effortless.For Catherine, it's not just about style. It's about empowering women to step into their power using their style as a catalyst. She helps women define their style, integrate it into WHO they are and how they show up and then help them build a wardrobe they love that supports their personal and professional goals.In this episode I ask Catherine these questions.1. Brene Brown talks about the #1 shame issue for women and girls is body issues. Being a stylist how do you address this issue when helping women find their style. Would you approach teenage girls differently?2. How would you work with a teenage girl? What can a mom do if her daughter is wearing something inappropriate?3. What about mom's style...Her daughter doesn't want her dressing like a teenager but she also doesn't want to be embarrassed by what she wears.In this podcast you will learn how to talk to your daughter about her clothing and style in an empowering way. You will be given practical tips on how to approach your daughter, what you should say, and what you should avoid saying.You want to affirm your daughters beauty, build her self confidence, and empower your daughter to find her own style.Catherine has a message for moms too. Learn what it means to be a Style Icon.Learn more about Catherineand get her free gift How to Build A Wardrobe You Love!at www.Ustyled.com.||1/17/2016||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean#009 Could Your Teenager be Sexting||No parent wants to believe their middle school teen (or younger) is sexting. Maybe it's not your teen, but it's the teen culture. One thing that moms don't think about, is that your teen may not be an initiator of the sexting but could easily be the recipient. Sexting has become a huge cultural problem for teens. Here are some statistics from 2009 and the numbers are not getting any better.The percent of teenagers sending or posting sexually suggestive messages: 39% of all teenagers, 37% of teen girls, 40% of teen boys48 Percent of teenagers say they have received such messages71 Percent of teen girls and 67% of teen guys who have sent or posted sexually suggestive content say they have sent or posted this content to a boyfriend or girlfriend.36 Percent of teen girls and 39 % of teen boys say it is common for nude or semi-nude photos to get shared with people other than the intended recipient.51 Percent of teen girls say pressure from a guy is a reason girls send sexy messages or images; only 18 % of teen boys cited pressure from female counterparts as a reason.52 Percent of teenage girls used sexting as a “sexy present” for their boyfriend.34 Percent of teen girls say they sent or posted sexually suggestive content to “feel sexy.”12 Percent of teen girls felt “pressured” to send sexually suggestive messages or images. In this episode I interview Benjamin Dancer. He is an Advisor at Jefferson County Open School where he has made a career out of mentoring young people as they come of age. He wrote the novel PATRIARCH RUN, a coming-of-age story. Benjamin writes about parenting and education. He is also a father of three.Today we are going to talk about a very important issue that catches many parents unaware--sexting. Besides being the founder of Power Your Parenting, I have been in private practice as a marriage and family therapist for over 20 years. I have worked with many teen issues over the past two decades. By far the biggest issue I have dealt with this year is the devastating consequences of sexting. Many of these clients were girls in middle school, who because of pressure, naiveness, and an undeveloped prefrontal cortex, ended up sending semi-nude pictures to boys who forwarded them throughout the community. This is every mothers worst fear.My hope is that this podcast will help moms become educated and aware, so they can educate and empower their teens to say no to sexting. Benjamin and I talk about when we were teens we made lots of mistakes. The problem in this culture, is that a mistake like sexting leaves a permanent record in the digital world. Here are some questions we address. At what age does sexting become an issue?What moms need to know about sexting.What can moms do to prevent and protect their teen from sexting?How do you talk to your teen about sexting?What should parents do if they suspect their son or daughter is sexting? *** If your teen has been shamed or humiliated because of texting there is a lot you can do. You can help your teen get on the other side of this.The girls I have worked with were able to learn big lessons from this experience and come out wiser, stronger, and with a greater confidence.Contact Benjamin Dancer at Website:BenjaminDancer.com Blog:http://www.benjamindancer.com/Blog/ You can download SEXTING AT SCHOOL for free at Goodreads or if you're feeling generous you can buy it for $0.99 at Amazon.||1/3/2016||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean#008 Finding Hormone Harmony: When Middle School meets Midlife||Not only is your teen impacted by hormones, so are many perimenopausal moms. In this episode I interview Dr. Anna Garrett who has been a clinical pharmacist for over 20 years. The goal of her business is to help women who are in the middle of midlife transition.||12/20/2015||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean#007 Drugs, Alcohol and the Teenage Brain: What Moms Need to Know||Your son or daughter is swimming in a teen culture of drugs and alcohol. Because of this you can't help but worry.Today my dear friend Julia Wolf answers your questions about the impact of drugs and alcohol on your teen. Julia is a seasoned Licensed MFT and has a thriving private practice in the Houston area. Julia was the Director of Community and Behavioral Health at the Houston Council of Alcohol and Drug Abuse."So what's the big deal if my teen drinks wine and beer with her friends. They all do it."First Julia and I discuss how alcohol and drugs affects the teenage brain. The teenage brain is vulnerable to outside toxins of alcohol and drugs. This is because the teen brain is under construction just like a house with no roof. Because of this teens are more at risk for addiction especially when you throw in the undeveloped prefrontal cortex. Binge drinking and drug abuse are more than a moral issue, it is a brain issue. In this episode we discussed these questions. How does alcohol or drugs put your teen at risk? How can parents know if their teen is using? What are the warning signs? What do you do if you suspect your teen is abusing alcohol or drugs?The good news is that there is lots of support for moms and teens. One of the most important things you can do is stay connected to your teen. You want to be able to have honest and real conversations with your teen about the risks of alcohol and drugs. Most importantly you want to be your teens safe haven and take action when needed.Current research has shown that a healthy attachment between parent and teen reduces the risk of addiction. That's one of the reasons I created the Power Your Parenting program. It gives you practical ways to reconnect with your teen and open up the communication. You really can turn your relationship with your teen around. If your interested in learning more about the Power Your Parentiing program contact me.||12/19/2015||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean#006 Why Moms Need To Be Blessed To Be A Blessing||I recently talked to a local church about why moms need to feel blessed to be a blessing. Moms frequently feel anything but blessed. They feel stressed, anxious, blah, resentful, and give up on feeling good. This is totally understandable. In fact our brains have a propensity to go to the negative. That's why you can have 55 good things happen in your life and one negative thing seems to erase all the good memories.This podcast gives you practical ways that you can not only know you are blessed but you can feel blessed. When you feel blessed everything is easier. You have more tolerance for the defiant teen, moody spouse, or the draining friend. You become the light to your family and community. The good news is that to feel blessed you have to be good to yourself, but when you do everyone in your life will benefit.||12/16/2015||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean#005 Why Tutors Can Make Mom’s Life Easier||School is winding down, but the stress is amping up. Finals are around the corner and the pressure is on. It's easy to find yourself in a battle mode with your teen around studying and homework. When you add stress to the mix, it's easy for your teen to blow a gasket when you ask them a simple question like, "Do you have a test tomorrow?" Tests, homework, projects, and finals can be very stressful for moms. You know their grades matter. It's easy to feel like the burden of your child's future is all on your shoulders. The good news is that it doesn't have to be. You can build a Mom Team. A great place to start is to hire a tutor, or an organizational coach.Neha Gupta, the owner of Elite Private Tutors states "she makes mom's life easier."In this podcast Neha talks about when is a good time to hire a tutor, how they can be helpful and what to look for. She gives advice on how to sell the idea of a tutor to your resistant teen who thinks they don't need any help. She also gives moms tips on how to best motivate you son and daughter and how to avoid the common pitfalls moms fall into. She believes the secret sauce for moms is to be consistently positive and encouraging to your teen. Get Neha's free report "How to Stop Your Child From Being Entitled Unmotivated and Disorganized" at www.eliteprivatetutors.com||12/13/2015||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean#004 I Believe in You||The greatest gift you can give your teenage son or daughter is to believe in them.The real question is--what do you believe about them? And what you believe, boils down to what you focus on. If you focus on their good qualities and you combine that with faith, you are going to believe good things. If you focus on their attitudes and mistakes it's going to land you in fear. When fear strikes it blinds you from the good qualities in your teen. Your sight get's restricted to the very thing you are afraid of. Fear blows things out of proportion and greatly impacts both you and your teen. Your son and daughter are significantly impacted by what you believe about them.See, there is no perfect teen. They are a work in progress. Every teen is a mixed bag of drama, mistakes, talents, beauty and amazing possibilities. Listen and learn the Five Ways to Restore Your Belief in Your Teen.||12/6/2015||Free||View in iTunes|
||#003 What Moms Need to Know about Cell Phones, Internet and the Teenage Brain||The teenage brain is under major reconstruction during the teenage years. There is a window of opportunity to "use it or lose it." What this means is that the brain is doing some major pruning of brain cells. If you use these brain cells these neural connections will stay. Experience is what causes these neurons to fire and wire together. If you don't use them you will lose them and they will wither away. The neurons that get used repeatedly by experience are wired together into the brain's electrical networks.If the digital world is not monitored it can be a barrier to your daughter "using it."It's not that the digital world is bad. There are many benefits.The Internet is a great resource for learning, sharing information, connecting with people, and being entertained.But how things have changed since we were in high school.The new digital world catches us off guard, because it's unfamiliar territory.When I was in High School I had a phone with a telephone cord. I could only talk in the kitchen or in my parents' bedroom. There was some built in accountability, but no more.With the ever-changing apps, instant messaging, texting, skyping, on cell phones, ipad's, and laptops; monitoring your teen can feel like an uphill battle.Shelly is a therapist and has a daughter who is in middle school. Shelly came to my office extremely upset. She had just gotten her phone bill.Her 7th grade daughter had sent three thousand texts in the past month and most of them were from midnight to 4am on school nights. Shelly was shocked, hurt and felt extremely betrayed. Shelly was unaware and unprepared. She didn't think about the addictive side of technology. She didn't consider her daughter's undeveloped PFC, and the dopamine thrill of connecting with boys at night.Once Shelly was educated about teens and cell phones, she realized it wasn't personal. Shelly intervened and put the brakes on, and took her daughter's cell phone at night.There are three big reasons you can "lose it" with electronics, which is too much screen time, inappropriate content, and chronic distraction. Dr. David Walsh in his book Smart Parenting, Smarter Kidsstates, "Today the average school-aged kid spends more than fifty-three hoursa week watching television, playing video games, or using the computer." Most teens don't get this much sleep in a week. A huge problem with this amount of screen time is that it is empty brain calories.They are not investing their attention, skills, and abilities in real life. This especially impacts their relationships.Many moms have complained that when their daughter has a friend spend the night that they barely talk to each other. They can be in the same room texting other friends, or even each other.As shocking as this is to us, in 2010 Pew Internet & American Life Project found that face-to-face communication fell behind texting as teen's favorite way of communicating with friends. This causes big problems for brain development. This is a critical time for the teenage brain to wire networks for communication skills, empathic listening and the ability to interpret and respond to non-verbal cues. All of these skills take practice.||11/30/2015||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean#002 Why Power Your Parenting||In this show you'll learn how I define the POWER in parenting, in contrast to the counterfeit of true power which is force.Many moms feel powerless instead of empowered in their parenting. One big reason for this is fear. When your teen is out of control you feel a mixture of fear, anger, and shame. Before you know it you are drawn into the drama vortex with your teen. This is when it's easy to default into using force. The problem is force is destructive to your teen and your relationship. It doesn't motivate or teach your teen anything except how to lose control and use force.But there is a deep, authentic power that heals, instructs, and protects your teen and your relationship.It's the power of taking care of YOU. It's the power of your energy, clarity, knowledge, love, play, rest, strategy, and spirituality.||2/26/2014||Free||View in iTunes|
||Clean#001 Introduction: What to Expect||Welcome to the very first Power Your Parenting Moms with Teens Podcast. I am so happy that you are here listening to my very first show. This is a gathering place for moms to be encouraged, nurtured and inspired. Also, you’ll learn the latest in teen research and trends. and get practical parenting tips. You really can improve your relationship with your teen, and enjoy the teenage years.Todays show is going to be a little different than a typical show. I'm going to give you a quick introduction of who I am and why I created Power Your Parenting. You'll hear what Moms with Teens Podcast is about and why I'm really hosting this show. I'll tell you how the show is structured. You'll hear how this will benefit you and why you’ll want to listen to this podcast in the future. I know you are super busy moms I want to make this worth your time. I will do my best to provide you some awesome content on this podcast, that you can apply right away.||2/19/2014||Free||View in iTunes|
Excellent advice to use today!
Any parent who finds themselves fighting, screaming, hiding, exasperated and exhausted by their teen, will find useful solutions and a new way of being with their daughter (or son). Teen drama is part of growing up, but I learned from Colleen that we don't have to get hooked into to there drama. We don't need to go "there" with them, but we do need have a plan for them, our relationship with them, and how to listen, set boundaries and be compassionate in their toughest moments.
Colleen shows that we are not alone, even though it feels like that alot. She totally gets it - and understands the whole teen dynamic. Her tools and exercises provide helpful new ways to parent a teen, hold a positive vision for their teen, while maintaining a sense of self, and understanding teens so desperately need.
I learned to see my daughter through a new lens, with compassion for my daughter and this challenging time of her life. I purchase her book and took her online course, which was amazing! Highly recommend!
Thank you, Colleen! Please keep podcasting!
One of the best Parenting Podcasts!
MrPodcasts reviewed your show in episode 10 of "The Best Podcasts Reviewed". I have 3 boys between 14 and 22. They are all a challenge and your interview in episode 5 on tudors was enlightening to say the least. Thank you so much!
Helpful and encouraging
Uplifting and helpful advice on parenting teen girls. I appreciate the different approach she takes to parenting.
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