By Anutza Bellissimo
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||CleanThe SAMI Lifestyle - By Conscious Choice Not Chance||"What will you do with your precious life?" Suppose I stopped you in the middle of your day to ask you this question posed by psychologist and poet Mary Oliver. What a beautiful opportunity to respond that you would spend your life exactly as you spent your day. Your answer could be anything: doing work you love, caring for and giving love to your family, contributing to your community or the world, creating art, building a business, climbing mountains, making music. The key is that how you lived today is how you would choose to live tomorrow and the next day and the rest of your future. For some, the life they live day to day is not the life they would describe if they were asked Mary Oliver's question. Instead, they might use phrases such as: "As soon as I can quit…" or "I'd like to lose…" or "I used to dream about…" while explaining a daily life tangled up in too many demands and never enough time or energy to achieve the experiences that matter most to us. According to Jinny Ditzler, author of Your Best Year Yet, what drives most of us is the ambition to improve the quality of our lives while being true to ourselves and what's truly important to us. She writes, "Although we may not be conscious of our most basic motivations as we live day to day, these hidden drives are the strongest in our lives. The more conscious we are of them, the more we can empower ourselves to make the necessary changes in our lives." Beliefs and Values are personal mental faiths and standards; the qualities that are most important to us. A life based on values rather than reacting to others' needs and wants or the acquisition of material things enables us to live in integrity with ourselves. This is how to create a rich and fulfilling life. Identifying your values can be as simple as asking yourself how you want to be remembered by others. Would you like to be recognized as a person who cared about others, who made a difference in the world, who kept promises, who was self-actualized, honest, trustworthy? Think of the qualities you most admire in others; these may be the values you claim for yourself. Once you become aware of your values, you can begin to restructure your life. With your values as your touchstone, you can create and live the life you genuinely want, achieve your goals and realize your dreams. Within the boundaries of your values: 1. Gain clarity on what you really want. Be specific; vague and undefined goals are difficult if not impossible to achieve. 2. Commit to perseverance and recognize your opportunity costs. Saying "yes" to one thing means saying "no" to another. Acknowledge and accept what you must give up to get what you want. 3. Acknowledge your goals every day. Spark up your day by reminding yourself what your priorities are. Be mindful of the choices you are making as you go through your day. Remember that you are making choices at every moment. ***Post continued on: https://www.TheSAMIGroup.com/blog This podcast is sponsored by Anchor and Brandless||2/18/2019||Free||View in iTunes|
||CleanStress & Illness: The Connection||Believe it or not, stress is not the villain it's made out to be. In small, short-term doses, stress can give an athlete the competitive edge or a public speaker the enthusiasm to project optimally. It can even boost the immune system. However, chronic stress over time—the kind commonly encountered in daily life, such as work overload, financial difficulties, marital problems—can have significant adverse effects on nearly every system of the body, suppressing the immune system and ultimately manifesting as an illness. The danger occurs when stress becomes persistent and consistent, a way of life. Chronic stress raises the risk of viral infection and diabetes. It can trigger severe problems for asthmatics, lead to gastrointestinal issues and cause high blood pressure, which brings an increased risk of heart disease and stroke. To get a handle on this silent adversary, you want first to recognize that you are chronically stressed. Here are four kinds of warning signs: Cognitive symptoms include problems with memory, an inability to focus, or feeling worried or negative all the time. Emotional symptoms can include feeling moody, lonely, overwhelmed, unhappy or depressed. Physical symptoms might include constant aches and pains, nausea, dizziness or a rapid heartbeat. Behavioral symptoms might range from severe changes in sleeping or eating patterns to turning to bad coping habits such as smoking or drinking. Your ability to successfully navigate stress depends on factors such as quality of relationships, general outlook on life, and emotional fitness. Nevertheless, the impact of stress accumulates. Just because you appear to tolerate stress well now doesn't mean it won't sneak up on you later. Besides exercise, sleep, and healthy eating, here are a few other ways to help protect your health. Seek activities or projects that make you feel good. For some, it's taking a bath, for others it's racing three-wheelers. Determine what's important to you and create a lifestyle that embraces and supports you. Strive for empowered thinking. While you can't necessarily control a system, another person's behavior or others' impressions of you, you are always in control of your thoughts, actions, values, and choices. Enjoy yourself more. Surround yourself with people who believe in you and inspire you to be the best version of yourself. Find the places, people and circumstances that authentically bring you delight, and insist on giving them a place in your life. Increasing joy can add years to your life. A small amount of stress isn't necessarily a bad thing. However, when it's constant and negative, our minds and bodies can pay a hefty price. Chronic stress prevention indeed is the best medicine. Sourced At: APA Rattue, G. (2012, June 28). "How Stress Helps The Immune System." Medical News Today. Retrieved from https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/247216.php. https://www.thesamigroup.com/blog/what-is-emotional-fitness This podcast is sponsored by Brandless||2/12/2019||Free||View in iTunes|
||CleanHow To Master Your Inner Skills||When unfavorable situations, actions and emotional conflicts happen again and again in your life, you may find yourself in the same scene, with different characters, more often than you care to admit. If so, there’s a good chance you are in the presence of a negative “pattern.” Some examples: constant conflict with co-workers, people-pleasing, or picking unsuitable partners/lovers. At best, these negative patterns cause frustration. At worst, they create undue suffering, uphill struggles, sometimes even death. The good news is: you have the power to change these negative patterns. Allow me to share with you some ways to begin disrupting your dominant negative patterns so that you can start laying down new, more positive habits. It's also helpful to keep in mind; "When you know what you don't want, you know what you do want." Practice Your Presence. No matter how entrenched a pattern seems, the act of noticing begins the shift away from damaging thoughts or behaviors. Simply put, you can't change what you're not aware of or when you're clueless about your harmful practices. One way to become aware is to sit with your thoughts and watch for the patterns. The goal here is to become present, that's all. Many cognitive neuroscientists have conducted studies revealing only 5% of our cognitive activities (decisions, emotions, actions, behavior) are conscious. In this step, focus your awareness on just the facts and feelings of the patterns. Now is not the time to let your mind wander into the analysis of "why" you have these negative patterns, as you may try to justify and defend the pattern. We can analyze later (see below); for now, stay focused and notice. Also, ask people you trust to help you see the patterns. Our blind spots are called "blind" for a reason; we don't see them. However, your negative patterns may seem clear as day to others. My most favored approach to "practicing my presence" is mental rehearsal during morning and evening meditations. Discover your unconscious payoffs. Becoming aware of your negative patterns, you see evidence they are disserving, perhaps even undermining, you. For example, your habit of conflict with co-workers has gotten you fired, cost you a promotion, or transferred to another department, and now your resume reflects that pattern as well. The key to interrupting negative patterns is to understand this: we generally don’t keep repeating behaviors unless, on some level, we get something good out of them. These undiscovered reasons are known as "payoffs," and they either help you get more of something you want or avoid something you don't want. In the example above, the person in constant conflict with co-workers could be using the friction to cover up deep insecurity with his/her work quality. The conflict, in effect, distracts from scrutiny. Alternatively, the conflict could stem from uncensored outspokenness. The person may have a difficult situation at home, and being excessively frank at work may allow him/her to feel powerful and self-expressed in at least one arena of life. Identify (and create) positive patterns. One of the best ways to disrupt the negative patterns that may be wreaking havoc with your life is to also study the positive patterns in your life. For these can be "grafted" onto your negative patterns with great success. For example, you can utilize the discipline you've always had around working out regularly to stop using your colleagues for the fulfillment of passive-aggressive interaction or feelings of resentment in your personal life. Consider your negative pattern loops as triggers, raising red flags, that correlate an unconscious dismissal of your underlying core values. Reflect on the soft-spoken inner dialogue leading you to recognize any patterns which no longer serve you. Persistence in examining the positive habits in your life could b||2/2/2019||Free||View in iTunes|
||CleanFacebook Live Stream - Stress Management 101||This is a short and simple discussion recorded via a Facebook Live stream on stress management tools and topics. This podcast is sponsored by Anchor||11/28/2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||CleanDaily Success Rituals - 2018||Welcome to Daily Success Rituals. Join me for an an emotional fitness journey to more personal and professional lifestyle success. My name is Anutza Bellissimo, CEO, and Founder @ The SAMI Group and your EQ Facilitator!||4/24/2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||CleanBecoming Self Aware EP1||What will you choose to do, B and take ownership of to become the next best version of yourself? My name is Anutza Bellissimo, your Social-Emotional Intelligence Coach and Host of Purpose Driven Platform. “Self-awareness is the cornerstone of emotional intelligence” ~ Daniel Goleman Emotional self awareness is the capacity to tune in to your own feelings, since innersignals, and recognize how your feelings affect you and your performance. Which brings me to my original question; what will you choose to do today, who will you choose to be right now, and when will you take ownership of it to become the next best version of yourself? This podcast is sponsored by Anchor||1/18/2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||CleanRelax Into Wealth - Alan Cohen||Relax Into Wealth author Alan Cohen is interviewed by Anutza Bellissimo. This is a #Throwback #Podcast This podcast is sponsored by Anchor||1/12/2018||Free||View in iTunes|