The Art of Erotic Spanking Pleasure Mechanics

There are a lot of common concerns that come up when people start exploring their desire for erotic spanking. In this episode of The Art of Erotic Spanking, we address all the common concerns so you can stop worrying and get on with enjoying the pleasures of erotic spanking.

In this podcast we address all of the most common concerns about exploring erotic spanking, including:

* I was spanked as a child, does that make it wrong to enjoy erotic spanking as an adult?

* I was never spanked as a child, so why do I like erotic spanking?

* I don’t want to hurt my partner! How do I safely explore erotic spanking?

* I was taught to never hit a woman, but my girlfriend wants to be spanked! Is it ok to spank a woman?

* Is my desire to be spanked anti-feminist?

* What if I just want more and more? Will I spin out of control if I start exploring erotic spanking?

Do you have a concern about erotic spanking not covered in this podcast or our video, Guide to Erotic Spanking? You can always Ask Us Anything!

All sex therapists and sex educators agree: communication is everything! But how do you actually communicate for better sex? In this episode we dive into how to communicate with your lover for maximum pleasure. We cover communication before, during and after an erotic spanking experience.

Before a spanking, it is all about communicating about exactly what kind of spanking you want. We cover this in depth in Part 2 of this Art of Erotic Spanking podcast series, so be sure to check that out for a complete guide on getting the erotic spanking you desire. In this episode we guide you in maximizing communication before a spanking, and how to time your negotiations so your erotic spanking can still feel spontaneous.

Communicating during a spanking is both verbal and non-verbal. Discover how to set safewords so you can go deep into your erotic spanking experience while having a clear way to slow down or stop the spanking if you need to. We share how to express yourself with your body language, noise and breath so you can communicate with and without words during your erotic spanking!

Communicating after a spanking will allow you to make your sex life better and better. We share questions to ask your lover after a spanking to learn what worked best and what could be better next time!

Clear communication is the difference between a mediocre spanking experience and making erotic spanking a hot, fulfilling part of your sex life. This episode provides essential communication techniques so you can fully enjoy the pleasures of erotic spanking.

Erotic spanking can be gentle and purely pleasurable. But sometimes, it gets intense! This episode explores how to enjoy more intense spankings.

First we explore endorphins, the body’s natural response to intense stimulation. Learn how to access erotic euphoria with erotic spanking!

Next we dive into the delicate boundary between pain and pleasure, and share strategies for transforming pain into pure pleasure. Learn how to communicate with your lover to keep intense spankings pleasurable and minimize the risk of injury.

Finally, we share how erotic spanking can create emotional catharsis. Sometimes we all need to let go and express deeply pent up emotions. Erotic spanking can be an amazing way to release and let go, leaving you feeling refreshed and transformed!

Intense spankings can be an incredible sexual experience. Discover how to make them pleasurable and transformative in this episode of The Art of Erotic Spanking.

Erotic spanking can be an incredibly arousing experience. This episode explores why it is so arousing, both physically and emotionally, and how to maximize the arousal in your erotic spanking experience.

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Sex & Spanking: Who Likes Erotic Spanking?

We are going to go out on a limb here and say almost EVERYONE likes spanking. We have yet to talk to someone who upon (friendly!) interrogation won’t admit that a well-timed, well-placed, well-calibrated slap on the ass during sex feels amazing. No matter if you have experienced a full over-the-knee spanking or ever want to, some sort of spank on the butt during arousal feels good to almost everyone.

Here’s why: the butt is part of everyone’s sexual system. Male and Female, All Orientations, We All Have Butts. The butt (and all pelvic) muscles are some of the most important in the human body for overall posture, movement and comfort. Most of us have chronic tension in our butts that needs to be relaxed.

Spanking is an effective form of butt massage (one of our favorite kinds of massage, included in our Couples Massage Mastery course) because spanking is a form of percussion, which is a massage technique at heart. By striking the flesh, you create a vibration wave that ripples through the muscle and bounces off the bones. Each of these moments of impact has the potential to relieve muscular tension. Some of the techniques we will show you are specifically designed to relieve muscular tension and relax the butt muscles. Each spank creates a wave of vibrations that ripples through all the butt muscles and into the genital tissues. The muscles bounce off the bones, the genitals are stimulated, and all of the nerve endings are firing with every impact. A good spanking literally shakes up the muscles of the pelvis, relaxes pelvic tension and creates pleasurable stimulation throughout the pelvis, including the entire sexual system.

Spanking also floods the pelvis with fresh blood flow – making all kinds of erotic stimulation more pleasurable. Most people report that genital and/or anal stimulation after spanking is more intense, more vivid, more arousing. Remember, blood flow is essential for both sensitivity and to the engorgement of erectile tissues of the g******s. So more blood flow creates more arousal, plain and simple.

Some people find spanking sexy for the taboo thrill of it. There are a lot of role playing games that include spanking – from Teacher/student, Parent/child, Boss/ secretary, naughty school boys and girls, and on and on. . . Spanking has been part of our cultural experience, no matter if we were spanked as children or not. Spanking is a pretty universal form of punishment and thus is erotic for some people.

There is a debate about whether or not being spanked as a child makes it more likely it will be eroticized later in life. Some people believe that spanking a child will hardwire the excitement, fear and humiliation into the body’s physical responses. Other people believe that the pain and humiliation experienced during childhood spankings will make it less likely that spanking could be pleasurable later on in life. We think it probably goes both ways – we’ve met plenty of people that love spanking even though they were never spanked as children, and have met folks who can pinpoint the moment in their childhood where spanking became an exciting fantasy. We are firmly against spanking children, by the way, and think erotic spanking has nothing to do with the physical discipline of children. But if you were spanked as a kid,

In this episode of The Art of Erotic Spanking, we share how to make your erotic spanking fantasies part of your sexual reality.

First, we show you how to examine your fantasies to figure out exactly what kind of erotic spanking you want to experience. Then we take you step by step through the process of naming your specific desires for erotic spanking: do you want to feel like a naughty little girl who deserves a spanking? Or a goddess being worshipped? Do you want your lover to be rough and dominant, or loving and tender?

Discover the power of creating a specific erotic spanking game with your lover. With attention to the specifics of the erotic experience you want to create, you can determine the Goals, Roles and Rules of your erotic game. We share how this formula helps you get the sexual experience you crave while minimizing risks and misunderstanding!

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The top 10 reasons people love erotic spanking. To master the skills of erotic spanking, check out The Pleasure Mechanics Guide to Erotic Spanking.