The Citizen Twelve Podcast
By Paige R. Hulsey
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Recovery of, rather than denial of self. Bringing you our accessible Citizen Twelve Steps to self-determination, inspired by the Twelve Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous but for ANYONE - no alcoholism or any other condition required. Join us for a conversation without pretense. Our aim is to support you in navigating your own path, hearing and abiding by your conscience. We're interested in uncovering and exploring what works and what's empowering - the real, practical stuff.
||ExplicitSobriety and Abstinence||Nuanced refrain – Personal variation in what it is to be sober and in what sequence Desirability of abstinence – inherent and tacit Host: Paige R. Hulsey Real Rent: https://www.realrentduwamish.org Link to our steps: http://www.c12pod.||12/7/2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||ExplicitAmending VII||Q&A conclusion to this miniseries! The beginning, middle and not end of amending. What about when a direct amend isn’t appropriate (or possible)? What about when the person I’ve harmed has also harmed me? Do I have to do whatever they say about ‘m||11/23/2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||ExplicitAmending VI||Miniseries! The beginning, middle and not end of amending. Staying amended Loose ends and anxiety Why amending doesn’t end – step ten Host | Paige R. Hulsey Recovery Patterns of Codependence: http://coda.org/index.||11/9/2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||ExplicitAmending V||Miniseries! The beginning, middle and not end of amending. More on making the approach The talk Host: Paige R. Hulsey Real Rent: https://www.realrentduwamish.org Link to our steps: http://www.c12pod.com Music from Elijah: www.instagram.||11/2/2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||ExplicitAmending IV||Miniseries! The beginning, middle and not end of amending. Methods of preparation – the letter, the card The approach Host: Paige R. Hulsey Real Rent: https://www.realrentduwamish.org Link to our steps: http://www.c12pod.com Music from Elijah: www.||10/26/2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||ExplicitAmending III||Miniseries! The beginning, middle and not end of amending. Why is amending so scary? Facing consequences in direct opposition to getting away with something and dealing with that picture we get in our minds Why does amending feel so weird?||10/19/2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||ExplicitAmending II||Miniseries! The beginning, middle and not end of amending. Why even do this part of the work? Being our ideals Restoration, reintegration Host: Paige R. Hulsey Real Rent: https://www.realrentduwamish.org Link to our steps: http://www.c12pod.||10/12/2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||ExplicitAmending||Miniseries! The beginning, middle and not end of amending. Empowering context for self-reflection: freckles not cancer What the list is: I did the wrong thing and was harm caused. What the list isn’t: people whose feelings I hurt or people I didn’t||10/5/2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||ExplicitLying II||When we’ve lied – false equivalencies, a meditation to support staying lightly attached, the perils of desensitization, isolation, and defensiveness General traps and pitfalls – being discerning versus judgemental, or uncommunicative versus pruden||9/28/2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||ExplicitLying||Different types of lies – outright, lies of omission, lies to self (delusion), and dishonest behaviors Hidden harms of lying – stress, exhaustion, loneliness, pain, delay of growth, distorted relationship with self and others,||9/21/2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||ExplicitInjurious Behaviours II||Risks of ignoring the reality of harm Reasons harm is ignored or denied, including, ‘if I’m hurt, there’s something wrong with me’ and ‘if I caused harm, I’ll have to amend it’. Note: In this recording we say the show will be about lying (||9/14/2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||ExplicitInjurious Behaviours||Why it’s useful to address behaviours rather than character defects Fear as motive for behaviour The (disproportionate) fear cycle Fear motivated habits Barriers to new ways of being Why it’s the actions that count Complexity around damage Note: We||9/7/2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||ExplicitPrayer II||Unpacking common prayers: The Serenity Prayer The Lord’s Prayer The Saint Francis Prayer The Set Aside Prayer Emily’s childhood prayer I love you, I trust you, I smile God, please direct my attention to something useful Host: Paige R.||8/31/2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||ExplicitPrayer||The following common questions – ‘Don’t I need to know what I’m praying to?’, ‘Why am I embarrassed about praying?’, ‘What about when I get bored with praying?’, ‘I pray but it isn’t working, what’s the deal?||8/24/2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||ExplicitMeditation II||Three common pitfalls around meditation: Trap # 1: Rigidity Trap # 2: Feeling bad about how we meditate! Trap # 3: Complex consequences Host: Paige R. Hulsey | Cohost: Emily R. Bogen Real Rent: https://www.realrentduwamish.||8/17/2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||ExplicitMeditation||Common Contexts Incomplete Conceptions Rigidity and perfectionism Focus is on the the sitting It has to be the same every day, day after day, forever Our Additions Gentleness It’s all about when we’re not sitting Whatever it takes to make sure there||8/10/2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||ExplicitChoices and Decisions II||Five common decision making pitfalls or traps: Trap # 1: (Disproportionate) aversion to discomfort Trap # 2: Outsized attachment Trap # 3: Habit Trap # 4: Confusion Trap # 5: That pesky pendulum – extreme dualism Host: Paige R.||8/3/2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||ExplicitChoices and Decisions||How making choices goes hand in hand with practicing the third step, “Surrender how we live to what we trust to guide us” Barriers to responsible choosing – both internal and external Emily discusses how she has found balance regarding diet and ea||7/27/2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||ExplicitPower and Autonomy II||“I did my best” and other excuses How protecting my innocence backfires Victim as a way of being versus having been victimized The gift of acknowledgment Timing Responsibility as access to new opportunities for action Overshooting and overcompensati||7/20/2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||ExplicitPower and Autonomy||How being humble is not necessarily the same as being submissive, compliant, or humiliated; how pressure from others alters how we hear our conscience; cussing; some ways we navigate external pressures; when talking about people is not gossiping; the m.||7/13/2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||ExplicitInventory II||We unpack the term ‘spiritual’ Differentiate being from feeling Differentiate doing bad things from being bad people More notes on how critical words are but not as critical as our position Responsibility, responsibility, responsibility,||7/6/2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||ExplicitEmpowering Inventory?||How taking, ‘searching and fearless moral inventory of our errors’ can be empowering access to: Sidestepping our egos to find clarity around our beliefs and ‘buttons’ Getting comfortable with telling the truth about ourselves to ourselves (defyi||6/29/2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||ExplicitFeelings II||CW: We mention non-consensual sexual contact. We clarify and dig more deeply into some of the topics in Episode 003. We discuss being ourselves and being transparent as a part of practicing honesty. We also talk about anxiety as a signal of “loose end||6/22/2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||ExplicitOur Relationship to Feelings||CW: We mention non-consensual sexual contact. Feeling hurt and even more about what it’s like to have tried not to feel hurt. We discuss some of the effects of feelings unfelt on ourselves and our relationships.||6/22/2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||ExplicitSurrender II||We’re talking third step again – “Surrender how we live to what we trust to guide us.” In this episode we clarify and dig more deeply into some of the topics in Episode 001. We address questions including, “How does it work when I pick and cho||6/22/2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||ExplicitSurrender and Control||We’re talking third step – “Surrender how we live to what we trust to guide us.” We discuss what we find ourselves unintentionally surrendering to, costs of unintentional surrender, third step practices, common hang-ups and pitfalls,||6/22/2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||ExplicitEpisode Zero: Start Here||Join us for a conversation about spirituality without pretense. Our aim is to support you in navigating your own path, hearing and abiding by your conscience. We’re interested in uncovering and exploring what works and what’s empowering – the real||6/21/2018||Free||View in iTunes|
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Thank you for being so open and honest. I believe this work will help so many people. Your perspectives and learnings have really impacted me in a positive way. Keep up the good work you are doing here! I am excited to keep tuning in.
Listening to this I hear the voices of gentle self reflection and strong intention to lead lives guided by spiritual principles. Paige and Emily are showing us a way to find that spiritual source that is unique to each individual. They invite us to join the journey to explore ways to live in alignment with our core values and beliefs. In sharing their experiences they are creating a safe community for all to grow. Thank you.
Learning to trust
Each episode is better than the last, #7 being my favorite!
Paige and Emily invite us to join them in the quest to be able to “hear” one’s conscience, and then lead a more admirable life, through an “easy access” tried-and-true 12 step program they have modified based on their experiences and personal successes. I’ve learned several things listening. Thank you working hard and striving to help others.