The Waiting Room with Libby Oellerich
By Libby Oellerich
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A series featuring people just like you - from all walks of life, who've taken their turn with patience. Take a seat. Take heart. Welcome to "The Waiting Room."
||CleanE08: Choosing Ourselves in the Wait||And just like that I'm ending this season of The Waiting Room podcast with a final episode. I felt my next guest's perspective encompasses everything this series is all about. One of my mentors, Dr. Sybril Brown enlightens us about the burden we feel in the waiting that comes from wanting to be in a place we’re not. From the moment we are old enough to dream of our future and place expectations on what we “thought” our life would hold, waiting begins to test our faith. Throughout the year-long process of production I’ve found comfort in remembering that none of us wait alone. Waiting doesn’t have to be viewed as a limitation. It doesn't have to be our permission to coast through life and shortcut the challenges. Preparing interviews, figuring out the platform to share them, taking a pause so I could live to understand a deeper meaning of the series, then final editing from start to finish was quite the journey. Sharing a new episode with you each week (despite hearing them more than 20+ times) has been surreal. While therapeutic and purposeful, the release of each story has also felt uncomfortably heavy, bringing emotions to surface that are necessary to growth and acceptance. Asking guests to tell their stories from a raw place many of us don't like to go took an extra dose of courage and I'm thankful this all came together the way it has. The purpose of my job as a content creator in the music industry, here in this creative pursuit and nature of who I am is to “encourage and provide hope.” God calls us to seek a purpose that molds us into someone other than who we “think we are” and so desire to be. Despite how deep I've gotten with you up until this point, I'm pretty lighthearted 85% of the time. Most of the work I've created has forced me to be kinder to myself in the other 15%. The other night I was talking with a friend about relationships (generically speaking) and the danger of passiveness. Without skipping a beat she said, “The point of relationship(s) is not to become more desirable to catch one.” It was never intended for us to become someone that others and opportunities are drawn to. The intention God had for us from the beginning was to become more like Him so that He could be the one desired by those around us. There are times that while I’m providing help to those who are seeking comfort, I don’t always believe those messages I share for my own life. There are mornings I wake up and my mind becomes consumed with the burden of “what if’s” and “please help me let this go,” and I end up in swirling mode (Episode 1 talks about this if you need a reference. 😉 ). Heck if we’re being honest, earlier this week I hit a few rough patches that led me to ask those questions. It’s been tough at times to dig myself out of that pit of disappointment and keep going. But I do it anyway because each day I have is a limited-time, non-refundable chance to move forward. The point of "eb and flow" is that we will be okay again. I have to believe this because there’s no other choice. There’s no other choice than to wait, invest in the goodness around us and know that no matter what, we must "take a seat, take heart" and choose contentment over and over and over again. Thanks for listening and blessings in whatever season you may be in, Libby||6/24/2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||CleanE07: Elvis Day (Part 2)||A year ago on this Father's Day Sunday, I recorded an interview for a "project" that hadn't quite materialized beyond its' series title. This was the last interview I recorded in 2017 before I picked up the pace on production for "The Waiting Room" in January this past year. I can tell you that during this portion of the conversation with the Millers, I realized that I still had a lot of work to do in trusting God's provision. The entire time I was GLUED to their story, in awe of how their family came together. I've been thinking about the concept of "hope" lately and how God promises to answer our desires even if His version of said 'provision' is much different than we had planned. I grew up in a Christian home and heard everything there is to hear about trusting Jesus, leaning on Him, fixing my eyes on His promises, etc. and I'm thankful for that. But when life brings you the unexpected rough patches, you sometimes question if these phrases stand the test of the wait. Hoping for what we want in life is not easy. And I'll be honest, praying for what I want is even harder than acknowledging hope from the get-go. I begin to think I'm praying for the wrong thing, or that the desires I have are either invalid or unattainable. These lies we tell ourselves about "not getting our hopes up" keeps us from communicating with God and fully trusting that He knows and He cares and He will. E07: Elvis Day (Part 2 to E06) is a story about hoping beyond the disappointment we feel in the process. We reflect on the pain, joy and every emotion in between that waiting brought the Millers in starting a family. Jana describes the process of coping with infertility and the day she and her husband discovered their 8 years of waiting for children led them to provide as foster parents and eventually their own biological child. Before I spoil the rest of this incredible story, Happy Father's Day and be sure to thank and love on your “father” or "father figure" whomever and wherever they may be.||6/17/2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||CleanE06: A Game Built on Hope (Part 1)||Lee and Jana Miller have such an incredible story that I had to split up this conversation into two parts! Lee is an award-winning songwriter with several #1 country singles including “The World” by Brad Paisley, “You’re Gonna Miss This” by Trace Adkins, “Southern Girl” by Tim McGraw and "It Ain't My Fault" by Brothers Osborne. He is fully dedicated to the craft and will amuse you with his dry wit, song lyrics and endless stories about family vacations. His wife Jana is a former nurse practitioner and mother of their four kids. In part 1 we talk about how Lee and Jana met, when they moved to Nashville with only $30 to their name and the waiting season Lee endured to live his dream as a songwriter on Music Row. As a tribute to Father’s Day, Part 2 will go LIVE on June 17, 2018. Photos left to right: Lee and Jana on their wedding day; Next to the same truck they drove away in on their wedding day; Lee and Jana on their anniversary; The Millers and their children||6/10/2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||CleanE05: Personality Tests||This episode features my friend, co-worker and long lost twin, Lindsay Gum. We met while working together at NSAI four years ago when I assisted her with planning a songwriters festival known as Tin Pan South. Lindsay respects a good football game, a properly made grilled cheese, and throwback boy band hits, (we may or may not have blared One Direction on a car ride down I40 at some point in our friendship). 2017 was a growth period for the both of us, and I can vividly remember talking over beers at Melrose about the frustration in not understanding God’s yet to be revealed plan. We both approach and cope with situations in a similar fashion and I’ve found comfort in getting to know Lindsay and learning from her perspective on waiting. Fast forward to today we still work together in the music industry and I’m so happy to call her both a friend in the office and on the weekend. Last summer we hung out in her living room and talked about resisting comparison and following gut instincts. The area of waiting we focus on revolves around dating relationships and what it means to never second guess what you want despite others’ opinions or approach to relationships. Giving ourselves grace is easier said than done and I think it’s so important to surround yourself with those who challenge you to be better and can relate to your story in one aspect or another. Lindsay is one of those friends for me. Photos left to right: at Bastion in Nashville; Tin Pan South 2017; Lindsay with her parents at a Preds game in 2007; Lindsay and Ben||6/3/2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||CleanE04: Waiting Tables||Today you’ll hear from Jamie Floyd, songwriter, artist and overall heart of a person. We met working in the same music industry circle and I’m so thankful we’ve crossed paths. Songwriting and performance has been a part of Jamie’s life since she was a kid. Growing up in Florida, she committed most of her time to music which led her to score record and publishing deals at the young age of 11. Success often comes in waves and that has been the reality for Jamie. She holds a Grammy nomination to her name for “The Blade” recorded by Ashley Monroe along with sync credits to ABC’s Nashville. Most recently she has had 12 songs placed on the soundtrack of Burt Reynolds final film debut, The Last Movie Star. She and her Stranger Friends Band duo partner, John Martin just released the music video for their song,“Yet To Come,” which closes out the final scene of the film. Jamie is a true testament to the journey that most if not all musicians experience before their big break. And she is still waiting for that big break. This interview was recorded last summer when Jamie reached a peak in her career and since then things have unfortunately gone sideways. But despite the changes that have happened since then, she continues to make appearances for The Last Movie Star, write and perform with some of the biggest names in music, and continue on without giving up. She I cannot wait for you hear the promises she’s made to herself about never forgetting why she chose music from the start. We touch on her career as a born to be musician, the setbacks she’s encountered and the powerful reminders that letting go of your purpose is never an option. Photos left to right: Jaime performing at Station Inn for Tin Pan South 2018; with Burt Reynolds at a radio promotion for The Last Movie Star; on set of The Last Movie Star filming; Jamie and John Martin with Burt Reynolds and Ariel Winter; red carpet for The Last Movie Star Premiere; Jamie with her parents; with her father; waiting tables at Rolf & Daughters in the shoot for The Last Songwriter Documentary; on the set of The Last Songwriter Documentary; with NSAI’s Bart Herbison and songwriter Lee Thomas Miller in DC advocating for songwriters’; Jamie performing||5/26/2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||CleanE03: Promises of Tomorrow||This is a special episode for me because I’m featuring a conversation with my parents, Ted and Carla. We recorded our conversation in Nashville over Easter weekend this past April. I am close with my parents. And I am lucky to vouch for this because I realize not everyone has both parents present in their lives or has a strong relationship with them for one reason or another. Growing up, my parents made sure my siblings and I understood the importance of empathy. They taught us that we may not always fully understand another persons' life or situation but that we could certainly show love without expecting anything in return. This upbringing has not made us perfect, but it has helped us deal with trials in a healthy and less victimized way. Upon sitting down with them, I knew I wanted to dig deeper into how they were were individually raised and how that influenced their response to waiting seasons in their lives. Speaking of their childhoods, my parents could have not grown up in more opposite homes. My dad is from a tiny Mayberry-esque town in Southeast Georgia. He comes from a generation of farmers and educators. He played baseball from adolescence into college age and went on to become a dentist with a love for agriculture as well. My mom was an army brat born in Panama and witnessed the series of riots that broke out in the Panama Canal Zone in January 1964, a result of what is now known as Martyr's Day. She is of Spanish/Irish descent and her parents met in Taos, New Mexico, a small art community and mountain town about three hours from Santa Fe. She went on to become a teacher for elementary and middle school age kids while raising her own family. We talk about the hardships they faced growing up and how that has made them more compassionate towards each other. I wanted to know what it’s like to wait with your child to accomplish a dream or when they’re enduring pain as well as waiting for your child to find his or her calling or re-directing their path. Our conversation felt a little bit like family therapy in a good way. This episode opened dialogue to things I hadn’t known about my parents and I enjoyed giving them the opportunity to voice their thoughts on unpredictable blessings they’ve discovered along the way. And if you have the opportunity to sit down with your parents and give them floor to tell their stories, recorded or not recorded, I’d highly recommend it. Photo captions left to right: My dad with his three brothers and father; Dad's family portrait (dad is youngest next to his mom); My mom's family photo taken in Panama (mom is the one with the cat eye glasses); Mom with her younger sister Michelle; Photo from the recording of this podcast; With my parents Easter weekend; With my parents this past Thanksgiving.||5/20/2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||CleanE02: The Canoe and the Pendulum||Meet Nick Burnett and Chris Kinney, friends since childhood and natives of Louisville, Kentucky. I met Nick and Chris through mutual friends and they were early supporters of an entrepreneurial venture I pursued for a couple years. Nick and Chris understand both the difficulties and rewards that come with truly living out the Christian lifestyle in the modern era. While Nick shares stories he has turned to as encouragement for pressing on, Chris offers invaluable metaphors you can keep in your back pocket for moments of self-reflection and counteracting the world’s views of success. We talk about the time Nick waited in a boat for 36 hours in Peru, and how Chris’ career break taught him the importance of self-care and finding contentment outside the workplace. In this episode, we discuss why leaning too heavily on career goals can be detrimental to our health and interactions with others. Our waiting seasons often lead us to check in with our motives for success. Practicing patience ultimately re-centers our hearts to seek identity in the right areas outside our career and achievements. In a world that tells us to "do more to win more," it is often that the struggle reminds us of our lack of control and that our purpose in life is not just about our own journey. This was a fun and insightful interview to record and I hope you enjoy it just as much as I did. Photo captions left to right: Chris and Nick in Peru; Chris Kinney; Nick Burnett; Chris with his mom, sister and fiancé; Nick with his dad and brother in Jackson Hole; Nick in Jackson Hole||5/13/2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||CleanE01: Van Morrison Brings the Healing||The series kicks off with my dear friend Anya McIntosh, one of the first people I met when I moved to Nashville, almost 8 years ago. I was a student at Belmont University and she had just moved here from Kansas City, Missouri. I was recommended through a mutual friend to watch her pets while she traveled for work and since then our friendship has grown. A few things you should know about her - she’s a fiery redhead who will tell you like it is while simultaneously warming your heart with a healthy lighthearted perspective on the good and bad that life hands us. She is one of the most honest people I know. She will encourage you with a pep talk, loving those around her unconditionally or simply showing that she confident in who she is. Anya knows how entertain her friends with hilarious stories, a night out to see an '80s cover band or the perfect charcuterie board and wine pairing. But before I give too much away about her personality, let’s get right to the focus our conversation. When we first met, Anya was going through a divorce. Not knowing her too well at that point, I gathered that she was special person I needed to stay in touch with. She also travels home on a regular basis to care for her father who has been in hospice for quite some time. In the dining area of her kitchen, we discussed how waiting seasons lead us to let go of the expectations we put on our future as well as a variety of affirmations that helped Anya get through tough times. So what exactly does it take to train our mindset when we’re waiting for love or waiting with a loved one whom is suffering? We discuss over a bottle of rosé. Cheers. Photo captions left to right: Anya and I celebrating the weekend; Anya with her dad visiting family in France; Her grandparents, "Papie" and “Mamie" a their country house in France; Anya with her father and brothers in Davis, California; Anya with her parents in Lake Placid; Anya with her dad in Yonkers, NY; Anya and her pets in Nashville, TN; Anya with her best friends in Paris, France; Taking a stroll in Montmartre, Paris, France; Her grandparents, great aunts and uncles in France.||5/6/2018||Free||View in iTunes|
||CleanIntroduction: Take a seat. Take heart.||This is a series featuring people just like you - from all walks of life, who’ve taken their turn with patience.||4/19/2018||Free||View in iTunes|
when I heard Libby was launching this podcast, I wanted to cheer out loud. In a society that tells us that we need to be successful & have our lives together by a certain timeframe, usually 25 or 30; the discussion of ‘the waiting room’ is so so so important. It helps everyone to realize that there’s meaning in every step & every moment. Thanks for launching this podcast! 💕
I am sitting at home, alone at 2am, agreeing out loud with everything you are saying. So true and so relatable. Waiting is hard, but being in the moment, trusting the Lord, and enjoying the ride is what it is all about. Love this. Thanks for this Libs.
The Waiting Room
I am super excited about this project. The first episode has me sitting on the edge of my seat ready for more.