Can This Marriage Be Saved‪?‬ Rabbi Shlomo Slatkin

Cheating stinks. Whether it’s a physical or emotional affair – there’s a lot of trust that now has to be rebuilt if you are going to try and stay together. Working to repair on your own can be challenging and this video can help you start the affair repair process. You’ll want to also consult with a marriage counselor that can help you repair and in the meantime, our counseling post affair video and resources can get you started on the road towards recovery after infidelity.

Affair Recovery Therapy Worksheets Below

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It’s not easy to find a therapist, much less a couples therapist! That’s due to so many factors!

In this episode, we talk about How to Find the Right Couples Therapist in 3 ways so that you can be sure that the effort you make towards getting real marriage help will actually work for you.

Step 1: Research to Find Experienced, License Couples Therapy Experts

Don’t just look for the therapist that is closest to your zip code and is covered by your insurance! Make sure the therapist actually specializes in working with couples and has advanced training in a couples therapeutic modality. Believe it or not, many therapists work with couples and have no advanced certification to do so!

Step 2: Interview Them

Talk with them, research their training in couples therapy (hint: it should be more than one marriage and family class!) and make sure you resonate with them

Step 3: Explore Alternatives to Weekly Marriage Counseling Sessions

Explore alternatives to couples therapy- a marriage intensive, couples workshop, couples therapy retreat – a short, finite amount of time that is an intervention of sorts can sometimes be much more effective than going to counseling for months on end once a week.

🖐️ Find out what we did to fix our own marriage- Download our Free 60 Second Plan to a Happy & Healthy Marriage- what took us many years to figure out, we’ve distilled for you in 60 seconds.

✅ https://themarriagerestorationproject.com/free-guide-60-second-plan-to-a-happy-and-healthy-marriage

🖐️ Come see us at our upcoming marriage intensive retreats, for a quick infusion of foundational marriage principles and actual tools that you can use at home to get through the difficulties that life throws at us!

✅ https://themarriagerestorationproject.com

Your marriage is worth the best help out there- regardless of distance- we are passionate about helping couples get real time help that works no matter what the issues are.

Talk with us about your unique situation and gain the clarity you need to keep going.

✅ https://themarriagerestorationproject.com/book-call

With best wishes for your relationship success!

Shlomo and Rivka Slatkin

Intensive marriage retreats are the fastest way to achieve clarity on your situation and to know if your marriage is salvageable.

Let’s face it- weekly marriage counseling can “stretch” out for months sometimes even years.

You don’t have that amount of time to wait for answers!

Plus, if your spouse is hesitant to working on the marriage, then getting them into one marriage counseling session that may not go well will turn them away from getting help ever again.

Consider an intensive marriage retreat instead of weekly counseling sessions.

It’s like an intervention or an immersive experience of sorts.

Read more about our intensive marriage retreat options here and find one closest to you ASAP.

Private marriage retreats in your area: https://themarriagerestorationproject.com/marriage-intensives

2024-2025 Tropical marriage retreat schedule in the Costa Rica:

https://themarriagerestorationproject.com/find-a-transformational-retreat-for-relationship-healing-calendar-of-events/

Weekend marriage workshops:

Group Marriage Retreats | Imago Weekend Couples Workshops



What should you do next? Listen to this episode if you’re thinking about potentially separating. Are trial separations a good idea? Do trial separations really work? https://youtu.be/G-nyIa8G5ig

Listen to the episode below for insight into healing a relationship when trust is broken.

What if my spouse won’t come to counseling? Whether it’s due to previous failed attempts or your partner is just not interested in working on things in counseling, it’s a challenge to work on a relationship with a partner that is not interested.

Try these 4 ways to get your spouse on board with you to get some professional marriage help.

The four steps include:



* Not making ultimatums – no begging, threatening, etc

* Trying the route of Co-parenting, closure, and possibly conscious uncoupling

* Working on your own stuff

* Trying the 180



All of which we’ve seen work at various stages with different couples. Definitely worth trying!

Therapists often recommend doing a trial separation from each other to see if absence can make the heart grow fonder for couples that are going through a lot of conflict.

But is this recommendation a good idea? Do trial separations really work?

In this podcast episode below, we discuss three reasons why trial separation may not be the best bet for your marriage.

Here’s why trying to heal through separation may backfire.

❌ Distancing from your partner doesn’t really give you the opportunity to do the work you need on the triggers that come up through living with your partner! When you work on your relationship, with IN your relationship, you really get to see to see in real time if things can get better, not through separating to see if things can get better.

❌Once you’ve opened the door and left, you’ve crossed the barrier to leaving. It’s much easier to stay apart once you’ve already got another place to go that might feel a lot more enjoyable than it is to currently live with your partner.

We’ve seen many couples come very close to reconciliation and the decision to mend the marriage only to get cold feet because they had a place to come back to.

❌ Self focused personal growth can often be self-ish. People need space but when the focus becomes all about “what I need” and “what’s best for me”, “my life”, “my goals” – The odds of reconciliation are much harder after the trial separation after that kind of time being spent alone.

✅ Real self growth is actually becoming more accepting of others, even when feeling like a partner may not be as developed as you are- becoming curious rather than feeling judgmental, like they are holding you back.

✅ The relationship work is the hard stuff! Self growth work can be very pleasurable as opposed to dealing with a spouse who is pushing your buttons, within your own home, that’s annoying and hard, but that’s the REAL work. If you can become introspective enough about why your spouse bothers you so much, you’ll realize how much childhood baggage you are bringing into your relationship and accomplish much more than a trial separation can give you.

✅ The marriage work to save your marriage doesn’t need to be long and arduous.

We offer short term intensive marriage retreats that are as short as two days to begin giving you the clarity you need about whether or not you should stay together.

✅ https://themarriagerestorationproject.com/marriage-intensives

🖐️ Find out what we did to fix our own marriage- Download our Free 60 Second Plan to a Happy & Healthy Marriage- what took us many years to figure out, we’ve distilled for you in 60 seconds.

✅ https://themarriagerestorationproject.com/free-guide-60-second-plan-to-a-happy-and-healthy-marriage/

🖐️ Come see us at our upcoming marriage intensive retreats, for a quick infusion of foundational marriage principles and actual tools that you can use at home to get through the difficulties that life throws at us!

✅ https://themarriagerestorationproject.com/imago-weekend-marriage-workshops

With best wishes for your relationship success!

Shlomo and Rivka Slatkin